phychiatrist please.....i can't afford a phyciatrist so if you can help me here that would be great....?

Question

i can't help but think i have something wrong with me.....i'm thirteen and my life is a total mess! i can't live this way.....i don't have suicidal thoughts but don't want to live sad and feeling lonely all the time....what can i do.....i don't have fun anymore.....my family gives me sayings like don't worry and take it easy......i can't help but to cry wen they tell me these things.....i don't know why either.........i NEED help but i don't have the time or the right money for a phyciatrist and my mom can't handle hearing me talk to her.....she can't help.....it seems like noyone can........anything from prayers, to remedies, or answers......really, all i want are answers.....anything to calm me down wen i get upset.... something subtle though. thank you........so much.....

Answer 1

i dont know either sweetheart, i wish i gave up years ago

Answer 2

OK, you can get free help. There are mental health clinics that will assess your finances and give you the help you need.
Buy some Kalms, they are natural and will not harm you. They will just calm you down and they are mild. Any drug store will sell them.
Also think about what you have enjoyed before. Go for a walk somewhere peaceful and enjoy the scenery. Watch a good movie. Join a club where you can meet like minded people.
Write down how you feel and then let go of it.
Ask your family if depression is something that other family members have suffered with.
Also try Jesus. He is real. Acknowledge that He is God and the son of God and that He died so that you could be free from the effects of sin that entered into the world when Adam and Eve sinned.
Pray and find a good church. You will meet people there. Jesus will never leave you and He loves you.Whenever all around seems horrible and no-one understands, He will and you can tell Him anything and everything. He will help you to get through the problems.
I hope that this helps you. I will pray for you. God bless you

Answer 3

It sounds like you are really asking for help, your feelings are real and if you can't get the help you need from Mom, where do you go. Thirteen is the hardest age in the world. You are wondering around with harmones, driving urges you never knew you had before. You want to have friends and be accepted. You may think your life is a total mess but believe me for 13 that's normal.
Let's take one problem at a time and if your Mom can't handle it perhaps you will meet someone willing to talk to you. You can go to Teen Challenge, or a teacher or counselor at shout. They will listen. And if you can't get anyone's attention SHOUT, This is your life and you are just starting. Use it for good.

Answer 4

It sounds like you are suffering from depression - it happens to many people, and it sucks. Its particularly hard if you don't have support from friends or family. Depression is often easy to overcome with therapy or medication, and there are some things you can do on your own. Most schools have a counselor or nurse that are trained to help with these things - maybe you could start there by dropping in at lunch time. For me, I found that strenuous exercise and keeping very busy in organized groups helps, but it took a few weeks of antidepressants to really return to normal. There may be some county or city health clinics in your area that are free - check the yellow pages - You need to see a doctor. Maybe you could show this page to other people in your family after you get a few responses, and then maybe they will realize that you need help.

Answer 5

First, you don't need a psychitrist. Only people with major mental illness or those that require medication go to one of those. People with life issues that need to talk to someone go to a counselor (family, marriage, etc.).

You are 13, your body is raging with hormones that are making your moods go up and down. You need to do the following; eat healthy, get plenty of rest (teens need between 10-13 hours per night), focus on school and extra curricular activities (are you in any?). Do things with friends; volunteer, start a club or be in one.

Learn how to control your own thoughts. First, when you feel you are getting upset, ask yourself --why? Is what you are upset about something important or logical. Or is it not really important at all. You can calm yourself down by slow, deep breathing. At night, take a nice bath with lavender oil to calm yourself. Don't worry honey, once your hormones calm down, so will you.

Answer 6

My dear,

You are in a very change-able time in your life. You are at a social-emotional-physiological-spiritual crossroad. Sometimes you likely want to return to being a little dependent child (who has a lot of fun!), and sometimes you want to be a woman (who seems to have a lot of responsibilities that are scary).

You are NOT having psychiatric problems!

When we 'change' we also grieve the losses.... our childhood, our innocence, a more carefree time, etc... it sounds like you are doing some heavy-duty grieving.

My suggestion is to find someone-- not a psychiatrist-- who will kindly and caringly listen to you talk about what is happening for you (an auntie; school counselor: older sibling; trusted teacher; coach; neighbor). There are also some support groups on the Web that you might find helpful. http://www.advocatesforyouth.org/youth/peered/searchgroups.asp

Healthia Cynthia
Certified Comprehensive Coach
Moderator for the brand-new Yahoo! group
http://ca.groups.yahoo.com/group/My_Monday_Miracles/.

Answer 7

Make a list of every thing in your life that makes you happy. It'll make you focus on the good things, not the bad things! You can look at pictures of calming things, listen to soothing music. Those kinds of things are actually proven to lower your stress level and to help you relax. Take things slow, breathe before you do anything. If you have any friends/aunt or uncle/grandmother, etc, talk to them about how you feel. Chances are they've felt like you're feeling now at least once in their life. Get better! God bless!

Answer 8

First off, I don't think there is any thing wrong with YOU...I think something has happened to you,...and it is eating at you...see, now I think this is how Satan the Devil comes in and destroys people even as young as you..he gives you no hope, no light at the end of the tunnel, nothing for a future...Something or someone has shattered your life and it is leaving you in turmoil...I wish I knew just what it was...but you do...and you aren't saying. ..But listen to this..God loves you so much, and so does Jesus...and you would make Them soo sad, if you weren't here any more...Everyone now adays, just says go to a shrink..and pay for help..but the Lord loves you and all you have to do is have faith, and pray to God, through His Son, Jesus..and it doesn't cost you a thing...surround yourself with kind people..maybe go talk to a school counselor, or nurse...but confide in someone who will listen to you...and always remember this though..that the Lord will answer your prayers if you believe...just give your worries to Jesus...and ask Him to guide you and to forgive those that have hurt you and caused you to feel so sad...Little one, I am praying for you,..and I know others here that read this will also...Little one, always remember, Jesus loves you xoxoxox hugs and kisses little one...xoxoxo

Answer 9

i went throught the EXACT same thing at almost the same age!! i was 11... im 13 now. but the phyciatrist is what helped me bc i got meds there, you cant fix yourself, at least, i couldnt, i was sad ALL the time.. I WILL PRAY FOR YOU, EVERY TIME I PRAY I WILL THINK OF YOU AND PRAY HARD FOR YOU!! bc i know exactly how you feel... i didnt know why i cried when my parents told me that stuff either, i guess it just comes with depression, oh and in case nobody has told you, your suffering from depression.
i hate your mother.
she is one of the people who could help you out SO much during this rough time.
if you ever have suicidal thoughts, tell somebody.
please message me at [e-mail]
please

Answer 10

Start with your school counselor, she will know where you can get free counseling. Since you are a minor, you are also entitled to medicare benefits, this includes mental health. If your mother doesn't have the time or ability to help you, you are going to have to be proactive in finding someone who can. If you don't have a school consular, talk to a teacher, church leader, relative,, who ever it takes.

Answer 11

Talk to your counselor and let them know. There are clinics you might be able to go to. Write down your feelings in a journal it might help for awhile. Are you assuming your mom can't handle listening to you, or has she said it? Sometimes teenagers don't think their parents care. More people care than you think. Hang in there.