We have been dating for 2 years, I have met his grandmother a couple of times and I am fairly close to his family, she was his father's mother. I'm not sure if I should send flowers or a plant, and should I send it to his dad (who I know well) or his grandfather or to the funeral home when they have the service? What do you think ?
2006-11-30 08:06:58 · 38 answers · asked by Tryin to help 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Give the flowers to them personally.. It will show you really care.
2006-11-30 08:10:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How very thoughtful of you.
If you send flowers, more than likely, these will either stay at the funeral home, or at the church where her services will be (not a bad thing, really, as churches don't have a lot of money for buying flowers).
I personally really like the idea of sending a plant...it is a reminder that life continues. If you're close to your bf's dad, then I'd send it to him...I'm sure he needs comforting.
You might also consider sending a nice card to your bf's grandfather, to let him know you're thinking of him.
2006-11-30 08:16:51 · answer #2 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Send a plant to the funeral home in my opinion, then the grandfather can decide what ot do with it. I like to send plants because they last longer than just flower that a lot of times get left at the grave anyways.
2006-11-30 08:09:31 · answer #3 · answered by Scotty 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I would send the family flowers and then send a plant to the funeral home. Plants can last a very long time and it's something more meaningful.
2006-11-30 08:09:38 · answer #4 · answered by Jen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should send flowers/plant (I usually send plants). I would send it to the funeral home for the service. Usually after a funeral service, the funeral directors dispose of the flowers or leave them at the gravesite. But plants are generally taken home by family members to keep as remembrances of people's kindness. By sending it to the funeral home, you leave the decision of who wants the plant to the family. If his family has met yours, send the plant from your family as a whole (ie Sincerest sympathy from The Smiths) and if they have only met you put your name alone. It will be much appreciated and show you to be a caring and well brought up young woman. Condolences to you and yours.
2006-11-30 08:10:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sure, flowers would be great. I'd address them to the grandfather, and maybe send a bouqet to BF's father.
Sign the ones to grandfather from both your BF and yourself.
Sign the ones to BF's dad either the same way, or from yourself.Have grandfather's delivered, and deliver dad's yourself.
Be sure to offer to help out any way you can. You are like family now and should pitch in during this time of stress and sorrow.
It's nice of you to be concerned about this, your BF is a lucky guy.
2006-11-30 08:41:26 · answer #6 · answered by michaelsmaniacal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send some flowers to the funeral home.
2006-11-30 08:14:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a very nice idea. I would sent flowers to the funeral home, then they will go to the grave, and home with either the dad or the grandfather. I'm sorry about your boyfriend's loss.
2006-11-30 08:10:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Plants are nice. Send it to the funeral home - and then everyone in the family will know that you are paying your respects. Also - if you would like - it would be a nice gesture to bring some food (a casserole, a dessert - something) to the family's home.
2006-11-30 08:17:40 · answer #9 · answered by liddabet 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Definitely send something - you're close enough so that an acknowledgement is expected of you. Even the neighbors will send something, and you definitely are closer.
As for who to send it to, I'm thinking that if you're making a choice, it's your BF's father and not the grandfather - but there's really nothing wrong with sending to both of them. Yeah, I know it's pricey, but (knock on wood) it doesn't happen every day, and we're talking about a 2-YEAR, not 2-month, relationship. You'll feel better, too.
Sorry for your loss.
2006-11-30 08:17:15 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nice sympathy cards sent to the grandfather and your b/f family would be appropiate.
If you wish to send flowers, I suggest a small, easy to take care of plant sent to the grandfather's house...since the plants will be pulled by family members anyway.
2006-11-30 08:12:51 · answer #11 · answered by shortfrog 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋