have you ever forgiven a partner who cheated on you with a one night stand?Did it work out?

Question

We had been having hot sex four days before.

He told me about this himself without prompting 3 weeks after the event.There was no way I would have otherwise found out.

He got drunk with college friends from 6pm onwards.He then offered to walk a girl he thought didn't like him to the train station.She missed her train.Between the two of them they got a hotel room-double/single I didn't ask.Once in the room he said he wanted to just sleep, but she suggested sex.She guided him into her and they had sex "twice but in the same sequence of events" he also remembers going down on her.The next morning he says he felt awful about it.

Roll on 3 weeks.We haven't had sex in a while. I notice he hasn't been calling as much as usual. We go out for a meal and when I get flirtatious and suggest going home with him, he backs off.

So last friday. He comes over and confesses.We are both 24 we have been together 5years and were both virgins before we met.

I mean we were sleeping together 4 days prior to him cheating.Things didn't seem too bad before this happened.

So last friday. He comes over and tells me what Basically its total devastation.But VERY oddly I went home with him that night...Now I feel like I'm losing the plot....
Also he did say sorry and he still loved me and wanted to continue the relationship.

Well he did usually walk his female friends to bus,home,taxi and this has never happened before.

And I slept with him about 5 hours after he told me.Then I spent the weekend with him and we had such a good time, and we talked it out,but I'm worried he thinks I'm as esay as that f*********** whore that I will surely hack up with a machete if I find her.

Answer 1

I have never faced that situation, but I would let her go. All the junk I heard about fidelity and she does this. Just keep moving, please

Answer 2

Ok, I have been where he is, and my man at the time forgave me, and we were together for years after. our breakup had nothing to do with it.
But you need to answer some questions before you can continue this relationship such as: 1. Will you HONESTLY forgive him and NOT bring it up everytime you fight?? 2. I can understand being persuaded once to have sex, but twice? 3. Was he kind of backing off your relationship out of guilt, or not sure if he wants to be in a relationship?

Nobody can give you the answers to stay or not, that is up to you. But if you choose to forgive him, make sure its cuz you honestly think it was a one time thing, not just because you have been together so long and dont want the hassle of dating someone new.

Answer 3

well I did the forgive and forget thing and she did it again. I wasn't in the ideal relationship though. But what it sound like to me is he wants to get out. If you were dating me for five years and wanted to go home with me I would take you home right then and there. If he went down then he knew what he was doing and didn't think about your feelings so I would suggest you go ahead and leave him. If you don't then you will end up wondering where he is and what he is doing. That will just pull you apart and make you sick though the rest of the relationship. Good luck with your decision

Answer 4

I was cheated on by my ex and yes being a christian I had to forgive him and yes it was hard because he was my 1st as well and to find out that he cheated on me with my cousin was the worst. We had been together for 6 yrs and we both wanted a baby so we were having sex all the time sometimes 3-4 times at night but in that whole time nothing. God knew he wasn't the one cause when he cheated on me with her....................guess what! She got pregnant. It's hard but it is possible. I loved him with everything within me but sometimes 2 people who think they belong together don't really belong at all. This boyfriend of yours had sex twice with this girl and wait 3 wks before he felt that he could be honest. That's just wrong. Love shouldn't have to hurt and if he really loved you then he would have told her no when she suggested sex to him. Weak mind; hard head!

Answer 5

Nope... I never forgave. I never ONCE forgave because I know myself well enough to know that I would always wonder. They would come home later than normal and all rational reasoning would be out the door and Id be throwing a fit about where they were and who were they with. If you dont have trust... YOu dont have anything. I would lose all respect for any guy who would cheat on me. In this situation he should have KNOWN better. No question!

Answer 6

That's a touchy subject. It's great that he feels bad, as he should. But how do you honestly feel? Are you going to be able to trust him the next time he goes out with his friends? What about when you aren't with him and he isn't answering your calls? How do you know he isn't still sleeping with her or someone else for that matter? This could be his way of breaking up with you. Sucks I know, but people can be harsh. I notice you don't mention him doing anything to apologize to you or make things right. If he really wanted to work things out, he wouldn't be pushing you away.

Hope it works out for you. But in my personal experience, it rarely does. Sorry.

Answer 7

cheating is never good, plain and simple, sounds like he wanted to expand his sexual experience to more than just one girl in his life and the opportunity crawled right on him, can understand but would have heavy heart like he now has. The big decision is with you, do you have enough feelings for him to work it out, you have every right to end it, only your heart knows this answer....
Note: If you do work it out I can offer some fun sexual advise, when you are ready for sex again, rent a hotel room and ask him to treat you like a stranger holding nothing back, you can be demanding and have him fulfill of few of your sexual fantasy's, this is a great time to take your sexual experiences to a new level, the ball is in your court

Answer 8

I've been going out with my fiance for almost 5 years and we had never had sex before each other. I've never had this situation though... I would like to think I would just break up with him if he cheated on me. I would definitely not talk to him for a really long time. But I don't know for sure... because he's been there with me for so long...

If I were you, I would definitely take some time off with him to think about it. This will probably be something you have to decide for yourself.

Answer 9

This has nothing to do with sex or love and everything to do with disrespect. If he thought that highly of you he never would have done anything after the drinking. If he wanted to be chivalrous he could have called the girl and cab and helped her into it and then called a cab for himself and gone home. Cab fare costs less than a hotel room. He walked her home because he liked her. Guys don't do anything for girls they aren't attracted to drunk or not!
Would you have done that to him if you were pissed?
If you would have then you dont respect him which means you don't want him.
If you let this slide you make it OK for him to do it again to you. Don't be dumb, respect yourself.

Answer 10

usually, identity say that there are not any 2d opportunities at the same time as it includes dishonest despite the indisputable fact that it sounds like there change into ALOT incorrect on your relationship and there is an probability that if those issues were addressed and dealt with he wouldnt do it back. at the same time as it isn't in any respect alright to cheat, human beings do make blunders and learn from them. there is also a probability that you'll positioned years of 'engaged on it' and remedy into this relationship in straight forward words to be sure that it wasnt the relationship that brought with reference to the dishonest despite the indisputable fact that the cheater that brought with reference to the breakdown in the relationship. provided that you've 2 childrens and that he looks truly sorry and that you seem leaning in the direction of operating it out. identity supply it a shot yet make constructive that both of you're on an same web page with what needs to regulate and how you'll bypass about it earlier you opt for to sticking it out with him. also understand that in case you adult males opt for to bypass ahead, you cant throw this decrease back at him later and collectively he has to note of that there'll be believe subject matters and emotional outcomes from his behaviour and that you've each and every top to decide on the help of them. best of success. i imagine alot of human beings end on thier marriages too actual lately. If he's otherwise a sturdy guy, identity say supply it a shot.

Answer 11

Personally I have never cheated on any of my girlfriends. I guess you could say I am a loyal fella. But if I found out that my partner cheated on me it would be over immediately. There must be trust in a relationship. Once trust is over then so are we. FINNISH HIM.