Being a virgin?

Question

Do you consider a bad thing in todays society to save yourself for or until after you are married? Do you think people should have experience? Is it ok? I don't want to adhere to societies pressures.

Thanks for all your answers. Lu you sound very mature for your age and good luck to you. I am older than you and I agree with you completely.

Answer 1

no i worship virgins! [if you name is Mary that is] but seriously you don't need that as a priority its just not a big deal if you stay that way, to me anyway!

Answer 2

Being a virgin is completely something to not be embarrassed by. And it's completely your decision if you want to save yourself or if you want the experience.But don't think that your decision should be because of pressure because that's the wrong reason. And it is completely ok to have experience and to not have experience. The only person who should make your decision is you because other people believe in different stuff. So if you want to have experience I say go ahead or if you want to wait then I say good thinking. I hope that this helped and good luck with everything!! :)

Answer 3

From a female point of view I can say that I attach no significance to virginity. Why? Because men use it against women. They use it to place a value on you. Sometimes it's a good value "Oh she's pure" sometimes it's a bad value "What a prude" Sometimes it makes no sense at all "She's a s.l.u.t/whore because she's not a virgin" or "Who wants to have bad sex with a virgin, they just lay there." I've heard it all.

Women don't care about virginity, they don't assign labels over it, they don't judge quality and character over it. MEN are the only ones who do, and they use it to control women by manipulating it's meaning.

So, you do what YOU want to do. If you want to wait for marriage, you do that. If you don't want to wait, you don't have to, but be safe.

Have pride in being a woman, and define yourself by the only standards that matter...your own.

Answer 4

I am 16 (well just about to turn 16) and I am a virgin and I am not going to have sex until I get married. I don't think there is anything wrong with being a virgin. All my friends at school with boyfriends have had sex and I just feel really out of place but it still hasn't swayed my decision. Sure people may label me as weird or a prude or whatever but you know what? I don't care. I want to have sex with someone who loves me and someone who I love, someone that I will stay with forever. I don't want to give my virginity away in some silly teenage relationship that will end in a few months time.

awww thank you xxx

Answer 5

I was a virgin up until i was 26 years old. I intended on waiting till i was married BUT I met the most wonderful man and I KNEW i was ready. afterwards, I felt bad because I was dating him only 6 months before I decided to have sex with him but i did not regret it. We are happily married and have two children. We have been together 10 years and married 5. I didn't need experience to enjoy sex.

You can plan on waiting if that's what you want, but you will know when you are ready as I did. Wether it be on your wedding night or not. Just do what you are comfortable with. only you will know when that is. I absolutely think it's a great thing to wait till marriage.

Answer 6

My own opinion is that there is too much weight placed on "saving yourself until marriage". I'm not saying that you should give up your virginity to the first warm body that happens along - it should be a considered decision that you make for yourself - just that you can cheat yourself out of valid life experiences by "waiting for Mr/Ms Right". Trust me - for all the people who say "I'm glad I waited", there are just as many who say "I don't know why I made such a big deal out of it" - so it's all down to individual choice.

Generally, the "social pressures" are the product of a lack of sexual education. It is easier for some to scare the crap out of you by saying "save yourself" than it is to give people the facts and allow them to make informed decisions.

The facts are that between 'kissing' and 'sexual intercourse' there is area for exploration, and 'sexual experience' can (technically) preserve a person's virginity. If you want to move onto intercourse, then that is your decision - take all relevant precautions to manage your fertility and prevent STDs, and the rest works itself out.

Answer 7

Virginity is truly overrated. Society's emphasis on the being abstinent builds up a lot of anticipation for that first sexual encounter. Except in rare occasions this anticipation is shattered by a less than satisfying experience. Not surprising especially if both partners are virgins.
It makes no sense to deny ones natural and healthy sexual urges until one's wedding night. Sometimes people don't mesh sexually, it would be disastrous to not find that out until after being married.

Answer 8

Sexual experience is highly over-rated.

If you have too much experience before you are married, you run the risk of being bored with normal sex with your spouse.

Being a virgin is an admirable character trait. There is a lot to be said about purity and chastity. The most importatnt is that you will have peace of mind that you have absolutely no sexually transmitted diseases. Secondly, sex will be a new and thrilling experience with your spouse, and you will learn and grow together with your spouse, and I think that's the ideal way, and the best way.

Answer 9

Saving yourself for marriage means a ton to the guy you marry. You might not know him yet but dont you think you will want the option to decide to give it to him once ur married when u finally do meet him. As far as gaining experience, that doesnt matter to the person you are going to marry if they really love you and are marrying you for the right reasons.

I personally admire those who can save themselves for marriage and think it has alot of meaning.

Answer 10

when you think about the fact that you are a virgin instead of preparing your self for a healthy loving relationship, then soon rather than latter you gonna have your question answered in the saddest way you will never forget, because the world out there is waiting for the vulnalables who aren't sure of them selves to use and dump. i my self im virgin and self controlled and happy but who in the world will ever pass me on the street and know that im a virgin, not even my friends can tell, so just play it kool and safe.

Answer 11

Being a virgin is a good thing. You will get a lot of pressure to give in. And people will say youre weird. But who cares?
In the short term it'll be hard, but you probably wont regret it in the long run.