I have two children who are a girl 9 and son 6. I was in the kitchen cooking dinner and noticed that they were very quiet. I walked into my daughters room and my son looked as if he was kissing my daughter. Freaked me smooth out. I asked him what was he doing and he said sissy told me to do it. Pleas serious answers ...how do i handle this situation
2006-11-30 11:06:58 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I would tell you to consult a psychiatrist .. s/he would really help..
2006-11-30 11:12:53 · answer #1 · answered by ajouja 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know I would freak out too expect for my experience. Kids see more things on t.v. Teenagers make out in public. Kids are curious cause they don't know what all the fuss is about. My daughter had two 2 expereinces with boys her age before she was 4 years old. With 2 different boys. No one was tramatized and the kids didn't know what they were doing. None of them were molested or anything previously that we knew of. It is just a curious thing. My daughter is now 7 and knows that is not appropraite. But I had to help her develop that concious. At 9, I would be more worried though. But don't freak yet, maybe it is just curiousity. That is more common know a days. Also if you freak out, they may not feel they can come to you if something really bad does happen. Handle it camly and seriously.
2006-11-30 11:11:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is usually common among siblings of younger ages, but your daughter is pretty old and should know better by now. However, maybe she is still curious. You need to find out if she is forcing him (abuse) and if anything else has happened (like inappropriate touching). You have to be very cautious how you approach this subject because you don't want the two of them to clam up and not tell you anything out of fear they will be punished. I think punishment is a bad idea, and you need to open the door to communciate about this. Talk with them separately and then talk to them together or as a whole family with your partner. Kissing is normal curious stuff and can be deal with a lot easier than if there is a bit more going on. There are good books and resources on the web for talking to your kids about sex, appropriate touch, showing affection and the difference between affection with family and affection with others. Good luck :)
2006-11-30 13:31:25 · answer #3 · answered by foxienish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to say this is normal, but it's more common than you might think. The best start to this problem would be to sit down with your daughter and ask her what she's up to. Explain to her that you understand she's curious about kissing, but that she can't kiss her brother! She's 9, she should understand. Approach this in a gentle way and no matter what she tells you, don't raise your voice or get mad at her, she'll be more receptive this way. After you talk to her, talk to you son seperatly. Base your conclusions and your resolutions on what each of them tell you.
2006-11-30 11:14:00 · answer #4 · answered by apikailaa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I don't believe it to be a big problem nor are you the first to run into this so don't feel bad. I would explain to the girl (cause she's older) about how you're brother and sister and that kind of behavior is not acceptable. Not sure how to approach the younger one as he may not even be aware of what he's doing in the first place. Sorry if I'm not much help. Good luck and I'm sure everything will be just fine!
2006-11-30 11:10:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT OVER-REACT. Talk about it with each of them casually and openly. If you react negatively from the get-go, they will try to hide their curiosity about things like that from now on and/or they will associate their curiosity with guilt. Consider what they see in the media everyday. Of course they're going to wonder what the big thrill is in sexual behavior. Calmly let them know where the boundaries are and establish that it is OK to ask about those things. The atmosphere you establish now will effect your relationship with them when they are teenagers.
Oh, and -- don't palm them off on a counsellor or some other professional. Show them you are to be trusted and looked up to.
2006-11-30 11:21:08 · answer #6 · answered by bikerpjb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At that age, I'd guess they were curious about kissing and trying to satisfy their curiousity. This is very common. It's also common for siblings of the opposite sex to learn about the differences by looking at each other. How you handle it is: most important, remain calm. Invite them to ask you questions. Be willing to provide them with accurate, educational answers (withhold details about your personal sex life.) Then educate them about respect and privacy.
2006-11-30 11:12:44 · answer #7 · answered by robertspraguejr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats wierd that the girl was 9 and the boy was 6... but maybe they like each other like family... or maybe they were playing a game. what ever happened just talk to the kids i think they're old enough 2 understand what ur saying and not do it again.
2006-11-30 11:18:08 · answer #8 · answered by YO MAMMA! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's to handle? Talk to your kids. Tell them your views on kissing in the family and what other people they can kiss and what you think about all this. Keep out any adult connotation, as they are innocent minds.
2006-11-30 11:10:25 · answer #9 · answered by folklore 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a four year old son and a six year old daughter i have found them doing the same thing. i sat them down and aksed were they learned that .once you find that out you work from there, mine said tv so now i watch closer to what they are watching .
2006-11-30 11:12:54 · answer #10 · answered by AMY W 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, their Kids so I wouldnt get to scared, their probalby just courious but I would let both of them know that they are brother & sister and that this behavior is not apporiate
2006-11-30 11:10:11 · answer #11 · answered by ACV 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋