how do u deal wit a guy that is wit another girl but still feels for u and we jav that connection?

Question

i met him 2 months r so back,he's so nice and so deep it's mindblowing.he writes songs,poetry.he's not gushy ,he's very real.not atall materialistic,isn't shallow,trust me i'm not exactly gorgeous but i adjust.he's with this girl,she's decnt looknig,sweet girl but has n opersonality watsoever,she's nice but no other side,she can't comment on things abt life,she's just there.wen i tlak wit him he'll lb ike oh iwish she was like this,so so so so..i've been gonig thru some bad thing in my life and he holds my hand and hugged me ,was really nice of him..his gf is the jealous type and we were talking once and she was whining abt how i am better suited for him cuz were's both deep and petry writers,blablah..she is very insecure rite now,and she has given him head,i don't believe she would hav done that than any other motive as to think he would stay wit her,rite now i dunno wat to think,and i'm very lost.plz help me if u can.thank you and i'm sy i can't type too well

Answer 1

I can kind of relate, and if my GF finds this im a dead man. But my GF is kinda like his, in a way. shes super shy, dosent like interaction with other people and dosent like girls who like me... lol. If i were him, and trust me there was a girl I was very close friends with who could have taken me away and I wonde now how it would have been... But because im such a down to earth, nice, got nothing agenst anyone kinda guy me and my GF have been toghether for 3years with 3 breakups, rough ones. Its better to go for it now, before she gets more attached and awair of your fealings, and his. Just make sure you go about it with a leveld head, dont hurt yourself in the prosses, if you go for it go head strond and without a dout. He will try to put off a definite dissision for as long as possable, she will pull as hard s possabel. Think of it like hes on a bridge over lava, he knows its safe the other way so its easer to turn around. Its a stand alone battle, her liking for him and his confusion agenst your love. Its up to you and only you wether to do this, and if your thinking to yourself, "Would you have loved that other girl more?", I would tell you that the love would be different, I dont feal degrees of love but types and there personal depths. I hope this helps you a little and I do wish that I had an alternate life, somtimes, alot of the times... A whole nother life just to spend with her, sadly life dosent work that way, Please be cairfull, dont express your love any less than it is, and dont let others disisions become your responsabilitys. Please give me some feed back some day on how things went.

Answer 2

Whether you are better suited for him or not, it wouldn't be right for you to get involved with him as long as he is involved with someone else. Think about it, lets say you have a boyfriend somewhere down the line, and you have feelings for him, but you don't have everything in common (which isn't always a bad thing), then some chick comes along, whom he has everything in common with. Wouldn't it bother you if he left you for her, or he had an affair with her? I don't think you'd like that, it would bother most people. Try to step outside of yourself and see things from her perspective. I know that isn't what you want to hear, but you should respect their relationship. If you are meant to be with him, then they will eventually break up and it will happen. In the meantime there are plenty of other men out there. Taking someone from someone else would probably result in the same being done to you, somewhere down the line. Just something to think about.

Answer 3

well, i kinda think if ya like and connect wit somebody in any way, then thats good and keep it. Lock it down even, any way you can. Maybe he thinks you are gorgeous. Maybe you and he both need somebody to hold hands and hug. Thats good, keep it if you can. Maybe he needs physical attention. Maybe he kinda likes girls when they do that for him. Maybe he knows there is more to life. Maybe he and she both know life is confusing, painful and mostly isn't exactly what you wish it would be. Whatever you do or don't. When ya go though very very hard things, you can care less about small problems. One small concellation for it I guess.

Answer 4

Apparently she does something for him or he wouldn't be with her. Keep it real here. I'm a published poet and my husband could rhyme if he had to I'm very deep because I'm a poet and my husband is as shallow as a new mud puddle but I love him. Opposites attract dear. move on he's your friend keep it at that or take a chance of losing him and having nothing more than memories. Be strong.

Answer 5

You need to ask yourself these questions.If he is so right for you and not his gf then why isn't he with u?Plus why should u believe everything he says just cuz he's nice and deep as u put it? Plus if he talks about his private moments with his gf then what do u think he is saying about u? There is more questions but my dam phone is ringing...Good luck hon and u can email me anytime.

Answer 6

Well, to be honest with you, if you and he has such a connection and he always complains about his gf then why is he with her and not you? If you are satisfied with the relationship that the three of you are having then that is how you deal with it. But if you feel like you are better suited for him then you need to have that discussion with him to see if he feels the same way.

Answer 7

i bet he will stay with his girl-friend. whatever connection you have & common interest are not good reasons to be a couple. statistically, most enduring relationships are those couples who have opposing personalities. The learning, coping up, compromises & sacrifices of these differences usually bind couples more strongly than any shared ineterests or common personality traits.
only inexperienced ones would think it... Love & life will teach you more than what you normally watch in movies & on the TV.

Answer 8

The entre aint is good witout somethin on the side!!!

Answer 9

This guy is with this other girl so leave them alone...keep out of their relationship.

Answer 10

r u with him to? does he know u know about her? If he really is as nice as he sounds he might decide to be with you one day....