2006-11-30 07:58:37 · 16 answers · asked by Shelly 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
yes unless youre engaged again
2006-11-30 08:00:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're lucky enough to still love and respect each other enough to want to be intimate, where is the harm? Sometimes we simply need to feel that which is safe and comforting - something we 'know' - something familiar that won't leave you feeling disgusted with yourself. You both already share a past and because you didn't feel you could live together anymore, doesn't mean that you are no longer 'allowed' to have feelings for one another. This is how there are couples out there that have gotten married to each other more than once - its also how people sometimes get back together after being separated for a long time. It might be that you both want a new begining together; it might be that you both can't let go of your last begining; or it might just be a need for familiarity. There is nothing wrong with any of these -- So long as no one else is in the picture that might get hurt.
Don't let those religious buffs tell you you're not 'allowed' to feel.... hint hint, people (and you know who you are) the question was not whether or not god would feel it inappropriate - go hang out in the religious section, seriously.....
2006-11-30 08:28:56 · answer #2 · answered by Beth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally would not be intimate with an ex-spouse. You left him for a reason right?
Sometimes things just happen and if that is the case, then it's totally your call.
2006-11-30 08:34:23 · answer #3 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, love is love. There were things you found very attractive about this person at one point. In time the memories of the negatives sometimes fade too. It's something to think about, but life's too short, and there's never enough love or affection in today's impersonal society/culture. If it feels right go for it, but at the same time be prepared for the hurt and the pain that was once part of your life that caused you to be "ex." People do change, and they also tend to be creatures of habit, so make sure your decision is informed, and also make the peace with yourself to accept the possiblity that it woun't work for whatever reason. Just don't beat yourself up either way.
Good Luck!
2006-11-30 08:16:05 · answer #4 · answered by jeremy82many 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely inappropriate if either of you is with someone else.
Pretty inappropriate if you have kids, because it can be confusing to them (not that they know you're having sex, but kids know more than you give them credit for).
Overall not really a great idea because it holds you back from moving on and establishing new relationships that will work out better for you. You have to get out there, not keep going back to the thing that's safe and easy but isn't going anywhere.
2006-11-30 08:10:06 · answer #5 · answered by EQ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aside from religious issues, it probably isn't a good idea. My ex-husband & I were intimate whenever I would get home from work & he was waiting for me. I think it more than likely happens when a divorce seems necessary but sad with no hard feelings. But it caused much anguish for me. My heart & head were warring constantly.
But, get this. The last time we were intimate we were still in bed when he told me that he was getting married that Saturday! Two months after our marriage was annulled. After his marriage his wife didn't want to live in the same city I did & they moved. Smart woman.
2006-11-30 08:42:28 · answer #6 · answered by Judith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No sure about inappropriate, but it would be rather surprising. I mean, if you're going to be intimate, why is s/he an ex-spouse?
2006-11-30 08:01:51 · answer #7 · answered by old lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you are prepared to perhaps deal with a lot of emotional baggage and differences that caused the divorce, it might be unwise. Only the two people involved can decide if it would be appropriate or not. In most cases there can be unresolved hurts and wounds that can become very painful again but only you know this.
2006-11-30 09:28:16 · answer #8 · answered by neptune 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a morality and judgement call best made by each individual. I did hook up with my ex 5 years after the divorce, and loved it. It didn't turn into a long term relationship, but I still had 'unfinished feelings' and had to try to work it out just one more time. I found that I still couldn't/didn't trust her and then got over her completely, finally. If you're out there Cookie, I still wish you well and hope you're still with Carl. I couldn't have picked a better guy for you myself.
2006-11-30 08:34:05 · answer #9 · answered by michaelsmaniacal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep. sure is. If they are no longer married to you, it is sin. God says sex is only for marriage, not for before marriage, and only with the person you are married to. So, its real clear. Sex with an ex gotta go. If you couldnt make it work the first time, move on. or you can try over and over again.. Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results is the definition of insanity, but ppl do whatever floats their boat. What floats yours/ A little pleasure here and there and a lifetime of misery. or is it stopping the misery and only having healthy, happy Godly relationships. There you go. Thats my choice. andits you free will to choose for you.... Choose wisely.
2006-11-30 08:02:43 · answer #10 · answered by full gospel shirley 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-11-29 23:47:13 · answer #11 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋