I read a lot about this and was expecting to see it in my son from the age of 7 months onwards (as the book said) but it never came! He is now 14 months and waves me of happily anytime I leave him with his grandparents.
I recently put him in a creche for the first time for 2 hours and he never batted an eyelid. The staff said he was great and he must feel really secure as he knows I'm coming back.
Is there something wrong?
2006-11-30 06:59:14 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
No there's nothing wrong at all. Sounds like you are doing a great job with him. Just remember to always try better than your best to be there when you say you will and you shouldn't have any problems. If he by chance all of a sudden freaks out when you leave him make sure you investigate what is happening in his world (where you are leaving him and the people he is with) if it's a daycare drop in unexpectedly and watch whats happening how he is being interacted with. Before you announce your self.
Best of Luck to you and him.
Happy Holidays!!! =)
2006-11-30 07:10:15 · answer #1 · answered by K W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong at all.
My son was 7 months when he started going to the childminder and he never batted an eyelid or said a peep as I dropped him off in the morning until he was about 14 months.
Unfortunately as he has got older he has got wise to the fact that I am going & leaving him, even thiugh he adores the childminder & her family. He is 20 months now and we still have the odd tear in a morning which is heartbreaking. I usually have to run out when he isn't looking cos if I say "bye bye" then he starts crying.
Just one of the downsides of being a working mom I suppose!!
2006-11-30 08:46:58 · answer #2 · answered by TheYorkshireRose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the idiots who are saying crap like 'he must be a very secure child' and 'he knows you will return so he has no need to cry' it's a load of bull. So if a child has separation anxiety the mother must be untrustworthy and neglectful?I think not all kids are different he just has a very independent personality that's all. kids who do go through it are completely normal and it is healthy for them to feel separation anxiety. Just as it is normal and healthy for your child not to. You are worrying about nothing unless he is withdrawn from you or seems to WANT to be away from you then carry on as you are don't give it another thought. Also if you are leaving him with familiar people then it is less likely he will cry for you try it with a knew nursery or stranger and he may suprise you.
2006-11-30 07:11:29 · answer #3 · answered by Smoochy Poochy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a baby in my daycare he is going to be a yr the end of December he is the same way. Some children are just easy. It has nothing to do with you as a parent it is also routine right?
2006-11-30 11:06:01 · answer #4 · answered by BabyDolll128 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 12 month old son just started to suffer from separation anxiety. He cries every morning when I leave him with my mom. It's heartbreaking so consider yourself lucky!
2006-11-30 08:17:38 · answer #5 · answered by marcella M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it means your a good mom who your son trusts to return. You probably left him with other very caring adults somewhat frequently through out his little life. He feels confident that when you leave him, you will be back soon. Good job.
2006-11-30 07:03:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong at all, it is quite normal for your children to feel so safe that you are coming for them that they will play happily for hours with someone else.
2006-11-30 07:01:58 · answer #7 · answered by stone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope, some toddlers never really experience it until they;re 2 or 3..
whats a creche??
2006-11-30 07:01:44 · answer #8 · answered by joy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds to me like you're doing a really great job xx
2006-11-30 07:09:59 · answer #9 · answered by : 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong. It may come, it may not. Let's hope it's not. But if it does - love and cuddles will help him through. Let your kids cling - because it makes them naturally strong, confident and happy adults.
2006-12-01 00:02:24 · answer #10 · answered by personwithgreeneyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋