He tells nonstop lies and it is embarrassing for me. He tells me at least 10 lies a day. and still I love him, he must be helped. Because of his habit he feels like haunted and has got nightmares.
2006-11-30 08:21:25 · 25 answers · asked by Justine T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you can't make him stop telling lies....
what you can do is stop him telling any more lies to you - but that would involve leaving him, I'm sorry to say.
If you love him and genuinely believe that this is something that must be helped - then until he learns to stop lying you'll have to thicken your skin and not be so embarassed - otherwise you'll make yourself miserable. Counselling may help him. Though I'm thinking that unless your boyfriend is on board with this - he will never change - like the old saying goes he has to want to change, you can't make him change.
Most people would say that a relationship is based on trust - you must find it very difficult without that base. If I were in your shoes, I'd be wondering all the time if what he was saying to me was true - like does he really feel haunted or is he just saying that to make you feel that he can't control his lying to make you stay with him?? That would mess with my head.
He must have some really good qualities to make you get past those issues and still love him
Good luck !
2006-11-30 09:13:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is a compulsive, pathalogical liar. Alot of times, counseling will help, but sometimes you just cant stop a liar. For some reason, they feel like they have to lie, not just to you, but to everyone. Honestly, i would break it off with him if i were you. If he lies to you non-stop, then you cant trust him. And a good relationship, is nothing without trust. In fact, if you dont have trust, you dont have a relationship at all. If you really love him, and believe that everything will work out for the best, then you must be patient while your guy gets some help; because he does need it. Set up a counseling session. Or have him go see a pshycologist. It could help. I hope everything works out for you. I am obviously not a licsensed psychologist, so visit this website, it has tons of information on it about why people lie, whats wrong with the brains, and what you can do to help:
http://www.omnimedicalsearch.com/query.php?pge=pathological+liar+disorder
2006-11-30 08:26:54 · answer #2 · answered by Ricki M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's a compulsive liar. I know someone like that. They lie over every little thing! Even things that don't amount to a hill of beans! How frustrating it must be for you to be in a relationship with someone like that. I'm sure there are places for him to get help....maybe even a 12 step program. It's a compulsion like gambling or sex and I'm sure it could be treated. But he will probably have to seek help from a professional of some kind. You are a good one for sticking by him, but I think it will likely become too much for you after awhile if he doesn't get some help!! Good luck!!
2006-11-30 08:28:45 · answer #3 · answered by Tallulah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take heed of the old saying 'You know where you are with a thief but you can NEVER trust a liar'. My first husband was a terrible liar - I thought I could change him, got him help etc. but all he did was lie to the people helping them. Liars just tell people what they want to hear - do yourself a favour and get out now - if you dont you'll have a life of misery because liars dont ever give up lying xxxxx
2006-11-30 08:29:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think that there is anything you can do to make him stop, trust me. I was goin out with this guy for over a year, and the whole time he was lying to me about something, it got to the point where i couldnt tell if he was telling me the truth or not, so i just had to break up with him, it messed me up, cause i still had feelings for him. but you dont deserve a man, who always lies to you
2006-11-30 08:28:21 · answer #5 · answered by melonie j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men tell lies, that's my experience anyway. I lived with one for 6 years who told lies non-stop to the point it got so ridiculous that i had to leave him. He actually believed the lies he told though, which was beyond my help.
2006-11-30 08:55:50 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love him the more, stop nagging him when he tells a lie, make him know that you know he is telling you a lie, build up your trust for him though it will be hard, also do not tell lies to him or anybody in his presence, live by example. Above all pray for him.
2006-11-30 08:34:42 · answer #7 · answered by kinky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wont change. Trust me I was with a guy for 5 years, I tried everything with him and he wouldnt change. Eventually I left him, now he has a new girl and still lies to her. Guys that lie will lie for ever
2006-11-30 08:24:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can't! once a dick head always a dick head.if i were you i waould leave his *** in the DIRT! he is soooo not worth your time. you deserve nothing but the best girl, and any guy that truly loves a girl knows that by heart!!!!!so what does that tell you? i know how hard it is to hear this because i've been in your shoes, trust me!!! with guys like that, being friends isn't even an option, because you need trust in any relationship no matter how serious.
2006-11-30 08:31:37 · answer #9 · answered by nanerz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
quick answer is you cannot. You cannot and should not try to change a person. You either accept them as they are or leave. If he wants to stop he will, if he wants to change or get help he will. You do not have the right to make those decisions for him, or demand that he does.
2006-11-30 08:31:20 · answer #10 · answered by fenlandfowl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋