It's Proverbs 28:23 He that rebuketh a man afterwards shall find more favour than he that flattereth with the tongue.
I must be having a blonde moment because I don't get that verse at all, I don't see the analogy. Can you help?
2006-11-30 06:55:34 · 11 answers · asked by arewethereyet 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
BAsically, if someone is doing something wrong it is better for you to tell them what they do is wrong (rebuke them) than to just go along with whatever they are doing (flattering them). When the person is rebuked and knows that you mean this from your heart, you will find more favor than if you gave a pretend answer just to satisfy them.
2006-11-30 06:58:29 · answer #1 · answered by Guvo 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Because of being swift about speaking what they should not, members of that Corinthian congregation needed reproof. Paul was courageous enough to give that righteous reproof. Though it might hurt their feelings for a while, it would do them good, and in time they would appreciate that reproof. “He that is reproving a man will afterward find more favor than he will that is flattering with his tongue.”
COMMENDATION for a job well done warms the heart of a diligent worker. However, there is a type of speech that, while sounding similar to commendation and often mistaken for it, always causes harm.
At Proverbs 28:23 we read: “He that is reproving a man will afterward find more favor than he will that is flattering with his tongue.” This is a warning, not against commendation, but against flattery.
According to a dictionary, the words “to flatter” mean to praise too much, untruly or insincerely. The expression also refers to efforts at gaining the favor of someone by praise and attention. Different from commendation based upon a correct appraisal of hard work, flattery is grounded upon untruth.
Another factor in helpful observation is getting the sense of counsel when it is given. Discipline, properly applied, will train, whether it is administered individually or collectively. “He that is reproving a man will afterward find more favor than he will that is flattering with his tongue.” (Prov. 28:23) Knowing that counsel is for our good, we cherish it as we do our heavenly Father for administering it lovingly for our salvation. But getting the sense of counsel requires prayerful consideration. Just as we cannot expect to take in knowledge and retain it without fully digesting it, neither can we grasp the full significance of discipline and training, applying it wisely, without honestly meditating upon it, considering the facts in the light of the scriptures presented, just as the skilled hunter keeps adding up evidences of game to lead in an unerring trail.
2006-12-01 05:06:52 · answer #2 · answered by BJ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey! I have a couple of different bibles. I don't know if you have heard of the Message bible, but it's written in modern day english which makes it a lot easier to understand. This is Proverbs 28:23 out of the Message: In the end, serious reprimand is appreciated far more than bootlicking flattery.
And this is from the NIV: Whoever rebukes a person will in the end gain favor rather than one who has a flattering tongue.
I hope this helps...email me if you would like.
2006-11-30 15:01:42 · answer #3 · answered by crossn2theblu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell the truth to the person that the behavior is wrong.( rebuke ) Not tell him what he does is ok and doesn`t matter. ( flatter ) The man won`t like it but later will realize you were correct and feel good about his change. ( afterwards find favor in you)
I think most of the answers here are correct. Though different in situations from sinners to bosses to friends it all works out the same.
Thanks for making me ponder over it.
2006-11-30 15:06:29 · answer #4 · answered by Gone Rogue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My version of the Bible reads:
He who rebukes a man will in the end gain more favor than he who has a flattering tongue.
It is talking about truth versus lies. Honest speaking versus someone being two-faced.
I hope I helped. I quit using the King James Version because it is complicated. That is why I have one that speaks more in terminology we use today without changing the meaning.
Happy Holidays.
2006-11-30 15:01:52 · answer #5 · answered by makeitright 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Picture this - your boss is doing something that's wrong, and it will end up costing him in the long run. Everybody else is a "kiss-up" and tells him how smart he is to think outside the box. You take him aside (because you're goal isn't to embarrass him, but to help) and tell him how it's wrong, and will end up in trouble if he does it.
Later, when he needs real, truthful advice - who's he gonna call?
2006-11-30 15:00:38 · answer #6 · answered by teran_realtor 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The person that is being rebuked is better than if he is being flattered
Basically, it is saying rebuke the person is better than flatter him so that he can learn and be wise.
2006-11-30 14:58:48 · answer #7 · answered by Webballs 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its better to be blunt and tell someone the truth about their sin than to sugar coat it to make them feel good about themselves.
2006-11-30 14:58:18 · answer #8 · answered by james.parker 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell the truth,,even if it hurts.
2006-11-30 14:57:45 · answer #9 · answered by neil r 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be horrible to people, not nice
2006-11-30 15:02:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋