I feel suicidal because of my degree?

Question

i cant take it no more. what am i suppose to do. i explained my problem but it doesn't mean anything to them after a bit. they all forget and pressurise me again and again. i feel like i want to die. i already have 4 long term illnesses like depression, urine incontinence cos of stress, PMS and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder and as if that isnt enough for the past 10 yrs, i have had a mother who has been ill with muscle pain and cant lift, carry and do things in the house so i have thye cooking, cleaning, washing machines, ironing, hoovering, shopping and everything to do and on top all these tutors are killing me by expecting work to be handed in on time. how the hell am i as a 22 yr old going to survive. i have no job for money either. what do they think i am, super human? i feel sooooo ill. i tell them and it only means something when i cry otherwise its not taken seriously enough. why?

Answer 1

Girl, I know exactly how you feel. And really I do. I also am 22 years old with ailing mother, but my father is also sick. I feel like if I don't get my degree in college and get a good job, no one is going to take care of them in the future. It's so much pressure riding on me and it's hard, life gets hard, sometimes you just wanna end it all.
I also suffer from many illnesses, including depression, anxiety, frequent migraines, and bouts of anorexia. It gets hard to handle and you wonder how you're going to get out of it. I know money struggles and I'm sure you can get a job especially since its Christmas season, plenty of places are hiring, and if you do well there, they might make you permanent! Just take some time out for yourself, take a breather, and enjoy life for as much as its worth.
-from someone who cares

Answer 2

If you are caring for your mother then you should be entitled to Carers Allowance. This can be spent on employing a cleaner once a week to give you a hand around the house. It will make a difference!! To receive Carers Allowance log into a DWP government website. They can send you all the relevant forms which will be tedious to fill out, so.... find your local CARERS association, many boroughs have them. They can give you lots of advice and support. Don't bother to try and commit suicide... someone with your determination and courage will find a way through this dark tunnel. The light is there at the end...you just can't see it right now, but it is there, trust me. And don't feel so het up by the degree stuff. Why not put it on hold until you get your domestic situation organised and feel better in yourself?? The world won't stop turning if you wait a while. Don't give up - you have done so well to get so far...

Answer 3

You obviously have medical assistance ot have been diagnosed so go back to your GP and tell them how you feel. If, and it sounds likely, you have depression, it can be treated. Beyond that you need to find ways to deal with your immediate circumstances. Approach Social Services and ask for help with your mum. You can't be expected to do it all alone. They should fund a carer so that you can at least have a break every now and again. As for university, talk to the campus counsellor and explain what is happening in your life, how you are feeling and that you don't feel able to cope with all the pressure. You're not superhuman honey and you're only one person. Ask for help and make sure you approach the right people so that you get things sorted out once and for all. Do you have any other family you can ask for help? Or friends that might give you a break once in a while so that you can study in peace? Good luck and I truly hope you find some solutions x x x

Answer 4

they're only pressurising you because of their ratings, if you fail it reflects badly on them. How much effort you put into your degree is entirely up to you. Clearly you have a lot of other stuff going on but what you have to ask yourself is 'what do I really want out of this?'. Yes you have to do more than a lot of other students your age, but would you really have it any other way? could you leave your mum in the lurch? She would obviously feel guilty if she was the main reason for you dropping out (if you so decided), can you get any social service type help just perhaps a couple of times a week to give you a break?

Hang in there, if you can fight your way through to the end of your degree, it will stand you in better stead for the future, and you'd only have regrets and resentment later if you didn't do as well as you could have

Answer 5

HI

I understand that everything feels against you right now and it is difficult for you to study and care for your mum. Firstly, can you get help at home to care for your mum? Maybe your mum could get a cleaner. Then you need to get care for yourself and address the long term conditions you describe. I am sure you will be able to access at least counselling through your university. And if you speak to your year tutor about the difficulties you are experiencing they may also be able to direct you towards some assistance. If you are struggling so much maybe you could defer your studies and give yourself a chance to get sorted out. I think the most important thing is to get help. If University can't help get in touch with your local council and see what their social services department can do for you. There is help available but you have to ask for it.

Answer 6

Who are you explaining this to who does not listen or remember your problems? Is it your instructors? If so, try talking to them one last time, when you are calm and see if that works. If this does not work, is it possible that you can put school on hold for a time while you are helping your mother? Do you have a father who will listen to you? Maybe he or a sibling could help a little.

Please keep trying until you get someone who will listen and help. I took care of my ill mother for a few years without much help and fell into a very deep depression after she died. I wish I had taken better care of myself during that time. I could have demanded help from my siblings. I would not have NOT taken care of my mother; I loved being a help to her, but I wish I would have handled it differently.

Have you talked to your doctor to see if your medications is working (if you are on medication)?

I wish I could help you in some way. Good luck to you honey.

Answer 7

I think first off you need to get some counseling to deal with the stress of your life. Then, do what you can in the house, leave whatever. Don't sacrafice your school work. That will get you a better future. All of what you described are not life threatening nor serious and can be dealt with. I suggest you see a counselor to discuss what is going on.

Answer 8

Hi I am so sorry you are going through such a terrible time. You are so young. Are you getting any help? Do you have anyone to support you emotionally? Sorry for all the questions - you can't possibly take this all on as you say yourself, as well as being a carer for your mother. Take a deep breath, take a step back for a little while, talk to a friend or therapist. Let me know how you get on.

Answer 9

First start by asking for help with your mum (social services). Ask a doctor to review your meds and make some adjustments so that you feel better. Get a letter from the doctor to give to the uni, they HAVE to take notice of that. Ask them if you can delay part of the degree for a while until you are feeling better. If there is a councellor at the uni, see them, it always helps to talk to someone...;

Answer 10

You need to realise that the way you feel should be the most important thing in the world. Finishing your studies isn't at all important in the grand scheme of things.
Take a sabbatical. Ask about holding on to the credits from your course and consider giving it up. Nothing is worth killing yourself over.
Talk to the head of your course - they'll be understanding.
Talk to your friends and family - they'll be understanding.
If your stuck for anyone else to talk to call the samaritans.

The most important thing is for you to feel happier.