Is this normal?

Question

I have bipolar. I am not yet on meds because after getting diagnosed I had to wait to see a doc to get put on meds. That will happen tommorrow. I got upset over a friend of my husbands being mean to me two days ago. I am still upset and upset at my husband because he never understands my feelings.
This morning I asked him a question and he ignored me so I continued to ask. He turned on the radio and put headphones on to drown me out. I leaned across to turn it down and he shoved me. I slapped him, he slapped me back this went on for a while and then, He wrestled me to the bed pinned me down and ordered me to calm down. I just got more angry and so he got off me and called the police to have me committed. The police didn't commit me but I am so mad at my husband for this. I feel betrayed. He never helps me just makes me worse.
He should be coming to see the doc tommorrow but I don't want him to now cause I don't trust him. Is this typical bipolar I behaviour? No cruel answers please

Answer 1

One who does not have Bipolar does not understand. The worst thing the can do is pick when they know u dont like it or do just what ur husband did. HE fueled the fire. Go to the Doctor and definately take the prescription. If ur husband is like that on a regular basis, go without him. Get some material from ur Doc and give it to ur husband. Let ur Doctor know how hubby reacts to u. Ur Doctor can schedule another appointment with BOTH of u. He may just set 'sweetie' straight. My doc did.


Oh, one without bipolar may get a little upset and tekk one to shut up. One with bipolar may react different - like rip the other persons head off. THings seem alot worse to us. We can turn into ticking time bombs- it's ok. Listen to the Doctor.
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Answer 2

Well first of all... he should have never put his hands on you. And from personal experience, yes it can be typical bipolar behavior. It all depends on the person. It is not always easy for the people in our lives to accept problems they don't understand. My mother had a very hard time dealing with me even after I was put on medication. She tried coping but even I couldn't explain some of the things I did or why I was feeling the way I felt which made it extremely difficult for her to know how to help me. I've been hospitalized 3 times, 2 of those times were voluntary. If your husband wants to go with you to the doctor I would let him. I know that you are angry with him but maybe the doctor could help him try to understand some of the emotions you are going through and how he can help you deal with them without getting physical. My only other suggestion is that if he ever lays a hand on you again, leave him. Good luck and remember that you might have to try a few different medications before you find the right one that works for you and once you start taking them, keep taking them even on days that you feel "fine". Good luck.

Answer 3

You may be bi-polar however, your problem as described above is "communication" - both you and your husband are not communicating in a way that is productive or healthy for the relationship. Seeing a couples therapist will give you both the opportunity to explore your feelings, the relationship and how both you and your husband can improve the communication with each other. Right now your both acting out and neither is getting their needs met or being understood. Good luck.

Answer 4

With the exception of him slapping you and holding you down, yeah.

Hang in there, realize that medication for bi-polar disorders work well, and that people who aren't bi-polar often times can't relate. If his attempt at committing you was to help you with your illness, he probably thought he was doing the right thing, and given the fact that you hit him, maybe at that time you needed a little help getting your emotions in check. If he did it to be mean, that's a different story. Only you can answer that part.

My wife struggles with this, medication keeps it under control, and we lead a normal life.

Without meds, however, it used to get a little shaky at times.

However, bi-polar or not, hitting and slapping is wrong, no matter how angry you guys get. Bi-polar disorder is not an excuse for violence, and neither is the old "but she hit me first" crap. That part you both need to address.

Good Luck!

Answer 5

I am so sorry for all your troubles. Sometimes when we are in a tough relationship we get depressed and angry. It sounds like your husband is being very inconsiderate. I suggest you go to see the doc by yourself but I would consider marriage counseling as well. I hope everything goes well tomorrow.

Answer 6

I work with special ed kids...and its noticible behavior in adults too....its ok to be mad....and upset, its not ok if it controls your life. Step back and relax, it maybe your bipolar disorder, but none the less you should learn to cope with it. Take some time off and think how can you improve your situation instead of fighting or getting mad.

Answer 7

In away it it a bit of a bi-polar disorder but not neccacerally. You're probably just nervous about the fact that you just found out what you've been diagnosed with. Plus sense your lame husband isn't giving you the respect and attention you need at a time like this , you could also be filled with rage b/c you're mad at him. but don't worry about. alright. it will be ok. Just take one day at a time. And maybe to relax yourself try some yoga, or when your mad go running! it helps. :) believe me! :)

Answer 8

i'm not liking the sound of this husband at all!
the type of person who would drive me insane.
if i get married and had this type of a husband, im sure i'd simply shoot him dead instead of slapping!
you don't need someone like that, i bet he's done so much more horrid things than this!
kick *him* out of the house for several days, even if it is his house. you need your respect.
then go see the doc by yourself, also explain this to him aswell.
good luck!
xxxx

Answer 9

Get a second opinion. Your reaction is right to your husband and quite normal. Your husband should never shove or ignore you. It sounds like you are just fine- don't take any meds without a second or third opinion.

You may just be over emotional b/c of the relationship with your spouse.......you may be perfectly fine.

Answer 10

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