I know it's my fault, but some advice please. I am a 42 year old man who lives with his girlfriend for 3 years, I am also having sex with another woman who is 35. I love both of them but the 35 year old has kids and is divorced. I recently received an anonymous text saying that this woman was having sex with other men. Any advice?
2006-11-30 08:51:21 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if it aint broke....why fix it....
2006-11-30 08:54:26 · answer #1 · answered by nfocuz00 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You said you loved both of them. Are you in love with either one?
The 35 is your side girl. She's the other woman in this scenario. She knows that. You know it too. So why are you getting caught up?
If you wanted to be exclusive with her you would have left your girlfriend by now. Right? So why are you mad about the 35 yr old going out and getting her game on? Can an anonymous text message be believed?
Either way, you're about to loose on this if you don't make a choice - and soon. You've got to decide whether or not you're going to stay with your live in, or leave her for the 35 yr old.
2006-11-30 17:00:58 · answer #2 · answered by peter n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
My heart goes out to you because this is not a good place you have put yourself in. You really need to ask yourself "what are you doing ?" is this really fair to either one of them or yourself? You said you love them both and I, as well as anyone else, has no right to judge or criticism you, because only you know what your doing in your life, but really. What are you doing? I can't hear you but I could tell you are very sad in your way of writing. Your 42 and you are not getting any younger and you can't live the rest of your life this way. There is nothing healthier then a clean conscience, and I do mean that for your own good. You have to stop one or the other. I really feel that the one you live with deserves better, I mean I would think since you do live with her, and you say your getting text that this other woman you love with kids is sleeping around. So she is being dishonest, not fair huh, but it is not like you are an honest person so you really can't get angry at her for it. I mean yes she No's ( or I assume she No's ) about your live in girlfriend, but the fact still remains that you are not being truthfully so it can happen to as you are doing it to someone you love. Also please think about the children involved. Not you nor there mother nor your girlfriend are the victims here, they are. Do they know about you.? Do they love you? Do you love them? Do they really know what is going on and what there mother is doing? If they are in your life and you love them what is this all doing to the? And now there mother may be sleeping around as well. What does that tell you about her? You really need to back away from all this and ask your self all these questions. We are all only human and all we really want is to love and most "TO BE LOVED" You do not sound like a bad person. You actually are taking responsibility and taking the blame, just just sound to me like some one who got himself into deep. Stop crossing the street with your eyes close when you know the crossing traffic can kill you. Open your eyes and look both ways before crossing the street and then decide when it is truly safe to cross. You will live longer, happier and healthier.
I understand you need advice and there will be those with harsh criticism but just take what every sais, the good and bad and do the right thing. You will thank yourself for it. I wish you all the luck :-)
2006-11-30 17:27:27 · answer #3 · answered by Alexandra Solano 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the 35 year old tramp and concentrate on the girl you are living with. I'll bet she doesn't know you're messing around on her and she deserves your best effort, not a half-hearted attempt at a relationship. If you can't treat your girlfriend the way she deserves, get out and chase your tramp. But, watch out, because she'll break your heart.
2006-11-30 16:56:34 · answer #4 · answered by Harley 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No offense but your not married to them they can go have sex with whoever they want and the married one might be wanting someone to marry one day. But don't let your gf find out because you will be in trouble. SO hey only thing that comes to mind is what goes around comes around. Or leave your gf and marry the one who is divorced. Hard decision ain't it.
2006-11-30 16:58:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to grow up and mature yourself... does your live in girl know about the other woman?
2006-11-30 16:56:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is doing no different then you
2006-11-30 16:53:29 · answer #7 · answered by BrookieB 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask if you can join in.
2006-11-30 16:54:36 · answer #8 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋