Do Any of You Go To Your 10, 20 Year High School Reunions?

Question

If you do go, is it because of curiosity, old friendships that you are in contact with presently, or just for the fun of it.

If you don't go is there a reason why, and if so do you feel you're missing out on something?

Exactly: After 20 years Jenna decides to e-mail me about a reunion. Why didn't she talk to me before or ask how I was doing before the 20 year mark. It's fake, I say. You guys are right on.

Answer 1

I would never go back to a high school reunion. I wasn't popular, the kids teased me and were rude. There is no point in going back to a place where people were pricks. I would love to go back to rub it in their face that I am in the Ph.D program (as living well is my best revenge) but what good would that do? I would waste time, money, and effort to impress a bunch of people I didn't like anyways. If she was fake and didn't care to ask you in 20 years then why would you waste time to spend money on a trip to see a person that hasn't even sent you a christmas card in 20 years?

Answer 2

My ten year high school reunion was this summer. I didn't go. The reasons I didn't go:
1. There were only a few I would have liked to have seen.
2. I felt that everyone would be asking me about my life and I didn't want to answer questions about my life.
3. There were two other events related to the reunion, but one was in a bar and I don't drink and the other was a family picnic and I don't have any kids.
4. I was afraid of what might happen if I ran into my ex from high school-- would I fall in love with him all over again? Would I let my emotions get the better of me and make a mistake?
5. Besides all that, I was working that day.

For one reason only, I wish I had gone. A friend from high school was still in contact with me and called me the next day to tell me what happened. She did say my ex asked a bunch about me, which was disconcerting, but that was not the reason I wish I'd gone. In fact, the reason was this: I learned that a guy who'd shared a bunch of classes with me for years had died. He was the only guy I truly respected from school and the main person I would have liked to have seen. Even though he wouldn't have been there, I would have gotten out of work to go had I known because they made part of the reunion like a memorial and I would have wanted to have been there for him.

I can never go back and take that back, the fact that I didn't go. If it is your reunion coming up, really consider how you would feel if you didn't go and didn't learn what had changed and didn't take the time to laugh, mourn, and share with those you once spent your days with.

Answer 3

When you graduate you kind of get it in your mind that there will be a ten-year reunion. When it comes up it is the first one and seems like a nice idea to go to a nice night out and see people again. You kind of always took it for granted you'd go, and this first reunion somehow seems like a k ind of important event - a once-in-a-lifetime thing you shouldn't miss any more than you missed the prom or the graduation breakfast.

You go. You see that most people are pretty much the same. You may be surprised to see how many are not married and how many still don't have children. (In my class the majority still had no children, and only a small group did.) You hear how many people were killed in car accidents, who died of cancer, and who died of some other rarer thing. A gay person or two has "come out" since graduation. You have your dinner. You leave, knowing you did the reunion thing.

By the time other reunions come around you're more mature. You may figure "If they're my friends I'm still in touch with them. If they're not my friends who cares at this point." You're mature enough that you don't need to show up at reunion to show people how attractive you still are or that you have kids you're really proud of.

Maybe the tenth reunion is a kind of milestone that marks the "official" close of being even remotely tied to the "high school you" and realizing that high-school was "so then", and this is "so not then".

A lot of people build up a lot of emotional issues in high school and bring them with them a few years (sometimes more years) into the post-high-school life. The ten years after graduating gives some people some time to get past any of the scars from high-school and show themselves how little high-school mattered when it comes to who becomes successful. The tenth reunion gives people the chance to walk in proud, enjoy the evening, and leave knowing they truly don't care about high-school any longer (with the exception of the few friends they may still be in touch with)....

Answer 4

I went to my 10th reunion out of pure curiosity. I still had about 20 lbs. of baby weight on, but, I really didn't care. The fun part was getting drunk with my friends (two that I am still close with after 22 years of friendship) and dancing to some insanely bad 80's music. The same popular people were still annoying and the person that got "most changed" had gotten about $20K worth of plastic surgery and she looked like she had entered the witness protection program. It was freakin' hilarious! I plan to attend my 20th in four years, it will be a good excuse to take a vacation to San Diego!

Answer 5

I went to my 10 year and I really don't know why, other than for a good laugh. The jocks and cheerleaders were all single moms, recovering addicts, and just plain losers in life. It was very entertaining to see that us normal, plain janes did better than the golden boys and girls. But, in the end, it wasn't worth the dress, the drive, or the cost. I am not friends with any of those people anymore, and if I was, I would see them besides at the reunion. I won't be going to the 20 year.

Answer 6

I went to my 10 year just for the fun of it. Had a ball, and my date is a good mixer so that helped. When it came time for the 20 year, I thought it'll be so much fun so I got on a committee to help organize it. The committee meetings were really fun. A group of about 5-6 people. Then the reunion came and I think I was the first one to leave. People talked about their grandchildren, divorce, etc. and I felt I had nothing in common with them. I wouldn't go to any more - if they should have them later on. I keep in touch with true friends.

Answer 7

Didn't go to The 10th reunion, it was too soon. Went to the 20th, it was somewhat boring but have to admit fun to see all of the stuck up snobbish girls who thought they were all that in high school now 60+ pounds overweight, unemployed and pathetic. What goes around comes around I guess. If only the reunion committees would make the reunions more fun, like play trivia games about the decade you were in school, have prizes, have better food, then maybe I'd consider going to my 30th. But I won't pay an arm and a leg to sit around and eat rubber chicken listening to pathetic music.

Answer 8

I hated high school, but I got nostalgic when my 20-year was approaching and I went. I had a horrible time. The guy who was the captain of the football team 20 years before, was the VP in a bank, and still acted like he owned the whole shebang (His father is now the President of the same bank). I stood around and watched a bunch of people I hadn't seen in 20 years, who no longer have anything to do with my life, get drunk and act like idiots.

I won't go back to my 30th.

Answer 9

I went to my ten year reunion. It had a little to do with curiosity but mostly because of the open bar. It was pretty lame so I'm not sure I'll be attending the 20 year reunion.

Answer 10

No, I did not to go any of my High School Reunions. Since I did not keep in touch with most of my friends from High School, it would be a waste of time. If I was the High School All Star Quaterback for the varsity football team, then I would have gone.