The first one is my first proper boyfriend and i been with him for two years. I found out a few months back that he had been in touch with his ex and i thought he was cheating on me(he said he never did). I guess after that i went off the rails with anger and started dating other guys without him knowing. I am dating this guy i met from when he was in hospital but i dont love him,i am seeing another guy from work and recently i been dating a great guy for two months who has promised me the world. He has alot of money and wants to take me on holiday but i really feel i'm falling for him. I know i should feel bad but i dont. It's like i hate men and i want to hurt them as each of them do little things to hurt me(talk and look at other women). I know i may have to pick eventually before they find out,i dont feel i can break away from any of them though.
2006-11-30 08:27:58 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
all aboard the HO train
2006-11-30 08:33:34 · answer #1 · answered by oldjr 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
First of all you need to stop this, primarily because of the risk of an STD.
You don't feel guilty, because deep down you believe your boyfriend cheated on you. You don't say why you don't believe your boyfriend is telling the truth, maybe because you found out & he didn't tell you? It would certainly appear it has damaged the trust in your relationship, & your trust in men period. It would also suggest that your self esteem was low to begin with, & now appears to be in pieces. So if one boyfriend leaves you, you don't care, you have another one. Which is great, until you realise one day you have forgotten how to love & be loved. That is ultimately what you want, but if you carry on with this pattern of behaviour it won't happen. Leave your boyfriend, choose the one (of the three) you feel loves you for who you are & see if you can make that relationship work. Choose the one who you feel is your best friend, who you can talk to about anything. Then see where that takes you.
2006-11-30 08:45:04 · answer #2 · answered by Kingbee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I hate men and want to hurt them"...Talk to someone about this before you get in any relationships...its will ruin your life if you always carry hate inside you .It also sounds as if you have issues with jelousy as well, because you get mad if they talk or even look at a woman. I wish all women would talk so freely as they do on this site. I bet each of the 4 men would love to know what you just wrote here...but you wont tell them will you ?...because then your worse fear would come true ...they would abandon you...thats why you get so mad inside when they communicate with other women...you feel they are plotting against you and he will leave you..that is the stem of jelousy and it comes from childhood experiences I think...hope one day you can find the "peace" that is supposed to be where the hate lives.
2006-11-30 08:45:04 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your a VERY SELFISH PERSON IF YOU KEEP LEADING all these men on.i feel sorry for them. no one trusts a liar or a cheat if they are found out. tell them the truth and it might not be so bad they deserve the truth dont they?. wouldnt you want the truth if they where doing it to you? let then get over it and move on. STOP PLAYING SELFISH GAMES WITH PEOPLES FEELINGS FOR YOUR OWN GAIN!not only that what did the other three men ever do to you? hurting other people wont make you feel better and they dont deserve it. you need to learn to except thats the way life is.
2006-11-30 08:47:58 · answer #4 · answered by dragontears 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Natalie, I think you need a medal for managing to juggle the four of them. I assume you're only young and why not have fun just don't hurt people in the process and by that I guess I mean you. sod the men, they hurt women all the time but i think you'll be the one who will end up hurt and perhaps not by the men but because you obviously have something you need to deal with. deal with that first i'd say and then think about the men. trust me i've been there and done it.
2006-11-30 08:35:30 · answer #5 · answered by Lily 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would guess that you don't care for any of them, you may not feel guilty now but wait until the one that you're falling for finds out about the other 3. Then you'll lose him and there'll always be that 'what if' hanging over you.
2006-11-30 08:32:11 · answer #6 · answered by mad_caesar 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I need for you to grow up.
This whole thing started based off of your assumptions of what you thought you're b/f was doing. He may not have even done anything.
You are being dishonest all the way around. You need to be single if you want to date around.
You should do the honorable thing and break it off with your b/f and then let the others know that you are wanting to be single and free to date who you want.
Would you want this done to you? Karma can be a b.i.t.c.h.!
2006-11-30 08:35:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some might say "its because your a dirty dirty tramp, may God have mercy on your soul"
I say it arises from an element of insecurity on your part, you probably find it easy to attract men but are indecisive about your true feelings for them and are not sure how you feel about long term relationships with them.
2006-11-30 08:44:16 · answer #8 · answered by withoutashadow24 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u say that ur blokes hurt u by looking n chatting to other girls..get a grip its wot lads do it dont mean they love u n e less 4 gods sake, i think u thrive on attention and you dont seem capable of accepting that off one lad,just coz one has tonnes of cash dont make him a good bloke,sense of homuor should come in2 it as well..u sound very very shallow and wot goes round comes round n u get wot u pay for so if it goes **** up with these lads youve no one to blame but yourself sorry
2006-11-30 08:57:13 · answer #9 · answered by greyhound mummy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Natalie, your twisted sister. Chill out. as a wise Jedi once said. Much hate i sense in you. Hate leads to pain etc etc. Stop being nasty to people and break the circle or it will be only you thats left crying. alright me old wallflower..
2006-11-30 08:31:24 · answer #10 · answered by Luke H 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
your a sponge! ha! it will come crashing down at some point, thats when the guilt will kick in. your being selfish. fancy going out some time?
2006-11-30 08:46:03 · answer #11 · answered by drdreallday 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋