Why is it that when I'm super nice the girls are not interested but when I cancel dates and don't call as much then they want me more? I am so confused as to how to behave around girls anymore. I mean you girls tell guys to call and or open car doors but then when we do you don't like us? By the way do you want guys with tatoos and smoke cigarettes?
2006-11-30 07:35:20 · 19 answers · asked by Believe me 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't like guys with tatoos or smokers but I admit I go mad when u don't call after you've showed interest in me, so it's a good tactic, but be good and do it only once or she'll suffer a lot if she likes u and once is enough to make her like u more
2006-11-30 07:39:01 · answer #1 · answered by south e 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's all about the maturity level of the woman. If you're young and you're dating young girls then of course they act immature. It's also about a challenge. Some people don't want someone that they know they can have. Some women like a challenge. So if you give them a hard time you appear more mysterious and it could turn a woman on to know that you aren't thinking about her. It will make her think about you more.
I must admit that I used to be the same way. It took for me to get hurt by the not so nice guys in order to appreciate when a good man is in my life. I love the guys that are nice and not afraid to say how they feel. So, like I said it all depends on the age and level of maturity of the girl/woman.
As far as smoking cigarettes and having tatoos that again depends on the woman. Each woman is different. I don't mind a smoker with tatoos.
2006-11-30 15:44:48 · answer #2 · answered by Heaven26 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First things first.. tattoos and smoking, are personal choices.. don't change that about yourself because you want to date a woman. Get a tattoo, because you want one. Smoke, because you enjoy it (I'm not condoning smoking... it's your personal choice).
As far as women go? Sounds like you're picking up the wrong women. If you want to keep being a good guy, find an older woman or at least a mature woman, that's not into bar hopping, and wants a real relationship. They are out there and they're usually done with the "bad boy" routine.
2006-11-30 15:43:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know, nothing beats being yourself. It's too much work to try to figure out what pleases people, and it's too much work to maintain. After all, if things work out, they won't be getting to know the real you if you've never been that person, and the point of relationships is intimacy.
Just be who you are, and go for girls that seem to be the same. Eventually you'll find someone you like and who likes you, and it will be for the right reasons.
But to more specifically answer your question, I think a lot of young, immature girls like "bad boys", because they like drama. They like to be the long-suffering girl who'll finally tame the savage beast. I guess a lot of older girls feel the same way, but I do think it's an issue of maturity. A lot of girls never grow out of it though, and then they find themselves with someone who's made their lives miserable and wonder why.
Save yourself the time and the heartache if you can.
2006-11-30 15:46:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girls like nice guys, and the only reason why we come chasing- after you cancel is because we want to be w/ you,
And it is nice when guys open doors and whatever, we're just not use to it since our generation lacks certain desirable qualities
And if you smoke and have tats who cares why change for someone else other than yourself
2006-11-30 15:41:32 · answer #5 · answered by hakienitz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems to be an age old situation that "ladies love outlaws" as one song goes. Girls are attracted to the rogues for some reason, but not all girls are that way. Girls just don't want you to be too easy to get. Be a gentleman, but not a puppy dog. Girls like boys who listen to them and pay attention to them without being a doormat the girls can walk on. You must be strong and assertive and confident.
2006-11-30 15:41:21 · answer #6 · answered by John D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
women are like dogs that chase cars. They love the chase but they don't know what to do once they catch it. Those women usually have low self esteem issues. They don't feel they deserve better so they date ***holes. After years of this it rubs off on them and they think that is the way to act in a relationship.
2006-11-30 15:48:12 · answer #7 · answered by cpl_dvldog 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some girld like guys that treat thim bad its just thim and others like the nice guy the one that called when he said he is going to. The thing you need to know id how to tell what kind of girl your girl is... So test her. But dont let her know you are. Ask her questions like. "so whats the crazest thing that you have done?" and get some back grownd on her ould b.f.s
2006-11-30 15:43:53 · answer #8 · answered by can_love_kill 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Woman have this crazy notion that they can change the "bad boy." Some women say that they like the dangerous aspect. I think that this behavior in women says clearly that the woman is immature. I call it the "I'll screw Han Solo any day before Luke Skywalker" syndrome.
2006-11-30 15:41:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
1st...some girls do like that some girls dont!
me I like a guy to not give me full attention coze ummm I always have that and I would love and be more attracted towards him if he didnt give me attention at the 1st place!
but later he can.....
I would love to see him open doors for me..thats very sweet
and tatoos on guys and cigaretes...yuck! no
2006-11-30 15:40:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋