about 5 months ago i turned 18 and my girlfriend was 16. i told her she should see people more her own age.we had been dating months. i came back the very next day with her favorite cd(mariah carey)and some flowers.she took me back. about a month ago she calls me and says she needs time.she calls back the next dayasking me back.all's good for about aweek when she does it again same exact thing as last time.she has done this 4 other times since then? what's going on? please answer because i am planning christmas eve date and would like tomake my relationship stable again. ladies please answer because us men cant understand the way you think. thank you.
2006-11-30 06:51:09 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
why dont u ask her wats wrog with her??? that will help u alot
2006-11-30 07:21:12 · answer #1 · answered by can u ♥ moi? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you turned 18 and told her that she should see other people her own age, you clicked something in her. She was stable with you and felt comfortable with you and when you did that, she became weary of you. And she started thinking that maybe you did that because you didn't want her anymore. She is still unsure of the two of you. She loves you, but she is scared to get 'comfortable' with you again because she doesn't want YOU to do that again.
If you love her, and you realize that saying that to her was dumb because you do WANT her, then you need to write her a letter, or sit down and tell her that. Let her know how sorry you are for ever suggesting that in the first place, that you realized that wasn't what you wanted and thats why you came back to her with flowers and her favorite CD. That if she is 'unsure' of whether she wants to be with you then she needs to say so, otherwise, you miss the stability you and her had in the begining and want that back. No more wishy washy thoughts and feelings. Let her know that she doesn't have to ever worry about you suggesting something like that again because you love her and you WANT to be with her.
Give her the confidence back in your relationship that she once had with you and all of this will go away..... Blessed be........
2006-11-30 07:01:15 · answer #2 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's young and immature. Unfortunately, you also opened the flood gates of making this behavior ok when you broke things off with her, and then asked her back again.
Her doing it 4 times or 6 times or whatever... it's time for you to take a stand. Tell her you want to be with her, and have a stable relationship. If she can't provide that for you, or is unwilling to stop the games, it's time to move on. Confrontation of a problem, and honesty are good things.
2006-11-30 06:56:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First? You're an idiot. I mean, c'mon, man! Women want to be romanced and treated really well! Not told we aren't "mature" enough or whatever.
Second, you're going to need to pull in some heavy artillery. Meaning? All the stops...gifts, flowers, poems, sappy movies and songs...most of all though, talk to her. Tell her exactly what you want, why you want it and what you'll do to have it. Communication tops everything.
2006-11-30 06:56:10 · answer #4 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's 16, she doesn't understand yet. Unfortunately, you have to be the bigger man and let that go. If you like being used as a yo-yo then by all means stay with her. Find someone with maturity enough that you can relate to. Don't let anyone treat you like a yo-yo, you deserve better.
2006-11-30 06:55:08 · answer #5 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she just wants you to know how she felt when you broke up with her. You have to let her know that enough is enough and tell her you love her and want to be with her but she has to stop breaking up with you all the time because it is going to ruin your relationship. I would just try to tell her you know how it feels and you are sorry for what you did
2006-11-30 06:55:24 · answer #6 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think she cant make up her mind i think that she might have some else on the side and he probably plying games with her so that's why she keep coming back and forth that's just what i think i would really talk to her ask her whats going on with her and you are young if she continues even after you talk to her i would really just move on
2006-11-30 06:54:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is underage.....dont have sex because that is statuatory rape and if you get caught you may have a different kind of date in "the pokey" and they dont call it the pokey for nothing
2006-11-30 06:57:39 · answer #8 · answered by xovenusxo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess she wasn't sure if she wanted to be with you before and now she does.
2006-11-30 06:54:41 · answer #9 · answered by KerryAnn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is crazy, dump her.
2006-11-30 06:53:20 · answer #10 · answered by chris s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋