Whats the best way to break up with a girl?

Answer 1

Be honest and upfront and don't come back a few days later saying you've changed your mind.

Answer 2

Do it nicely. Don't send her an Email or a txt or a letter or a note or do it over the phone. At least show some respect for her by doing it to her face.

Don't make it harder than it is by either making it sound as though it is her problem or making it sound as if you really, really don't want to break up with her (but you are anyway).

Be completely honest with her.

Make sure you do it in a place with out heaps of other people - coz she is very likely to be upset and it will make it harder for both of you if there are people around.

Get it over and done with - don't keep putting it off until you've plucked up the courage. You probably never will but its not fair to her to lead her on.

Show her respect.

Keep it short - don't lead her on.

Unless she starts it - don't give her a 'good bye' kiss. Thats just mean and may give her the idea you don't mean what you're saying.

You obviously liked, or even loved thegirl once. So don't be negative to her. Keep it positive and don't drag her down. Tell her what a great girl she is.

If you are breaking up with her because of something she did - like cheated on you - be honest with her. Don't hurt yourself by making it your fault, but don't be rude to her. Just tell the truth - you don't feel you can trust her again or whatever.

Answer 3

there isn't a best way to break up with someone. no matter how u say it or do it the other person will still get hurt. i guess u just have to tell her how u feel about the relationship. make sure when u tell her whatever it is, just make sure u take the blame. for example, baby or whatever her name is, i feel like we going backward than forward. and i just u to know that it is not ur fault. lately i have been trying to find out who i am and i still can't find it. so i think it will best if we stop talking for awhile until i get my act together. u know we can still be friend and all but i'm not ready for this kind of relationship. ok try this one or u could speak from ur heart. good luck

Answer 4

Here's How:

1. The spark is missing.
Tell the her you enjoy spending time together, but for whatever reason, you just don't feel the spark.

2. You don't want to mislead the person.
Explain that you care too deeply about her to ever lead her on, or make her feel the relationship has a chance to progress.

3. Be encouraging.
Let her know she's a great catch, will recover, and will meet someone new.

4. Give positive feedback only.
Honestly answer any questions about the breakup. Don't be nasty. Remember, she's a nice girl.

Answer 5

So, how should you break up with a girl? When you approach her, do three things:

1. Be sensitive, and make sure the two of you have some privacy. Get away from crowds—especially your friends. It would be embarrassing for her if a dozen of your peers are with you.

2. As you talk, be honest. Say something like, “You’re a very special person. I just don’t think a dating relationship is right for us. I’d like for us to be friends, but let’s take some time in order for things to cool down.”

3. Never break up with a note. It’s OK to write your feelings down on paper, then read it to her. But don’t write something out, hand it to her and walk away. Breaking up must be done in person and with sensitivity.

Another way:

The spark is missing.
Tell the person you enjoy spending time together, but for whatever reason, you just don't feel the spark.

You don't want to mislead the person.
Explain that you care too deeply about the person to ever lead them on, or make them feel the relationship has a chance to progress.

Be encouraging.
Let them know they're a great catch, will recover, and will meet someone new.

Give positive feedback only.
Honestly answer any questions about the breakup. Don't be nasty. Remember, they're a nice guy or girl.
Don't blame the person.
Don't in any way make them feel like the breakup is their fault. Let them leave the relationship believing it was a poor fit between the two of you.

Tell him or her it's not about them.
Make it clear that he or she doesn't have any major physical or intellectual faults. Nice people have a tendency to analyze the breakup for months. If they think it has something to do with a hook nose or lack of knowledge about Renaissance painters, they'll beat themselves up for years.

Don't continue getting physical.
Making a nice person believe there's a chance to continue the relationship, when you have no intention of really dating them again, is just plain wrong.

Deliver the message clearly.
If you think the person will have a hard time leaving you alone, be as clear and business-like as possible in communicating your message that the relationship is over.

Answer 6

Do it kindly, and *IN PERSON*! Breaking up with her by phone or worse- text messaging- may seem like the easy way out, but she'll get the word out, trust me. It'll just make you seem like a coward to everybody who follows the gossip mill. Breaking up with her in person is the thing to do - no matter what you think her reaction will be.
Just don't be a jerk - lie about your feelings if you have to, and make her feel like the time you've been dating her was meaningful to you, even if it wasn't, and give her a good reason why you're breaking up. Something better than "we just aren't meant for each other", for example - it's too vague. If she starts to cry, don't run away, but don't view this as a boyfriend talking to his girlfriend - act as if you're a friend giving another friend bad news, as if you want to keep the friendship, and she will hopefully take it well.
Good luck!

Answer 7

Tell her that you value her company and friendship (but only if you really do). Let her know that your feelings toward her are not romantic in the way you think she is looking for in a relationship to continue as is. Tell her that you don't want to hold her back from finding someone who will truly love her and appreciate her the way she deserves to be treated and you think it is best that you part ways...romantically. Leaving the door open for friendship is always a plus with girls.

Answer 8

Be honest and to the point yet in a sensitive manner. Remember you are dealing with someone's feelings. Don't drag things out or be dramatic. Those break ups are the worst.

Answer 9

Be honest with her either way its going to be hurtful but don't do it over the email break up with her over the phone after school or after work not before for that will be distracting to her do not drag on if she asked you why tell her that it wasnt meant to be and your sorry and take care good luck

Answer 10

Be straight forward. Don't lie if you are asked a direct question. Do not prolong her pain or beating around the bush.

You may choose to keep some things to yourself if you need to so as not to insult her if you are breaking up with her for something she cannot help, but do not lie.

Answer 11

Break ups are hard but i think quick and honest is the best way and she will to maybe not now but someday she will be glad you did it that way