I find a lot of times that when you speak to someone who is having troubles in their relationship they tell you one of the things that's changed is the number of times per week they have intercourse with their partner. It's as if the state of the relationship has a direct correlation with the amount of sex, the times of day of sex, the length of sex, or the kind of sex.
Sex,sex,sex,sex,sex.
So why is it that so many people act as if their whole relationship has gone down the crapper when the sex becomes a little less frequent or perhaps not as intense?
What do women think abou this? Talk to me people! Let me hear from all of you out there...
2006-11-30 09:42:03 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sex in a relationship is important, it not how many times or the length its the kind of sex that leaves you breathless and satisfied don't get them confused if there is no physical chemistry in a relationship then all the talking and romancing leads to a huge let down.
2006-11-30 09:50:29 · answer #1 · answered by lara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, I'll agree sex plays a part in any relationship and may be the deciding factor when making the decision whether to stay or go. I honestly think that everyone is different, some people place high values on sexual performance and size of the sexual organ, some place low values on sex. Personally, I think that sex is a process - you can't just jump from one person to another because of performance and or size. I see alot of couples split because of sexual reasons and I honestly think it isn't a permanent problem. If you work towards a better sexual experience you gain satisfaction and a better understanding of your desires and needs. I think that when two partners engage in sex, they must learn how to maturely handle the problems that come with it. If you really love your partner you will fix whatever problems arise in the bedroom. In terms of size, desired amount and intensity; I think it depends on the people that are having sex.
2006-11-30 17:49:21 · answer #2 · answered by Sasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the communication lines are relaxed and the people are mature adults... frequency will just be worked out by the mood your both in at the time. if one senses alot of stress the other has they will know to increase affection or increase desires or diminish the sex and just cuddle.. I think if u follow the mood of the other person closely it could be everyday or once a week or once a month.. I dont think frequency should be judged by time frames but feelings and moods sensing the other partners needs ..sometimes u meet needs ...sometimes u cant..it all depends on how well u communicate with each others sexual desires.
When it is "True Love" it gets better and better ..never boring!!
I think it is very important to please each other....
2006-11-30 17:46:21 · answer #3 · answered by dreamy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is important but not the most important. When having sex with their boyfriends, girls feel safe and very loved or at least I and people I know do. Sex makes a lot of people connected and it actually tends to make people happy. When sex starts slowing down, things seem to change because the one person may either be sick of it or no longer has feelings for the other.
2006-11-30 17:45:45 · answer #4 · answered by tia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has different sex drives, so I think it's important to make sure your significant others matches yours. To me, sex is very important, the glue that holds the relationship together. In rough times, sex can make you feel closer. It is intimate and helps relieve stress. I would not marry a guy who does have similar values on sex in the relationship.
2006-11-30 17:45:38 · answer #5 · answered by schweetums 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually the only people who don't complain about sex are those who have never had it or those who always get it.
We are all sexual beings and if someone who claims to love you wants to have sex with you less frequently or not at all, and there doesn't appear to be a good reason for it, then you have to wonder if they might not be as attracted to you as they used to be, or if they might love you less now.
2006-11-30 17:50:40 · answer #6 · answered by marklemoore 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe it is because if you are not having sex or doing sexual things with someone you are really just friends. you are not with that person for just friendship otherwise you would have just been friends in the first place. the main reason a man and women get together-biologically - is to have children and therefore they need to have sex. if this desire is gone you can start to wonder if you are really right for each other.
2006-11-30 17:48:31 · answer #7 · answered by Rae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex it's an important part of a relationship. And for some reason it matters .... but we're all different. I once went out with a girl who all she was interested in was sex ... it was fun at first but with time it just got old ... and she just pissed me off ...
2006-11-30 17:47:23 · answer #8 · answered by Nick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is important is a relationship yes...... but it isn't EVERYTHING!!!!! Sex is a way to express your feelings with your partner. I guess when you are dating you have alot of sex b/c you are still "new" to each other. Once you get married, you aren't new anymore, it's the same ole thing. Even if you spice things up and change the ways, times, places, it's still the same person and you've already seen them naked. lol I dunno if this helps. I love my hubby very much and enjoy sex with him but our work schedules conflict. So, we get it when we can so to speak..... lol Gosh, that sounded so terrible..........
2006-11-30 17:48:14 · answer #9 · answered by Missledtngirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think sex is one of the important items in a relationship communication is the best thing.anybody whos in a relationship has the wrong idea of love love is about friendship and love not sex
2006-11-30 17:46:36 · answer #10 · answered by michellemadlinger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋