ok . . . my gf broke up with me back in march and said she wanted to date around and see whats out there and all that good stuff after a 2 year relationship. . she starts dating this kid i went to high school with 2 weeks later . . . i hate the kid so its obviously a bad situation for me . . . so i try to get her back for about 2 months and in the middle of june i went NC . . on our 2 year anniversery at the beginning of july she send me a text that says . . "today was two year" just to remind me of it i guess . . . and ever since that text she has been calling/texting/leaving voicemail/or emailing me once atleast ever 2-3 weeks . . . a few times in was 2-3 times in a week . . . i have not responded to her or anything . . . so its been 5 months and its still going on .. .she is still with this same guy so she obviously knows we cant be friends be cause of the situation.. . . . . .so why does she keep trying to contact me?. .
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21 minutes ago
when they first started dating she even admitted part of the reason was because he was there and she hates being alone
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49 minutes ago
this is her latest message
hey (name)!! hows it goin? boy, youve sure been hard to get a hold of lately! i was thinkin about stoppin by sometime, so unless i hear otherwise from you ill see you soooon!! k byeee!!
<3 (name)
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2 days ago
i dont want to know what u people think i should do . .. just want to know what u think she is thinking
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25 minutes ago
this is the latest message i just got tonight
heyyyyyyy (name)....are you done not talking to me yet?? just wonderin if you wanted to hang out sometime or atleast come visit and see my house!! well please get back to me and let me know!! :)
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16 hours ago
she just sent me another one also that said shes not trying to stalk me or be mean she just wants to see how im doing and how schools going and stuff
2006-11-30 06:56:59 · 20 answers · asked by osb2904 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
best advice I can give you is to talk to her...the only way you're going to figure out what she's thinking is to ask HER.
Sounds like she still cares about you a whole lot, otherwise she wouldn't have bothered. But the fact that she's been doing this for MONTHS without any feedback from you does make her seem somewhat obsessive (which confuses me because SHE broke up with you).
hope this helps a little
2006-11-30 07:01:14 · answer #1 · answered by Smiley Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is still concern about you, and I am sure misses you. I think you are still hurt, about the way she broke up with you, and you love the idea, she is trying so hard to get in touch with you! you are enjoy every minute of it. If you want you could say, I am doing just fine, and school is going great! I think she may want to get back with you! but she knows she blew this relationship!
2006-11-30 15:06:19 · answer #2 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is missing you...Sending you the message about the two year anniversary makes me think maybe she regrets breaking up with you on some level....Maybe she is having doubts about the other guy.....Maybe she is looking for a reason to break up with the other guy.......And since you said she doesn't like to be alone maybe she wants to make sure she switches to somebody else right away...........Im thinking also that by you not responding...its driving her crazy.....
2006-11-30 15:07:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants to be sure that she still has you. She does not want to be with you, but she wants to keep you on the back burner just in case the new relationship does not work out. She needs to feel wanted by you, him(new guy) and who knows who else. Let it go, trust me, she is using you. You are getting nothing out of wasting your emotions on her and her drama.
2006-11-30 15:19:58 · answer #4 · answered by hc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me it sounds like she is still interested in you. She is obviously dissatisfied with the relationship she is in and I think she is wanting reassurance that if she decides to end it that you would still be there for her. It could also be that with you not returning her calls that she is wanting what she cannot have. Good luck
2006-11-30 15:07:13 · answer #5 · answered by Julie J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think she wants her cake and eat it. Try changing your number or barring her calls and texts. She's bonkers and just trying to get a reaction from you. You have done well to ignore her, and if you get back with her, you will be asking for trouble. She sounds bonkers and one to leave well alone.
2006-11-30 15:00:51 · answer #6 · answered by super lucky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to find some one new.Get your number changed. She's just trying to keep in touch with you because she know she's made a mistake. She don't want to see you with nobody else it's jealousy. She's JEALOUS. Start dating till you find that special someone. I HOPE YOU FIND SOME ONE REAL NICE TO YOU AND WON"T BREAK YOUR HEART.
2006-11-30 15:04:05 · answer #7 · answered by leah d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All that it is, is that she wants to still be friends with you and you accepted that part but you don't want to hang out with someone you hate so you cant be total friends. She is still your friend and wants to be your friend, you should talk to her and hang out sometime just yourselves. plus it will get her bf jealous of you for being able to hang out with her at the times he cant.
2006-11-30 15:01:47 · answer #8 · answered by fuderpod 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you asking this again? I've answered it and I'm sure a lot of others have too. Suck it up, man. Go talk to her and come up with a new question!
2006-11-30 14:59:25 · answer #9 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that she just wants to make sure that you are there for back up almost. it sounds kind of messed up but thats what it sounds like. she just want to keep you around in case she decides she wants you back. to keep her options open i guess you could say. well that is just my opinion.... not saying that she doesnt still care about you, but i think she needs to make up her mind......
2006-11-30 15:02:50 · answer #10 · answered by jessieka 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋