I am constantly pleasuring my boyfriend, but he never returns the favor. He has never made me orgasm, and weve been together for three years. He has also gone down on me only three times, and ive done it to him more times than i can count.
how can i get him to return the favor without being pushy?
2006-11-30 08:40:29 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Make him do you first, and if he won't, don't do him
2006-11-30 08:43:03 · answer #1 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be pushy...lol...okay, that was a knee jerk reaction.
You should talk to him about it. Do you have that type of relationship where after sex you discuss the experience? I do. I love basking in the glory and yes, I orgasm.
Women have a hard time having an orgasm but they know where there spot is. Make the next time in bed enjoyable for you. Show him where your spot is. Let him know how good it feels.
Ease him into a 69 if you are too nervous to ask for oral. Sometimes men are afraid to be aggressive, fearing you may get mad and some men love women to be aggressive in bed.
I know you said you have been together for three years, that should be long enough to speak your mind and do so baby. Because having an orgasm is a great thing!
2006-11-30 16:46:45 · answer #2 · answered by megabites42 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you kidding?!?!? Be pushy. Or leave him. He is obviously wicked selfish. I have always operated by the rule if I get to have one, then so does she. That is just right. As for the going down thing, some guys are squeamish. Make sure all is good and clean down there...All hair is removed and coax him into dinning on your goodness. Three years is an awful long time to go with out. I can't go a week. Good luck. And don't be afraid to kick him to the curb, and find someone who can satisfy.
2006-11-30 16:47:52 · answer #3 · answered by TripleTattoo™ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dump his ***.
YOU come first always! Never him. If he really loved you, then he would alwaz want to pleasure you. I think hes using you b/c he knows that you will go down on him. Try not giving him ANYTHING for a couple of months. See his reaction, if he complains about not getting any, or keeps begging, then he NEVER liked you, he just liked the FAVORS you offer. Challenge him, and see. Good luck.
P.S I think you should dump him, you deserve better than being used.
-james
2006-11-30 16:45:45 · answer #4 · answered by jameswilliamlong 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
damn girl you seriously need to confront him about this. I don't know why you have waited so long but i would be pissed if gave my gf orgasms and she didn't return the favor. i would say maybe cut down on it for a while and make him start to ask questions then tell him how u feel. Good luck with that.
2006-11-30 16:43:59 · answer #5 · answered by 49er fan 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Quit doing it to him. There is no better way to manipulate a man than to hold out on him. I bet if you told this to him he would be shocked. He probably doesn't realize he has never given you one. He would probably be embarrased and start working harder. Most guys see that as an accomplishment.
2006-11-30 16:43:32 · answer #6 · answered by know it all 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just ask him. if you guys have been together that long than you should be able to express what you want. i know that i may make you a little uncomfortable, but he is not a mind reader and you have to tell him what you want. does he ask you to go down on him?
2006-11-30 16:43:24 · answer #7 · answered by mel2430 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well you are going to have to be a little pushy, start with something small like guiding his hand to what you like.
2006-11-30 16:46:07 · answer #8 · answered by blah 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask for a 77, it's better than 69, you get "eight" more
2006-11-30 16:45:11 · answer #9 · answered by sluggo1947 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just talk with him openly and honestly. If he doesn't change after you tell him how you feel than maybe think about finding a partner who will listen to your needs!
2006-11-30 16:42:20 · answer #10 · answered by tahoe 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you need to talk to him and tell him what you like and how it makes you feel. hopefully he'll start returning the favor.
2006-11-30 16:44:07 · answer #11 · answered by jdchick48 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋