My boyfriend is SXE(doesnt have sex before marrige) and i know im marrying him....weve talked about it alot and what not but anyway....he says he really really really wants to have sex with me and sometimes its hard not to because he knows were getting married anyway....and like he sometimes when we have these talks he tells me that he jacks off alot to me and what not and he gets erections everytime he sees me in anything short or tight but he keeps saying he needs to wait until marrige to prove to himself that he can....but like sometimes he'll start to have sex with me and then stop what do i do? what does this mean?
2006-11-30 09:24:26 · 16 answers · asked by XSkittle_FantasticX 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hes not christian hes an atheist and im Jewish
2006-11-30 09:25:23 · update #1
and i dont mean he actually has intercourse with me but he takes of my clothes and his and he almost does then he stops and says i cant i have to wait....and its not a matter of me wanting to not wait i just want to know what to do
2006-11-30 09:28:48 · update #2
Get a "Do Not Disturb" sign for your door for the honeymoon.
2006-11-30 09:29:14 · answer #1 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before the 70s this was the norm, not the exception. The taboo against premarital sex was in society to protect women. Now society has many single mothers, and usually this is an economic hardship. Since he wants to wait for marriage, he has respect for you and wants to do right by you. I think you should take the same stand as he does. This aspect of the sexual revolution of the 70s has not improved the lot of women in our society.
2006-11-30 09:29:54 · answer #2 · answered by robertspraguejr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's confused. If he's going to wait until you're married...then he needs to WAIT! He shouldn't be tempting you or himself by doing the things he does. You should remind him, before he tries anything, that he's doing a good thing by waiting until marriage. Maybe it'll give him a guilt trip and he'll stop. Also, don't wear provocative clothes around him, he's still human.... he's bound to be aroused.
2006-11-30 09:32:58 · answer #3 · answered by DC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do you do?
1 - decide if you really want to marry him for him or just the sex.
2 - if you are going to marry him for him then quit wearing things that drive him crazy
3 - let him know that masterbation is normal and everyone does it
4 - don't put him in a position that he has to stop.
From what you describe I think you are more interested in getting laid by him than in marring him. You shoujld really think about this before going any further.
2006-11-30 09:30:34 · answer #4 · answered by .... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres not much you can do if they are his beliefs and what he wants to do. but its not really fair practicaly having sex and then stopping, i would expalin this to him and next time you's are gettin carried away take a deep breath and slow things down. when you do marry and finally be together it'l be so special and wonderful i can imagine it'l b like the start of your relationship aall over again and will recapture the magic.
god i wished id waited now. ;-)
2006-11-30 09:29:52 · answer #5 · answered by Caz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just a test of will power for him probably. You might never know but from what you are saying, this guy really respects you and your body to want to wait.
2006-11-30 09:27:33 · answer #6 · answered by lolly679 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just can't decide. Alot of people have the same doubts when there going to have sex, or wether they should wait. It is a decision ya'll should discuss, or re discuss in this case.
2006-11-30 09:30:45 · answer #7 · answered by a h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u gota respect his wishes, the same way you would expect him to respect yours if you were not ready. you would want him to wait for you wouldn't you?
by wanting to wait until after marriage, he wants to show you that his interest is not only in you physically but also in the inner you. you should apreciate what he is doing for, nowadays it is so tough to find a guy who is actually willing to hold it aand wait for marriage. i'm still yet to meet a guy who can resist satisfying themselves.
he sounds like a keeper
2006-11-30 09:34:54 · answer #8 · answered by meirab 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do yuo stop in the middle? he's jsut leading you on. Why don't you just buy a chastidy undee and throw away the key? no not really then you wouldn't be able to sh it nor pee. Just refrain from being alone with him in a room that's all.
2006-11-30 09:28:46 · answer #9 · answered by Ms.Budonkadonk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him, or try to find out what excactly his motivation is. He may have some hidden issues that should be resolved before you wind up with a marriage that does not work.
2006-11-30 09:31:05 · answer #10 · answered by bata4689 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋