how do you potty train a 4 yr old?

Question

have a 4yr old that refuses to poop on the potty tried the fun approach, reward, and the mad nothing is working

Answer 1

When she doesn't use the potty, tell her "You're a big girl now and big girls poop in the potty..are you going to be a big girl for mommy?" If she says yes, then put her on the toilet. If she says no, then tell her "Fine..if you're not going to act like a big girl then I'm not going to treat you like one." Then go and take away a few toys and say "These are your big girl toys, and since you don't want to be a big girl you can't have them anymore." She should want to try and use the potty after that..trust me :-)

Answer 2

Wow these people are mean! I am sure your child is in a fine situation and is not going to be in an ad for 10 year old diapers!

With my three year old I just started putting her in underwear and getting her on the potty every 2 hours. If she went in them then I just cleaned it up and told her to try not to pee in them and to get on the potty when she feels that she needs to go again. After only like a week she was completely potty trained. Hope this helps!

Answer 3

Do like we do in the hospitals, sit your four year old on the potty every two hours. If he/she hasn't pooped yet, have them sit there for 15 mins, sometimes that's all it takes to get it going. My boy is 3, and totally potty trained, that's the approach we used. Kids really like routines, so introduce one potty routine and keep it up.

Answer 4

When talking about a 4 yr old there could be other issues involved making that child feel that the only control they have in life is their body functions. Not only do you need to be consistent with calm, positive rewards for the good behaviors, but I feel there most likely is something else going on that needs to change - I don't know your situation, but to explain I have been a special needs foster parent for over 16 years and an adoptive parent after that. Controlling bowel movements (especially in boys, but also seen in girls) is something only they can control and they do this when everything around them is out of control. I am praying for this child and your family in general. I pray that moods and feelings continue to remain calm for this child's sake. This is just my feeling, I could be wrong, but prayer never hurt anyone, right?

Answer 5

I recommend that you purchase a copy of the book "Toilet Training in less than a day" by Nathan Azrin. You can use this link to buy it from Amazon.com http://amazon.com/s/ref=nb_ss_gw/104-5784956-2649544?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=toilet+training+in+less+than&Go.x=5&Go.y=13

I used this with both of my kids and it WORKS. Just follow it step by step, no matter how ridiculous it seems (you have to say things like "Does mommy pee-pee in her pants? No-o-o, mommy pee-pees in the potty.") . You also need an apron with pockets and salty snacks to put in those pockets. It may seem tedious, but the reward is so great! After the toilet training, you never put diapers on the child again!

Answer 6

Take your child to the potty every 15-30 minutes. He/She will soon catch on. Be persistent with the potty training. It will take time, but your child will get the hang of it.

Answer 7

try no making him wear any thing and the moment you suspect him trying to do anything take him to the potty try to do on week ends where you can keep and eye on him , It will take an effort but will surely get you there 100% just dont give and get ready for some cleaning :P

Answer 8

you can't push them to hard(you may traumatize them) but you should try asking her to sit on the potty and try, or make her a sticker chart-(one sticker for peeing and two for pooping). my daughter peed on the potty long before she would poop.-they just have to get use to their own bodies and they will usually start going when they feel ready and comfortable-GOOD LUCK, i know how frustrating it is

Answer 9

sit them on the potty i rly dont know much about pottytraining lol

i potty trained myself i wanted 2 go to preschool so bad lol i was still 2 young 2 go so mabe try sumpthing ur child reely wants if they r like me they will work 2 get wat they want

Answer 10

You should have started when the child was old enough to walk. Not when he/she was 4. When they're that old, they're gonna rebel and do what they want. Good luck, your kid's gonna be on one of those advertisements for 10 year old diapers.