Is it acceptable?

Question

I am 34, living at home with my mom, no job or car, and she wants to marry me and move in. I don't want someone to interfere with my relationship with my mother, how do I tell her no to the marriage? Or should I marry her and let her move in?

My girlfriend wants to get married and move in

Answer 1

Other than the fact that I think this is a fake post I will say...

Either your girlfriend must be really desperate to get married knowing she would be moving into her mother-in-law's home or maybe your mom has money and hopes she can live off of your mom.

Either way, you need to grow up, get out of the basement, and get a job before getting married.

Answer 2

Strange...

It sounds to me like you should move out of your mothers house. At 34, you should be your own person. I'm not saying cut your mom out of your life. But it's time, as a man, for you to grow up, get a job, get a car, and learn to have real relationships.

As far as your girlfriend is concerned.. you should only marry her if you're interested in getting married. Again though, I'd move out...not because of your relationship with mom...but because of your relationship with your woman.

Answer 3

Wait... you're 34 and no job no nothing and the girl wants to marry YOU! I'm sorry but instead of thinking in getting married leave your moms house, get a job and then get going with your life, no offense but not to much of a smart girl.

Answer 4

First of all talk to your mother and see how she feels about her moving in, after all it is her house and apparently pay for everything. I don't mean to be all up on your business but why don't you get a job save some money and ask her to wait til you have enough money to get your own place before getting married. There's nothing like having your own place. It's such a problem to be married and still leaving with your mom.... Think about it. It sound like you really don't want to get married, if you have doubts about it, Don't do it you'll regret it later...

Answer 5

You are 34 years old and still living with Mama? What's wrong with you? You don't need a wife and a mother in the same house. When a man marries, he is to have a job and a place of his own to live. He is supposed to support the wife and any children they have. Sounds like you will be looking to Mama and maybe your wife to support you.

Answer 6

there is sooo much going on here; why do you not have a job? why would you want to spend more time with your mother than your girlfriend? (no offense to your mother), why does she want to marry you and live with both you and your mother? I am a big advocate for children spending as much time as normal with parents, but at 34 not only should you not be able to get your girlfriend off of your mind, but your mother should put an exit only sign above her door.

Answer 7

Let me tell you something. You should get a job whether you are getting married or not!! You are 34!!

Ask your mom how she feels first!

Answer 8

Are you for real? 34, no job, no car? Grow up and move out of your moms house.

Answer 9

My god, doesn't she see what a momma's boy you are? I'm surprised she's willing to marry into that. Oh well, to each their own.

Talk to her and I guess your mom to figure out what is and what isn't acceptable in order for you guys to live in the house. As long as everyone agrees, then you should be fine. By the way, how do you feel about marrying her?!?!?!

Answer 10

Get a job! Get out of your mother's house! I don't knowof any gal worth marrying who would WANT to marry a guy in your position. Red flags everywhere. Get your life together - time is running out.