My Girl is a Gemini and for the last year, we have been on again, off again. She claims she loves me but everytime we fight she says the following....Don't call me, Don't IM me, Don't email me". Then two or three months later I might email and she'll talk to me again. It's like she can't get enough of the people in chatrooms and feels I guess that she'll find someone new. Then when she can't she comes back. However, everytime she does it, I get more and more ok with it and don't want to bother. What should I do? Should I try to patch things up or just leave her alone for a while? OR For good?
2006-11-30 07:20:38 · 20 answers · asked by Patrick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
u have to be a Man. listen, here's a simple rule i told my friend (who's kinda lets women walk all over him):
you are the Guy. you need to lead the relationship, and allow the woman to follow. for example, let's say u liked a girl. instead of being scared and shy of rejection, just LET HER KNOW. you tell her how u feel, and see how she responds. if she follows you, that means she likes you too. then the next step is, try to hold her hand. instead of being scared, just do it. if she accepts ur hand, she is following ur lead. if she let's go, or tells u not to, then she is letting you know how she feels. and that's fine, sure ur the Lead, but u need to Respect whether or not she follows or not. this goes for the kiss... if u feel it's right, kiss her. if she likes u, she will follow. if she doesn't, or is unsure, she will say no. and so on and so forth, including sex.
as the Man , u have to RESPECT what a woman has to say. but letting her know ur intention is not bad. so in ur situation, my advice to you would be first to figure out if you WANT to stay in this relationship. if u do, then let her know what kind of boyfriend u want to be, what kind of girlfriend u want to have, and what kind of relationship u want to have. and that things are not going the way u'd like them to, and therefore she needs to figure out what kind of b/f, g/f, relationship SHE wants. if she wants to follow ur lead, she will try. if she has different ideas, she will leave. but that's OK. remember.... u want someone who is going to agree with, and follow ur lead. or help you find a BETTER way than you originally thought. but not someone who has no idea and confuses the heck out of u.
good luck :) be a Good leader
2006-11-30 07:28:53 · answer #1 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She ither wants you or she doesnt dont let her have you when she wants you, if she truely loves you she will stop and slove the problems that the two of you are facing. Going back and forth is simply a not wanting to let go of the comfort. But seeing as she keeps on dumping u and going back (so it sounds) she wants a guy with different qualities. Are you going to let her do this? She knows that she has the power despite the hurtful things that she says you will always take her back! WHy? WHy? Are you letting her walk on you if it is love tell her that the next time she leaves she cant come back, and to think about the hurtful things she says in the moment. (if you never do anything to change this, Nothing will change) *YOU POSTED THIS SO BE A MAN AND I KNOW IT IS GOING TO BE HARD BUT TELL HER EXACTLY WHAT I SAID IN YOUR OWN WORDS AND FEELINGS. Dont let her step on you say it in a firm voice it will work Promise!
2006-11-30 15:29:50 · answer #2 · answered by myka bellisari 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah you should let her walk all over you as long as possible. The longer you let her rip your spine out, if you even have one, she will just love you more and more. Once she realizes just how pliable you are, she'll come back for good. Yeah right.
2006-11-30 15:25:51 · answer #3 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ugh. Leave it alone! This chick doesn't know what she wants but she does know that no matter what she has a ready-whipped-boy waiting for her when whatever crawled up her butt finally falls out and dies...the fact that you KEEP taking her back is beyond sad! Whats going on with you that you're willing to keep taking this abuse? Please, please, PLEASE stand up for yourself and tell this little bipolar banshee to move on. Don't wait for her to dump you again...you tell her FIRST. The fact that she feels that she can treat you this way and than come storming back whenever she pleases proves that she doesn't respect you, and she DOESN'T love you.
2006-11-30 15:29:13 · answer #4 · answered by eXie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must like the drama and the feeling of getting dumped. If I'm wrong, then forget this girl competely. She's only with you when she's lonely. Is it really worth it?
2006-11-30 15:23:42 · answer #5 · answered by tipper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont you think you deserve to be treated better? how would she feel if you treated her the way she is treating you? I would give her the space she wants and tell her you just want to be friends and explore your options now. You are not a yoyo and should not be treated as one. Good luck!
2006-11-30 15:24:23 · answer #6 · answered by sweetlaughter434 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think you should live her for good because it sounds like your just and booty call for her and if she loved you like she says she should it be playing games like she does and you can fin someone better just wait and see. You are going to find someone dont worry..
2006-11-30 15:26:59 · answer #7 · answered by carla 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey wake up quit being stupid move on with your life aint quit worrying about her. She is just playing with your mind play with hers and drop her quick you need to desperately find someone else.
2006-11-30 15:24:59 · answer #8 · answered by ambular 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would move on and never contact her. She obviously does not respect you if she keeps dumping you over and over again.
2006-11-30 15:24:00 · answer #9 · answered by tannedknight45 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wel i think that she might just be using you i think that you should leave her for good because thats not love at all she just wants you to be with her and thats all so she wont feel lonely.
2006-11-30 15:30:27 · answer #10 · answered by angelbaby08 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋