Make a woman enjoy sex with a man less? Or do they make the man enjoy it less with a woman who uses them? I was just wondering cause I was just given "something" but wont use it if it will ruin the experience for anybody.
2006-11-30 07:19:51 · 30 answers · asked by Lalalalalala 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thats what I'm wondering...does using it decrease sensitivity?
2006-11-30 07:25:22 · update #1
Use it together, so that you can both enjoy the moment and he will not fell threatened.
2006-11-30 07:22:44 · answer #1 · answered by TRUSTME 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If both of you are comfortable with yourselves there should be no problems. See sextoys as a variation to be used only sometimes. Many men like seeing women play with sextoys, so as long as you don't make it a daily habit it should only be more exiting for him!
Sextoys are different from having sex, since it might make you orgasm faster or even better, but it lacks the human touch and love that makes sex so special. I would say it doesn't take anything away from normal sex if you keep it for special occations.
To answer the aditional question: It does not reduce sensitivity if you don't use them much. If however, you get accustomed to a particular buzz (which are usually quite strong) it might be more difficult to enjoy something that is less strong. When they are not used often there will be no problem, however. If you would feel less sensitive after using it for a while, you can just stop using it and gradually you'll get your sensitivity back.
2006-11-30 07:25:57 · answer #2 · answered by confused 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My girlfriend and I look at porn together all the time. It's a great way to get in the mood for sex. She doesn't mind if I fantasize about the porn stars when on my own, either. It allows me to experience my desires in a way, without going out and doing it in the form of cheating. Plus, she understands that it's not like I would ever have the chance of actually having sex with those actresses. Porn is a great way to stay sexually healthy and enhance a relationship. The same goes for sex toys, both during sex or solo masturbation. Saying that one is okay, and not the other, is a double standard. As for the person who said sex toys and masturbation aren't okay in a relationship: a huge majority of dating/married couples continue to masturbate, even when receiving regular sex. Having some alone time to get intimate with yourself and fantasize is perfectly normal and doesn't at all hurt the relationship. If I wasn't able to fantasize, I might get tired of having sex with my girlfriend every day (bad for the relationship), or might want to find somebody else so that I could relieve the tension created by my desires (especially ones that she is unable or unwilling to fulfill). Those desires don't just magically go away.
2016-05-23 05:35:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will not affect him if you use it on your own time. It is a different kind of experience that is completely selfish and for you only. He may want to use it with you which can be fun. I think you are putting way to much thought into this. Use it, have fun, just don't let it replace the man in your life. If it does then you need to find a new man.
2006-11-30 07:25:33 · answer #4 · answered by micah z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What toys do is enchance the pleasure for a woman when it comes to foreplay. Because it doesn't have anything to do with how been with a man feels. Because in your mind it's just a toy that makes you feel good. Nothing better than the real thing.
2006-11-30 07:34:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't make it less of anything for anyone unless you allow it to get that way. Used with common sense they should enhance the pleasure and take some of the pressure off to perform.
2006-11-30 07:23:20 · answer #6 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually it has minimal to no impact on how much the guy enjoys his girl, but it makes things quite a bit better for the girl. The man enjoys being able to please his girl better, and the girl enjoys that the man can please her longer, better, and more completely. At least, that's my experience.
2006-11-30 07:24:55 · answer #7 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the person(s). Some woman find that after being stimulated with a vibrator, it's harder for them to achieve orgasm "naturally".
Others use it as foreplay and save the "Big O" for their man.
Just experiment and don't do anything the you or he aren't comfortable with.
2006-11-30 07:23:07 · answer #8 · answered by Dolphin lover 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We have toys and use them to change things up and enhance our experiences sometimes. Depending on what you have you can let him use it on you, let him watch you use it on yourself etc. You might be surprised how much you both enjoy your new little "something"
2006-11-30 07:23:46 · answer #9 · answered by his temptress 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my experience, toys have always been a welcomed addition. If your partner objects, he is not concerned with your fulfilment. Try it without his knowledge and take it from there. Have fun!
2006-11-30 07:26:49 · answer #10 · answered by ggordo594 C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually most men like toys in the bed and you will too. Believe me after a break up there your best friend. They dont cheat or lie all it needs is batteries.
2006-11-30 07:26:58 · answer #11 · answered by samcamcam 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋