Today I ran into my guy friend at work, whom I have a crush on. I told him a couple of days ago that it was best that i didn't talk to him or email him since i have feelings for him. He already has a gf and I also told him it was better that we just said hi and bye. I feel that I can't be a close friend to him, because I know I like him as more than a friend. Yesterday, he seemed fine. He was in a good mood when he said hi and bye. Today when I saw him he barely said hi and looked kinda nervous or possibly confused and didn't say bye. What do you think?
2006-11-30 08:42:06 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is trying not to encourage you and trying to go along with your wishes. And may I say good for you! God bless****
2006-11-30 08:45:05 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he has been having the same feelings for you but wasnt sure of how you felt and now he is confused because he has a gf and is now having thoughts of wanting to be with u instead of her but doesnt know which decision is the best for him yet! I been in that situation before so I know how that can be and I know those actions were similiar to the ones i showed not really even realizing it or meaning to! I guess you may just have to see what happens! If he tells u he left her and asks u out then u know what was up! LOL!
Christina
2006-11-30 08:55:21 · answer #2 · answered by sam_afl_mommy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi - I can give you my take on it. He probably told someone else about it, and they said something to him that created this change. If a friend came and told me that, I'd say that the girl (in this case you) was actually testing the waters to see if he liked her. Don't worry about the hi/bye thing - it actually seems more like a tie and a constant reminder of your feelings. I commend you for not getting emotional and clinging - that's a sure way to drive someone off! Keep going forward - you're on the right path.
MattZ
2006-11-30 08:48:05 · answer #3 · answered by MattZ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well personally i understand wot u goin threw if u think of it cos u have feeling for him doesnt mean yall shuldnt be close because wot if he breaks up with that so called gf wots gonna happin ....so the whole talking thing should end talk to him more...although the feeling might be dere but try not to do stuff that will regret....and by the way think of it wt if it was u.....that had a bf and someother gurl had feeling for him...i no u would be mad.....gurl go look for other fishes in the seee....i belive dere other guyz out dere.....
well hope i helped
2006-11-30 08:47:49 · answer #4 · answered by somuchcuteness 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably surprised him / gave him something to think about. He may not have considered you having feelings for him and although intially he reacted fine, he may have thought about it and made him nervous.
He m ay be trying to do as you asked - and since he didn't know you had feelings for him thats the reason he was nervous/confused. You said he already has a relationship so he may not have thought in you in that light and now is trying to figure out where he stands.
He is doing as you asked though!
2006-11-30 08:48:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's grappling with the knowledge that you are interested. Whether he loves his gf or not, he has to consider it, especially if he has an interest in you as a friend or otherwise. I don't think he's angry. But realize that your crush on him is YOUR problem, not his. It would only be natural for him to develop some resentment over losing a friend through no fault of his own.
2006-11-30 08:45:51 · answer #6 · answered by ;-) 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You mentioned in practically the same sentence that you had feelings for him, and then told him he had to stay away from you! Yesterday, he was probably flattered. Today, he's probably experiencing a lot of emotions, from confusion to "wtf?!"
I think he's honoring your wishes, in a sense, to stay away from you, so you don't really have any right to complain about the way he's acting.
2006-11-30 08:45:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I did report Dana Brown and I always report that "C G" person too...haven't seen him in a while.
Anyways, sweetie, you are the one who told this guy that you don't want to talk to him so why do you care that he barely said hi? You pushed him away, remember?
2006-11-30 08:47:25 · answer #8 · answered by Isabella's Mommy Expecting #2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you said and did the right thing, with time he will understand your motives and respect you as he should...I take my hat of to you with a bow, If we all can see trouble before it starts the world would be an awesome place.
2006-11-30 08:50:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No he;s not mad, give him time.
Does he have a right to be mad? Yes he does because that is how he feels and you don't own that. I still say he is not mad, just needs time.
He could have problems with his girlfriend and other problems that have absolutely nothing to do with you.
Time is your factor here.
2006-11-30 08:50:28 · answer #10 · answered by Laela (Layla) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You handled it perfectly, what he's doing is he's trying to figure out if he should be with you or not, it's driving him nuts, this is the proper way to handle stuff like this, give him some time, continue being nice to him, and see if he comes around, don't give in, he might push that, but stick to what your doing. it's working perfectly
2006-11-30 08:50:06 · answer #11 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋