okay i live with my mom i'm 19 i dont have a regular job but my mom at times drives me up a wall all around it to the point i want to bang my head into a wall...the little work i do, do is baby sit my niece during the week...and so at night i want to go out and do stuff well half to most of the time i cant bc the only car we have is my moms car and she doesnt want me to use her car to go visit my boyfriend that lives about 45 minutes away from me...its little stuff like that, that adds up...i'm tired of being under her thumb so to speak...i want to be able to do what i want to do when i want to do it...but not having a full time job makes it harder...well my boyfriend has his own company and offered me a job driving his dad around to sell the merchandise but i dont have a car to drive his dad around in...so he said i could use his car when he gets it registered...so i'm debating on just moving in with him for a while till i find my own place...so i'm not sure...what do you guys think?
2006-11-30 11:02:24 · 13 answers · asked by ali 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No frist get a decent job the worst thing to do is live with your boyfriend
2006-11-30 11:06:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being selfish.Your mother is only doing what is in everyone's best interest. It's not your car, it belongs to your mom so if she wants it to stay in the driveway, then so be it. If your bf has his own business and has a car that he has yet to get registered, obviously things aren’t going too well for him. You've reached the point of adulthood. You should have a full time job and be living on your own if you're not in school. My advice would be to get in school. If you choose to continue down the path you are on, you will always be oppressed by someone be it your bf or your mother. It’s time to be a woman and own up to your responsibility as an adult. GET IN SCHOOL AND GET A JOB! There are plenty of grants and loans out there to help out so don’t let cost be an excuse.
2006-12-03 09:11:36 · answer #2 · answered by Ed A 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I see where your coming from i went through the same thing now i have a car im going back to school yes im struggling on getting a job but im getting my life together. Life isn't eaisy
But u got to put some faith in your self
That u will exceed your goals n have a good paying job for now n maybe go back to school if u want do what makes u happy
2014-10-24 05:03:16 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay young lady, if at 19 you are still living under your mother's roof, cannot support yourself, and feel that you can't abide by her rules, then you need to be out on your own. Why aren't you trying to further your education instead of thinking living with your boyfriend? How much do you respect yourself? You should really be grateful that your mother allows you to continue to live under her roof, and support you, babysitting money doesn't pay many bills! You need to either continue your education, get a full time job, or just grow up and appreciate your mother for the strong woman she is.
2006-11-30 19:44:09 · answer #4 · answered by a_tiz_2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
o.K. Let's start this way....where you do see yourself in 5 yrs? What type of job--Burger King or better? Do you want to be at the mercy of a mother/boyfriend whoever? Do you want to be self-sufficient- to have many opportunities and options in your future? Do you want to earn some money with an o.k. job- or work hard and get somewhere and grow? Right now you are at a place in your life of beginning----You Make It Happen! And if YOU Don't---then you aren't going to get anywhere. You're complaining about your mother now, but what about a boss who may be very demanding and yells. If you think your mother is driving you crasy, wait- a future boss could be worse.! Stay in school, get a good education and make your future happen instead of just settlely for something.
2006-11-30 19:15:19 · answer #5 · answered by regwoman123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moving in with your man can cause problems and sure it seems like the easy way out if that's what you want to do then go ahead and go for it but if you think that it's not gonna last then don't waste your time. get a better job and then get a place then save money to get a car. don't get a car first there's always the bus you can take to school
2006-11-30 19:09:48 · answer #6 · answered by ♥i LuV mY nEw HuBbY LEO♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK Move out for 3reasons
1. your own sanity
2. your moms sanity
3 to keep a good relationship with your mom
In my house my kids know once they reach 18 they need to go to college or move out and support themselves because if I have done my job right they should be able to live on their own. I know this will not win the best answer but you are a grown up now, you need to act like one, which entails getting a job and living on your own. How do you afford to go out at night if you dont have a job?
2006-11-30 19:08:43 · answer #7 · answered by itsgood2b_king 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ms; you really need to think before you leap. What happens if you move in with him then break up ? You then have no income or place to live. Get your own job help your mother and save up enough money to support you for 6 months and then decide what you want. Quick decessions are often made for all the wrong reasons and seldom work out as you hoped.
2006-11-30 19:08:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not going to school there is NO reason you shouldn't have a full time job. if you have a full time job you should be able to find a 2 bedroom apartment to split the rent with another roomie. if you haven't been together with your boyfriend very long then that's what I would suggest. If you guys are serious then I would still suggest thinking about moving in with him, you never know.
2006-11-30 19:11:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a real job, save your money, find an apartment where you don't have to follow nobody rules but your own. have your boyfriend visit you. living with a guy at you age is not really cool, if you don't mind being tied down.
2006-11-30 19:36:40 · answer #10 · answered by me-me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋