Mental health ( please help x)?

Question

I have sufferd from derpression and social phobia for many years, and i have seen many thearpist
but now i think i need to go hospital where i can get the help i need becuasei scare myself sometime how many sucidal thoughts i have,
i am seeing a thearpist at the moment, but i am to scared to tell her that i think i need to go in to hospital becuase fear of being judged for example if she says " your not ill enough for that"
what could i say to her?
and have you been in to hospital with a similar promblems
and how did you find it?
thanks very much xxxx

Answer 1

Like everyone is saying, therapists are not there to judge.

Only by being honest with your therapist can they really help you, otherwise therapy is pretty much a waste of time. And this is exactly the kind of problem they are there to help you solve.

Inpatient hospitalization seems to help in limited ways. It keeps you safe by putting you in a safe place, also it takes you away (briefly) from everyday stressors. Overall, I don't think it's much of a long term solution though. I don't know anyone who went to the hospital and came out all better. There needs to be follow up treatment.

Sometimes going inpatient is the best idea, it will get you started or adjusted on medication. If that is something you need that is not being addressed, the hospital is one way to make something happen with that. If you feel like you are truly a danger to yourself or someone else, it is probably the best place to be.

But if you are trying to solve a more long term problem with a more long term solution, I recommend seeing if you can get into an outpatient program called Partial Hospitalization. It is intensive treatment day program. The one I went to had a doctor there at all times and was very focused on A) getting each person stabilized and B) teaching coping skills and such. This is the kind of thing you can carry with you long after the program ends...these life skills. The program I went to was based on something called DBT. (for more info check out www.dbtselfhelp.com).

The point of the program was to keep people from needing to go to the hospital or helping them transition out of it. From listening to what most people in the program had to say, I found that almost all found the partial program significantly more helpful than being inpatient.

The Partial program is a somewhat new concept and I don't think it is offered everywhere (but hopefully, eventually it will be.) It was the best thing that ever happened to me, in 20 + years of trying to get help. If there is not one near you (or even if there is), ask about DBT groups. They can really change your life in a lot of ways.

This is a tough road, but there is a light at the end. While trapped in the midst of major depression, it does not feel that way. But I promise you, there is hope even though you can't feel it right now. I speak from many years of painful experience and suffering and trying to make things right.

Answer 2

the only way that she might say 'you're not ill enough' is if u don't give her all the details. u really need to confess to her how close to the edge u are right now. and if she still says 'u are not ill enough', remind her that it is her ethical duty to look after her patients, and that u have struggled to admit these details to her, and that she needs to take your suicidal thoughts very seriously..... if she's got any common sense, she will listen to u. i've been an out patient at a mental health hospital because i overdosed.... i too suffered, and still suffer to some degree, from social phobia and depression.. i found the staff to be very kind and helpful, and i spent a lot of my days in the art classes they ran there, and i also learnt relaxation methods, meditation, and ways on how to boost confidence levels.... i guess i was lucky to live near a good facility, but i should imagine that most metal departments will offer some kind of self - help regime, they don't just medicate u up to the eyeballs and leave u in your bed all day anymore.... good luck. hope things get better for u. IM me if u ever want to talk.

Answer 3

The basis of a counsellor's training is to be non-judgemental so do not fear that they will judge you. I was hospitalised many years ago for depression and it did not do much to help me but everybody is different and so I do not want you to take an example as being the same for everyone. You are a child of the Universe, no less than the trees and the stars, you have a right to be here. Exercise helps although it is often the very last thing on my mind. I was prescribed Prozac but I could not take it as it made me feel even weirder than I felt before, I now take 150 milligrammes of sertraline hydrochloride daily and that gets me out of bed in the morning.
Talk to your GP. I wrote everything down that I wanted to say, it took me nearly three days and I burst into tears as soon as I got into the surgery. Very embarrassing!
You can say anything that you feel like saying. Never mind what anyone thinks. Try to turn your thoughts away from suicide, it is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.
I hope that you will feel better soon and I'll be thinking of you. Good luck!

Answer 4

Sorry to hear you're feeling this way. First of all, if you are having suicidal thoughts and you think you are capable of carrying them out , go to A & E and speak to someone there. You are ill enough to be put into hospital. This is what I have done when I've been feeling the same way. The fact that you have got a therapist will help you, remember to tell them this. The staff at A & E will take you seriously and will treat you respectfully and with kindness. Hospital is a good place to be when you are in danger as it offers a place of safety, you may be placed into a psychiatric ward, but this is not as bad as it seems. The ones I have been in were good and the staff were helpful in dealing with my depression. Hope this helps you, please visit A & E (you won't be judged in any way). Good luck to you, if you want more info please email me.

Answer 5

If you are worried about your therapist, go straight to the hospital emergency room and tell them that you are having sucidal thoughts. By law if you are a danger to others or yourself, they must place a 72 hour hold on you for evaluation. Once you are admitted, be totally honest and open with the doctors and they will get you the help you need. Don't be concerned about being judged, a true heath professional, will not make assumptions, and will do their best to help you.

My thoughts and prayers are with you. Good Luck

Answer 6

i am answering ur letter as i personaly havent had mental health problems but my brother was suffering the same fear and anxiety u are feeling i know loads of people think oh no im going into hospital for my mental health but thats not the point as my brother was at the stage if he didnt go into hospital he would have harmed himself so i have always supported my brother as my parents are dead i told him to go voulantaliar as if he was sectioned we had no control i will tell u he was in hospital for five weeks so they could give him proper medication to help the way he felt and though and after they 5 weeks he come home a more stable man so go to hospital hopefully u will get help and youll feell a whole lots better 2 as i know my brother does it makes family life so much easier knowing he got the help needed

Answer 7

Please talk to your therapist. It may just be that your meds need adjusting or changed. Hospital is severe and doesnt always help - I havent been there personally but I have friends who have and they are not the nicest of places to be as a patient. The people I've known are really really bad and have been sedated - when I visited them they were not the same people. Try to get something done and use hospital as a real last resort - you'll be better recovering on your own environment with people that you know and love - inmates at these hospital can be scary xxxx

Answer 8

Firstly, well done for being honest with yourself. It is one of the hardest things to do to admit how you are really feeling. I'm not sure how much information you have, but most counties operate a 'crisis' line, often around the clock for people who need support in a mental health crisis. It is run by trained mental health workers. If you feel your thoughts are becoming more intrusive PLEASE ring them if you have their number (some numbers might be on your local councils website). They will listen and not be judgemental. If you feel you can wait until morning ring your GP first thing and request an emergency appointment.

Please don't leave it until your thoughts take over. Take care.

Answer 9

Admit yourself into a hospital and tell the attending psychiatrist what you think. They will admit you and they will not judge you. That is what they do. People admit themselves all the time for similar reasons, so you shouldn't have an issue finding help. Call your local hosptial for details.

If you have that fear with your psychiatrist, you might want to change doctors. Obviously there are trust issues there.

Answer 10

For starters stop thinking what your therapist might say, scary as it might be she/he are there to help not judge you. If you want help to recover or improve your life you need need to tell those working with you how you really feel. If you hold back on your thoughts and feelings then you might not get the support you need. Hospital is a last resort, today there is lots of help in the community. If you are in touch with Mental Health services and have a social worker ask them what services are available to you. If not see your GP.

Who ever you talk to whether its your therapist / GP you need to tell them how sever of your suicidal thoughts.

See If there is a local mind organisation in your area get in-touch with them see what self-help / support groups they run. (yearly membership is usually about £2.50)