I love my boyfriend, if he is the same man I fell in love with. I found out, after 2 years of a perfect relationship, that my boyfriend was texting 2 other girls. I used to never worry about anything beause things were so perfect that I thought our bond was untouchable. I trusted him inplicitly and I felt secure and loved. He made me feel so special and he was so special to me. I thought nothing could ever replace the bond that we had. When I found out he was texting he said it was wrong and it had nothing to do with us. He said it was an ego boost for him and it made him feel like he still had it. What he did to boost his ego crushed mine. I know plenty of guys that would love to have what he has. I would never entertain that and have never given any hope to them. They know about my boyfriend...i've always been upfront and always will be. How do I get that feeling back in the relationship i'm in. I want to feel special and irreplacable again. Is this possible with him?
2006-11-30 07:05:30 · 7 answers · asked by electra4 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should feel special and irreplaceable, but it will take some time, are you sure you want to stay with him, ask your self is me and my b/f headed down that marriage path? if the answer is no, than why are you with him? your wasting your time, if the answer is yes, get some counseling together, and work things out, fight for your relationship (not the girls he was txt'ing) but work hard, and it will blossom, it will take some time, are you willing to put in that time?
2006-11-30 07:11:19 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that your boyfriend let you down. That was foolish on his part. Now he has a real problem with you concerning trust. I don't blame you on how you feel now. I would feel the same way. The only thing I can think too do is the both of you go to couples counselling to fix this.His excuse he used is unacceptable! Why would anyone want to jeopardize a relationship that was great?I think that he was being selfish and irresponsible, and now must face reality. You may never ever trust him again and don't need too. There are many good guys out there waiting for a terrific woman to come along. Cocoa
2006-11-30 15:18:45 · answer #2 · answered by cocoa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as he hasn't cheated, then, while there *is* a problem, it can be worked through. Love is about working together to break through these trials, and trials are always gonna be there. Now, whether your boyfriend is willing to, I dunno. But, as long as both people have strength and love for each other, there is no excuse to give up. I mean, that texting-other-girls crap needs to die right now, but perhaps you should go out of your way a little more to make if feel a little more "desirable". Now and then, when yall go out on a date, get really dressed up, to the point you make other guys jealous of him. So long as your boyfriend knows you love him, I think something as little as that would really make a difference.
I don't know what *he* could really do for *you*, since women are basically *completely* unpredictable, but if you have any thoughts that would help you feel more comfortable, then let him know outright. Don't hint at it, tell him to his face. We men are stupid; we having a hard enough time reading the English alphabet; you might as well throw that whole "body language" thing out the window.
2006-11-30 15:16:53 · answer #3 · answered by Jared C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has been lying to you for two years. Do you know if he's been doing more than just texting? It just doesn't seem right to me and I really don't things will be okay anymore bc i'm pretty sure your trust level with him has been demolished. You can try to trust him if he's been faithful but if it were me, i'd have a hard time trusting him whenever he gets a text.
2006-11-30 15:10:44 · answer #4 · answered by basmusiq 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure in time he will make you feel as he did before, keep the dialog open, just tell him how it hurt you, and I am sure that he will reassure you that you are very special to him! It takes time, when dealing with trust issues. You will know in your heart if the trust is their!
2006-11-30 15:12:13 · answer #5 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it well take time as you need to regain the trust you had for him.take care keep your eyes open
2006-11-30 15:10:12 · answer #6 · answered by beefcowsboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...he betrayed you. Find someone worth it
2006-11-30 15:07:36 · answer #7 · answered by xovenusxo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋