I've recently started liking this girl. Im 18, shes 23. We flirt, chat, joke etc at work, we get on great. Then i have a break from work due to study, and when i see her, she either avoids me, or just says a simple hello. Eg one time i saw her in the library, but then she ran away! She didn't even say hi or anything. I mean, we get along so great at work, but whats up with this? I like her, but now im not too sure how she feels about me. Im confused to how she sees me. How can someone be so different? Any ideas? I get along ok with her friends and everything, so that isn't the problem. Although when i see her, she is with her friends. Maybe she feels or senses something is up? Any help would be appreciated. Also she is leaving in a month or so, so yeah...should i tell her i like her? How would that affect our working relationship?
2006-11-30 06:57:29 · 8 answers · asked by tao_gettos 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe when you guys are at work she is just trying to create a good work space by being friends with you, not to sound mean. It could be that she just is trying to make the time at work go by faster, or just to have a good work relationship with you. She could also just be really stuck up and when you're outside of work she feels that she doesn't have to talk to you--I've had that happen to me before. I think you should just tell her how you feel, and if she doesn't return those feelings then move onto someone nicer :)
2006-11-30 07:02:17 · answer #1 · answered by Katie Jo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell her anything. Listen to yourself. If you reread your question, you KNOW she' not into you. Don't set yourself up for rejection.
Let me tell you a thing or two about girls, about insecure girls, to be more specific. Insecure girls need attention, and lots of it. So when they are at work, they scope someone out to flirt with so all day they can have affirmation from a man. THEN, once they leave work and go, say, to school, they will flirt with a different guy in their class, so on and so on. This is all done in the sub-conscience, that way they don't have to feel bad about leading anyone on. If you called her out, she would act like she has no idea what you're talking about. In other words, your her single-serving-work-boy-toy.
What's really important is you are not giving yourself enough credit. You KNOW who's into you and who's just flirting for attention. Trust your instincts. Be nice to her, but stop throwing out the vibe. Move on to someone worthy of your attention.
2006-11-30 15:20:17 · answer #2 · answered by shishi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the problem is that she only sees you in the context of being a "work friend", and she has trouble relating to you outside of work. Before she leaves, try asking if she would like to go grab a cup opf coffee (or whatever, something low-key), without her friends being around and see what happens from there.
2006-11-30 15:07:00 · answer #3 · answered by randomthoughtpatterns 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what I think is that the girl likes you, but maybe one of her friends likes you to, and she doesnt want her friend to find out that the two of you like eachother. Another reasont that she may not be comfortable around you out of work is because thats when your not sort of 'forced' to be together, and when you dont have anything to do like out of school its nerve racking for some girls to be around the guys that they like. But because she's 23 there has to been some other reason why she acts like that...I think the best thing to do is just tell her that you like her just to like get it out there and if you starting going out it wont affect your working relationship. I know alot of couples who work together. Good luck though!
-jennifer
2006-11-30 15:03:15 · answer #4 · answered by Dana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry but she may be embarassed that you like her or vice versa clearly she is immature and her friends may just think of you friend wise and her friends may think thats all you could be and she might be worried they would make fun of her if they found out that she likes you... but really thats so immature i would move on if shes acting like that or just ask her and say what the eff man!
2006-11-30 15:03:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably the age thing, she doesn't want her friends to know she's seeing a guy 5 years younger than her. It happens sometimes. I don't see a problem with it but alot of girls think its wierd dating down
2006-11-30 15:01:40 · answer #6 · answered by arkainisofphoenix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be that she's 5 years older then you and embarressed to be be seen with you.
2006-11-30 15:00:30 · answer #7 · answered by Stephanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maby because ur younger than her and emabrased
2006-11-30 15:02:45 · answer #8 · answered by Hypercutie_2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋