I am almost 14, and.. My mom enjoys playing God with my life. She complains about everything, yells at me, and acts like a frikkin' 2 year old. She thinks she's NEVER wrong. If I speak my mind on anything, and I mean ANYTHING, she threatens to take me out of public school and homeschool me so that I'll have no friends or socialization. She thinks it's fun to play with me like this, and she thinks it's just amazing to be in complete control of someone, but she's wrong. She complains about EVERYTHING I do. My hair, clothes, music, drawings, the way I do things, I mean it ALL. I try to not be a brat and just act civilized, but she just goes nuts with the idea of control. She wants to keep me right under her thumb, and it's really starting to bug me. What do I do?
I have told my dad, but she even gives him the "NEVER wrong" attitude. He's even admitted to me that she treats me way differently than she should.
2006-11-30 08:11:12 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He needs to spend more time with the baby by himself or he will never get comfortable taking care of baby. You are not being a control freak your husband should be able to handle taking the baby to the doctor by himself he is the father. As for the sleeping issue..I feel you pain, but the fact is some people function better on very little sleep then others. However I would never drop my baby off so I can sleep more. What he should do is take a nap during the day when the baby is napping that is what most new sleep deprived mom's do. When you don't need a babysitter the baby should be with one of you not his mother. When my babies were small I made my husband do things with them (like bathe them, change diapers, burp, soothe or watch them for a few hours by himself). I told him that he needed to at least know how to do these things even if he didn't do them all the time. God forbid if anything ever happened to me he as the father has to be able to take care of baby!
2016-05-23 05:47:25 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow you sound like a great kid especially since you are trying to be civilised, keep it up!
JillaryD's answer is awesome!
Most mom's are the same, mine was too. It was hard but hang in there! I am much older an out on my own with my own baby girl now. I only hope when she is going through her teens that she and I will get along better. My mom and I still have some issues but as an adult I am able to set boundaries for her or anyone not to cross.
There is a really good book by Pia Melody called Facing Co-Dependence. It can help you learn to deal with difficult people and learn how there treatment affects you!
Also if your mom is open to it try counselling, the counsellor will be able to help your mom and you treat each other with dignity and respect!
Good Luck!
2006-11-30 08:30:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing! you can't do anything my mom was like this too when i was younger now i'm 23 and moved out with a child and even now she wants to tell me what to do. All you gotta do for now is wait until you're 18 and old enough to have a job so you can afford to move out. Remember- she's the one who feeds you and buys you your clothes and everything you need. IF you are good and keep good grades you might even get a car as a graduating gift. I know what i'm telling you- it's not gonna get any better she just wants the best for you and doens't want you to get into any kind of trouble. When I was 14-15 and wanted to put makeup on she didn't let me until i was 18 and if i wanted to have a BF the guy had to come to my house and ask my parents if it was ok for the guy to date me. It was soooo ridiculous and i know exacly how you feel but- there's nothing you can do about it jsut hang on tight! you'll be glad you listened to your mom thought!
2006-11-30 08:19:33 · answer #3 · answered by Ms.Budonkadonk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same situation only i am almost 16-believe me i've gone through this my entire life and i've found the best tactic is so jus b quiet and let her finish talking and walk away bcuz if i bite back things jus get worse-i know it's really sucky and nasty but there really isn't anything u can do about it-once u get a lil older hopfully she will lighten up a bit and trust you more-do nice things for her to get her on ur "good side" and stuff that will be so sweet she can't help but love u for it....be responsible and answer her bitterness with sweetness even though it's extreamly difficult-try to stay in your room more and do stuff instead of waltzing around where she is-kinda avoid her i guess u could say and try not to do stuff that gets on her nerves-or at least don let her find out about it. when u r around her talk to her nicely and tell her stuff so she feels like she knows everything you do even if u jus tell her something ur friend is doing lately or working on jus to make her "feel" like u aren't keeping anything from her.when she dosn't like the way u do things(believe me i have BEEN THERE) jus do it her way and if u want change it later when she isn't around.and if she dosn't like what u r wearing consider her suggestions at least and try it jus to please her and later u can change at ur friends house or whatnot ya know.other then that all i can say is good luck and keep dreaming bout your 18th birthday!
take care
~Ally
ps.remember she is still your mom and as for her "playing God" that prettymuch is her role to watch over and protect u but somtimes moms get mixed uup and think that gives them right to treat their children/teens unfairly
2006-11-30 08:30:07 · answer #4 · answered by greenismylife.songismyworld 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are only 14 there is not much you can do at this point. No matter what you do she is always going to see a better why of doing it. You are going to have to come to some kind or agreement with her about everything you do. It is not going to be easy, but in order for you to be able to live with her you have to try and see things her way, because let just keep it really she is never going to see things the way you see them.
2006-11-30 08:22:48 · answer #5 · answered by foxy b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
parents have the best of intentions at heart but it somehow goes wrong sometimes. Sit down and talk with her, you have to understand that your not going to get your way but maybe you can compramise on some things. If this doesn't help maybe you should have your dad sit down with you. I try not to over power my daughters but sometimes they try to do things that are not in their best interest and I have to step in. Just try to remember parents aren't perfect we make mistakes too we just don't like to admit it, and one day you will be a parent too and you will understand us more. good luck sweet child my thoughts are with you!
2006-11-30 08:23:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This woman sounds a lot like my mother. Only my mother was also and alcoholic and a serious child abuser. I wasn't able to escape until I busted my butt to graduate H.S. 3 years early (she wanted to home school me too) and took off out of there. Good luck!
2006-11-30 08:15:53 · answer #7 · answered by blondewithlobotomyeyes 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sory but as long as your 14 and living in her house, you need to learn to play by her rules, if she was a nice mom i would suggest telling her your feelings on somethings and maybe trying to comprimise but i do not know her, or if your parents are seperated i would def go live with your dad, as long as he has some custody, it's your choice after 13 on who you would like to live with, the judge will value your opinion. If not, then try to stick clse to your dad
2006-11-30 08:15:44 · answer #8 · answered by harmonieclark 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow!!!!! Sounds like my mom, she is so bad also
i am about 2 years older that you and hun head up.... It only gets worse..... yes worse didnt think it could did yah?
Well my mom is the same way and so it my dad i tell him how she treats me and he talks to her about it and that she does not talk to me and my dad comes and yells at me becuase once again.. i am the worng one!!!!!
sorry i have no adcive for that.... i am just suffering form the same thin..... your not alone..... ever want to talk hear i will give you my email ok?
2006-11-30 08:39:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her that either you two come to a compromise or you will start doing whatever you wish. If she withdraws you from school, you will walk out of the house and refuse to do anything she wants.
2006-11-30 08:14:01 · answer #10 · answered by wordofgods 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋