When my daughter was born 8 years ago her father would try to hang out with me a few times. We went out once but he would come over to see my daughter then when she would go to sleep he would sleep with me then leave. He toyed with me like this off and on for years. He would go through several different girlfriends as well as I dated people. Why would he not want to be with the mother of his child? I understand there are factors soemtimes but I am attractive have a good job, am fun, and we have a lot in common. He has a girlfriend now and I'm currently single. He has never been married and does not have any other kids he is also almost 40 and I am 28. Why would he rather be with these other girls than me and our daughter. He also mentioned a long time ago we should have another child. Does he just not have any feelings for me?
2006-11-30 07:13:03 · 8 answers · asked by Venus 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Move on... the situation you're in is not healthy. You can't keep pining for someone who's never going to be there for you emotionally.
Find someone who will appreciate you for who you are...Why do you want to be with someone who's a little too old to be playing bachelor?
2006-11-30 07:16:19 · answer #1 · answered by Jmyooooh 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because he cannot commit to just one person. As long as you keep giving it up to him there will always be a revolving door to your bedroom. He wants his cake and eat it too. Tell him that you are no longer available to him for his sexual pleasure. You do not mention if he pays for your daughter and how much. Just take care of your child. Letting him in and out of your life makes you an enabler and so long as you lay with him....you won't get anything else.
2006-11-30 07:18:08 · answer #2 · answered by ladygwen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no....he sounds like a raunchy old man.....another child with him would just spell trouble for you because he'll still be dating other girls and you'll only end up hurting yourself in the long run....you really need to find time for yourself, find another guy that will really love you and not leave you this way, but if you're not ready to date yet, you can just devote enough time to your daughter, grow with her.....you really need to talk to him personally to see how he feels about you, but then again, since he has a gf right now, an answer you want to hear in not guarranteed.
2006-11-30 07:28:01 · answer #3 · answered by mexicangurl_442@sbcglobal.net 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well- sounds like he's not ready to commit. Just because he's 40 doens't necesarily mean he should get married or be commited already. How long did you guys date before you had your baby? Why ddi he not try to work something with you to give a family to your daughter? You know what? I'm sure you're a very beautiful intellingent woman but- this has nothing to do with the choices he wants to make in his life right now. I'm 23 and my son is 3 now. When i dated his father he was 18 and had a good job. I'm latin american 5-5, 38dd cup, big buddoncadonk and very pretty face. I'm not conceited but I know i look great and still- he left me! he didn't want to be with me neither give my son the opportunity to have a family. So- by you telling us that you're pretty and you have a great job has nothing to do with this. Sounds like he's not even worried about your looks kuz you could be miss america but if doens't lvoe you enough to be with you or give you the respect of being his wife then- he's not for you. Seems like you love him still and you're just hoping that he'll come to realize that he lost a good woman despite all the ones it can take him to realize this. How long are you willing to wait?? How about this- you need to ignore him, let him come and see your daughter but don't let him stay. By you letting him stay means that you're ok with his behavior because there's no strings attached. I'm not telling you to go and look for another man but- just wait. When you least expect it- someone one great and absolutely wonderful will come into your life and make it all better. You need love, attention and affection and he's not willing to give you that. There's nothing wrong with you feeling this way about his behavior or anything. He's just going through a different stage in his life. Don't let him play with you by coming when he wants to or making you believe that something can happen in the future by insinuating to have another child together. You know better than that! You''re a beautiful, intelligent, strong woman! jsut remember that. Before you love someone else- you need to learn to love yourself. Seems like you think you're the problem or reason why he doesn't want to be with you. YOU"RE WRONG!!! HE"S THE PROBLEM! don't ever think that if a guy doesn't want to be with you it's because something you did- it's because the guy is just not ready to be commited. Sounds like you have your mind set on what you want to do with your life. Think about this though- every person you date now and that you have to introduce your daughter to is not good. Try to limit the ammount of guys you "date" because you don't want your daughter looking at you like you're slu t or something. Get to knwo people but- don't bring them home unless they are ready to commit to you! remember- you have a daughter now and her needs and feelings should be met first before your womanly needs. Love yourself first and God will provide a great man for you. Just pray and you'll see!
Love and take care- Mari
2006-11-30 07:30:23 · answer #4 · answered by Ms.Budonkadonk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man deserves a good beating. He is taking you waaay for granted and has no love for his own flesh and blood(the little girl). Any man who behaves like this is no man, he is a dog. Let him lie, miss. He will do absolutely no good for you.
2006-11-30 07:16:07 · answer #5 · answered by Obi-wan Kenobi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the reason why he wont settle with you is because you give him what he wants, he knows you will be with him, with no commitment.....you need to let him know he cant be coming and leaving when ever he wants....you need to make it clear to him.....good luck.
2006-11-30 07:17:03 · answer #6 · answered by *NANCY* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is simply doing what you have allowed him to do. why buy the cow, the milk is free
2006-11-30 07:16:03 · answer #7 · answered by Kelly B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is afraid to compromised or maybe he dosent want that type of life
2006-11-30 07:16:53 · answer #8 · answered by user 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋