i'm a pretty blonde, green eyes, slim, 18 yr old and apparently i'm funny and intelligent, good personality etc but i never get asked out by guys. i try to flirt with guys i see but they only smile back but never make a move. i'm way to shy to make a move myself...help! i feel so lonely since i split up with my ex of 2 years and while he's found several new girlfriends no one is interested in me :-( please answer
2006-11-30 09:02:49 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you're too shy. When you say you're flirting with guys and they only smile back, is it because you're only giving them "the look" and that's flirting? I didn't have a girlfriend for a long time because I was super shy. Just think about making new friends. Don't think about a boyfriend at this point. You just want to say hello. How are they doing? Get a conversation going. That'll make things easier as you both become more comfortable with each other. Don't ask him out, but instead, give him your number and he'll likely call you and ask you out! If it doesn't work the first time, don't let that discourage you. Trust me, there are so many (more) guys out there who are single and can't get a girlfriend who would just love for you to stumble upon them!
2006-11-30 09:08:54 · answer #1 · answered by Geoff S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me that they seem to be intimidated by you. if you are all the things that you say you are most guys find that scary and would hesitate to come up to you. I understand that you are shy, but you might need to make the first move in order to make a new boyfriend. if it is a recent breakup maybe they can see that in your eyes that you are still hurt a little and guys tend t avoid that. it sounds like they are intimidated though, so make the first move and if a guy doesn't respond then it's not the end of the world. the right man is out there for you and you will find him. it might just take alittle bit of time. so don't worry about it and best of luck.
2006-11-30 09:08:50 · answer #2 · answered by Chrystal S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem like a great girl. Guys might get intimidated by your confidence or they might just think that a girl like you has to already be taken. You should try making the first move. I was suprised when the cutest guy asked me out. We've been dating for a while now and he revealed to me that he was really scared to approach me because he thought I was taken. I was so suprised. All that time I just thought I couldn't get a boyfriend.
2006-11-30 09:08:19 · answer #3 · answered by tarhi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you should not try so hard. maybe if you would wait and find someone you click with and not flirt with ever random guy trying to get a date, then you would be asked out. Guys do not like to feel like you are flirting with everyone, and them too. You need to concentrate on one person at a time. Kind of sounds like you are in competition with your ex, which is only going to lead to disaster. You just be yourself and wait for the right person to flirt with, but don't flirt with everyone. Then guys think you are easy and they don't want to date someone who is easy, they just want to sleep with them. Be yourself, and maybe enjoy being alone a little, when you are happy being alone is when mr. perfect will come to you.
2006-11-30 09:06:56 · answer #4 · answered by May_May 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure there are guys interested. Boys are dumb. They tend to be intimidated by cool girls like ourselves. Don't worry......it will happen. Don't jump for the first guy either just because you're lonely. I think it's shallow when people just hook up with randomly. What you should do is get the nerve up to ask someone out that you like. Do it in private. You'll be surprised!!
2006-11-30 09:07:41 · answer #5 · answered by puppamama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you just wait? It's better not to force destiny and wait what might happen. You're young. Be worried if you're 40 and you haven't had a bf. I had my first bf when I was 20. And I live happily with my mate. I never felt bad because I didn't have a bf. I always told myself that it was better to be alone than having an idiot next to me. Sometimes it's worth to wait.
2006-11-30 09:06:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop trying. He will come along. Be patient. Don't rush into anything. So what your ex has numerous women? Just be patient and the right guy will come along. When you find someone you truly like - trust me you will open up and ask them out. Focus on you right now.
2006-11-30 09:08:20 · answer #7 · answered by Sasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait to get a signal, then hit on them. Guys respect forward chicks. and we're relieved coz we dont have to do it. Some guys have just as hard of a time making a move as girls.
2006-11-30 09:05:30 · answer #8 · answered by The_Ravyn_Warrior 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are two things that you can do. either be patient and willing to wait until a guy approaches you........or...............take some exotic dancing classes (they are free on demand if you have comcast digital cable in the exercise tv section) and get the confidence that you need to make a move yourself.
2006-11-30 09:07:32 · answer #9 · answered by PreciousLady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you're as attractive as you say, the guys you're talking about are probably shy, or they have the "she's way out of my league" feeling. Just wait, love will find you
2006-11-30 09:06:30 · answer #10 · answered by That Guy Over There 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋