Why do i sleep around?

Question

Before you call me s**t just hear me out...

I am always questioning why i do it for and i think i found the answer. Growing up my mom wasnt very affectionate and didnt really tell me she loved me etc and had her days when she could be really nasty verbally and emotionally. It completely destroyed my confidence and i have been shy for as long as i can remember. I have always had anger(maybe because not feeling like mom loves me). When a guy pays me attention it makes me feel great,they give me love what i never had. I am seeing four guys and i dont feel bad for any of them. Can anyone conclude why i am this way and do you think my conclusion is right?

serious answers please.

Answer 1

You described your mother's lack of respect for you. You never mentioned your father. And for young women, this is the mold that they often go out and look for in a "date".

Just not having a father could be a factor.

I don't mean to, or want to sound like I am preaching here.. but I want you to think about something.

What you describe is "looking for love" in others. What about respect? You won't get that with multiple partners (esp when they find out). If you really are looking for love.. you really need to pick someone and commit to them.

You need to give love to someone, in order to recieve it.

To be honest, the fact that you are "dating" 4 guys... to mean indicated a problem with your self-respect level. Are you worthy of love or just lust. I think you ARE worthy of love... but you have to give it a chance... one boyfriend at a time.

Again.. sorry if my comments added any hurt feelings onto your heavy load.. it was not my intention. Take care of yourself - noone else will.

Answer 2

I understand what you are talking about as far as your mommy but U are Ur problem. I feel like if you know that mom is a reason you should be able to look at self AND find a reason.perhaps you should seek some help because these pp out here don't care anything about you and they will easily sleep with you knowing that they have a disease or something. sweetie you are more than *** and beauty. You have a mind- a beautiful one at that. so there is no need to act out is that way. If you need something to do first work on loving yourself- without make up and cute revealing clothes or lip gloss or anything. Take all the material stuff away at least once a day and look in the mirror and say "I love you" over and over and over and soon you will mean it and you won't need a man or your Mommy to tell you that. You will know your full potential inside.

Answer 3

Yes, it does sound like an issue that is related to seeking affection/attention..and for sure an issue of confidence. Sadly, abuse from someone very close to you can wear you down emotionally and make it hard for you to have real feelings. If it is the sex that you are attached to, you can get help through a sexual addiction group.
If it is just the need for contact, physical or emotional, you may try counseling..and it might help to channel your focus in to something that will benefit you, as your current relationships certainly will not. Best of luck..

Answer 4

You crave the attention that sex gives you plus you enjoy the feelings you get while having sex. As long as you are not mistaking sex for love you should be fine. Just be care full and watch out for yourself. As you sleep around you may want to keep you eyes open for that one person who is willing to give you all of the attention you need, crave and deserve. Keep you head up as long as you are safe and the people you sleep with are safe "do what you do..."

Answer 5

I think you're pretty astute. You know why you're doing the things you're doing, and you really don't need much advice from us. Yes, you're doing it for a sense of approval. Having guys lust after you gives you a rush, and temporarily fills a void. You're certainly not alone in that; many women do it.

I'm not going to call you a slut..but I will say this...please, be safe. Protect yourself, and your partners. Because having sex with this many people without protection is putting ALL of you at risk, and these guys who are giving you the love you think you crave, well..they deserve better than that.

Answer 6

oh sweetie, you got it in one! i think what you said is absolutely right! Because u didnt get love and affection from your mother, when you do get affection you love it! sooo.....??!!.....do it, have fun, live your life happily, and you anit no sl*t or sl*g!!! guys do this kinda stuff to girls all the time so dont feel guilty! the only difference is when a girl does it she gets called everything ander the sun, but when a man does it he gets congrtulated! go out an have fun and ignore anyone who tells ya different. hold ya head up high xxx

Answer 7

You go girl. If you are happy with your life style, then there is no reason not to "put out". If you are single, and other guys don't mind sharing, its a great thing. Just be careful, and make sure you use protection (to protect yourself). Maybe someday I'll hook up with you, and we'll have a nite out on the town..........or if you are in my neighborhood call me!!!!!

Answer 8

I feel for you because you are probably beautiful and sensual and get treated as an object.You have something REALLY MISSING in your life...........A deep-seeded love of your mother.Seek and you will find.You are looking for that one special love that will hold on to the very last thread of hope and never let you go....Good luck and love from me.........

Answer 9

Don't over analyze this stuff. Either this floats your boat or it doesn't. The only thing you need to be careful of is making you are periodically tested for STDs, even after seeing guys you've known for awhile because if you're sleeping around a lot, they are too.

Answer 10

i guess youre going through some serious ****... its aite.. but check this out, you already went through emotional abuse, dont you think you're doing it to yourself by sleeping around? think, the guys that you sleep around with dont have respect for you, and honestly you really dont have one for your self neither.. not only emotional abuse it its but also physical.dont do it to yourself.. you deserve better.. i've been through it.. you'll find one that will treat you with a lot of respect and you will be happy.