I've just gone through a breakup due to long distance. What can I do now that I don't have a man to hold me tight and tell me everything is alright?
2006-11-30 10:16:18 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Imagine? And use the rabbit sparingly.
2006-11-30 10:38:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really feel as though your life depends on whether you have a Man in it to tell you everything will be alright, now is probably the best time to get to know yourself better & perhaps try to find out why you only feel fulfilled when you have a Guy around.
I must admit if I were a Guy I'd find your question slightly insulting. If I was a Guy that was actually invoved in your life then I'd also feel slightly insulted as I would want to know if you wanted me for me or because I just happen to fill an empty slot. (for want of a better phase) no pun intended. lol
2006-11-30 11:07:26 · answer #2 · answered by Funky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't been through a breakup but am in a long distance relationship for half the year (he went to uni, I didn't!).
It's tough when you really need a hug and I must admit I find myself hugging the pillow on occasion and wishing he hadn't sodded off, and to be honest I can't think of anything I've done in the last 3 years which gave me a guaranteed quick fix.
This is what I've tried, they've all worked sometimes but not always...
-eating chocolate (or your favourite snack),
-doing logic puzzles (sad I know but takes your mind off everything else!),
-watching films (my DVD collection has increased 10-fold since he went),
-and occasionally just dancing around in my room toa good dance tune.
Hope one of those is helpful.
It's also good to have decent friends around you (which I don't most of the time!) and if you have a close bloke mate (I have got one of those!) he can step in for hugs as long as he knows where he stands!
2006-11-30 10:23:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one thing that always makes me feel better when I don't have a boyfriend is spending time with my best friends that are s. We have what we call a 'boybashing night'. All of my friends come over to my house and we go in the hot tub, give facials, due manicures and pedicures, and y stuff to make us forget all about boys for the night. We watch a bunch of movies and talk about how much better off we are without men. If that doesn't fill the hole that your boyfriend left, at least you will have a great time with the people that DO love you, and thats what matters.
2006-11-30 10:22:11 · answer #4 · answered by prettynpink0491 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I can tell you ~what~ to do from experience...don't go running to another man's arms just to feel better. This is a ~really~ good time for you to focus on you and find all kinds of comfort in your own company. Nothing makes a woman stronger than knowing how to live without a man. And what's better yet - is when you finally DO find that man that will always be there to hold you....he'll love you even more because you're not with because you HAVE to be...you're with him because you WANT to be.
It'll work out..just hang in there. :)
2006-11-30 10:19:02 · answer #5 · answered by razor_sharp_redhead 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First so feel sorry for yourself and go out and have fun or do something to take you mind off of the breakup. The only thing I can say is he was not the man for u.
2006-11-30 10:20:51 · answer #6 · answered by Shay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try not to overvalue the presence of a man. I can tell you that sometimes men are good, sometimes they are bad, sometimes they are going to hold you and tell you that everything is ok, sometimes they will let go all of their anger on you cause they cant do so at their boss at work, and you happen to be the best scape goat they can get. Sometimes they will be there for you, sometimes you will be there for him, sometimes you will both be so worried about yourselves that you wont care for each other.
So in some aspects you are better with a man, on others you can do many things in order to enjoy yourself on your own.
We tend to idealize relationships when we are having none :-( but on reality there are good and bad aspects on both sides of the coin, no one can deny that.
2006-11-30 10:23:49 · answer #7 · answered by Graça 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really sure whether you have moved or he has moved or whether it was a long distant relationship to begin with. However needing someone to hold you when a relationship ends is quite normal. AS to whether things will be alright you'll have to give yourself space and time. Best of luck
2006-11-30 10:49:07 · answer #8 · answered by justinoc1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are going through separation anxiety. It will get easier as time goes by. In the mean time, enjoy being single! Have a girls' night. Go out, get drunk, and maybe even dress like a hoochie. Get guys to buy you drinks and then be like, "See ya!" Also you could get a a new pet, something cuddly, like a cat or a dog.
2006-11-30 10:25:08 · answer #9 · answered by cyanide_kisses81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang out with friends, stay busy. No offense but a man is not going to make everything alright. Sorry to hear about your break-up
2006-11-30 10:18:53 · answer #10 · answered by amber 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get up and get moving. Cherish time with friends and family instead. Don't lose your self-confidence over a broken relationship. Usually it's mutual when it comes to whose fault at the end. Pick up hobbies that let you engross in it with your mind. Enjoy your time alone doing the things you like to do.
2006-11-30 10:20:00 · answer #11 · answered by bansri47 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋