I am in love with someone very special to my heart. Him and I have been through so much together, many ups and downs. When we have good times, they are the really good, and when we have bad times, they are really bad....we've broken up a few times over the past 3 years and ended up breaking up for 1 year...but for some reason we keep coming back to eachother or running into eachother...the point is, he will be home in 2 weeks and he wants to see me. I love him and all, but Im afraid of opening up healed wounds. What should I do?
2006-11-30 07:31:42 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My suggestion, tell him exactly that. You've finally healed the wounds that were caused by his departure and fear having them open up again. Tell him you don't want to get hurt again. Perhaps even ask him "What makes you think it'll work this time when it hasn't before?". Ask yourself if he's worth the risk. You use the word 'love', are you sure it's love? If so, isn't love worth all risks?
I know this is more questions than answers, but it all comes down to you, no one can make this decision for you. Hope this was helpful.
May your choices in life bring you closer to your goals.
2006-11-30 07:41:26 · answer #1 · answered by Kianha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its so hard not to let him back into your heart once he's already permanently there. I've been on and off with my ex only twice since I was 16 and both times he ended up being at fault and he knows it. As much as everyone told me not to trust him and not to let him back into my life I did and I had to learn the hard way. It hurts so much knowning the love that two people show for eachother can turn into one doing everything to hurt the other. All it does is bring you down as a person you need to be strong and move on with your life. You do have your own life to live but in actuality no matter what anyone says you will follow your heart. Try to listen to your head and your heart maybe one will overcome the other and lead you in the right direction. I wish mine did.
2006-11-30 15:38:22 · answer #2 · answered by Ashley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you should see him and see what happens and if old wounds are opened then they were never really closed, and they need resolve. The back and forth between you 2 is not healthy for you mentally or physically not to mention any other relationships you may be in at the time.
2006-11-30 15:37:12 · answer #3 · answered by William R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to see him you should go to a public place like a restaurant. You need to drive yourself so when you are ready to leave you can go your separate ways. Situations like this are hard but you can make it through. You need to be strong for a bit longer. Distance makes the heart grow fonder.
2006-11-30 15:53:36 · answer #4 · answered by jonesty1284 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is quite obviously your choice to make, and yours alone.
Why're you dating him? Are you searching for marriage?
If you are, or if you're considering staying with this guy, you have to find your common ground, and learn how to argue. I can't stress that point enough;
Couples who don't learn how to argue don't have lasting relationships. If you haven't reached common ground on the previous arguments, you need to.
But in the end, this is your decision. If you don't feel you can take these risks for this guy, then you probably shouldn't bother.
2006-11-30 15:40:54 · answer #5 · answered by dr_death28314 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See him, but be guarded, and don't rush into anything
2006-11-30 15:40:45 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋