what would you do if your boyfriend asked you to marry him but you don't know how you will get to see him cause your going to collage i said yes is that the right thing i realy do love him he is my life.
2006-11-30 06:35:54 · 7 answers · asked by lover_gurl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
An engagement is a serious step in planning a future together. It seems he asked you to marry him as insurance to keep you tied to him while you go to college, without understanding the implications. I think you should give back the ring and wait until you finish school before making life-long commitments to a person. Especially if you won't see him.
2006-11-30 06:43:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen. You're not married yet. You're just engaged. I mean, I'm glad you're taking the engagement seriously, 'cause it probably means you'll take marriage seriously later on. I'm just saying that if something goes south during the engagement, then at least it's not as bad as if you'd already gotten married.
Why wouldn't you get to see him in college? You're going away and he's staying here or going away somewhere else? How long is that going to be? Honestly, my first thought is that he proposed to you because he doesn't want to lose you while you're gone. And while that's very sweet, there's still room in both your lives for some fundamental differences to creep in over the next few years. Especially if you go to college and he doesn't.
Anyway. So you're engaged right now, and you're going away to college. Tell him that you want the wedding as a graduation present. Long engagements aren't unheard of, especially in a situation like this, and again, if something fundamentally changes and things go south, at least it was during the engagement.
2006-11-30 14:44:50 · answer #2 · answered by Katie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband actually proposed to me while i was away at college and while he was in the army. If you love eachother that much nothing will get in the way. Be engaged, wait till your done with school for the wedding, besides it takes a lot of time and money to plan a wedding. Theres nothing wrong with being in college and engaged. Good Luck and Congrats on the engagement!
2006-11-30 14:50:57 · answer #3 · answered by ELW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said Yes. If you are planning on marring him after college you will work out the details on seeing eachother. You will have holiday's and phone calls. You have to trust love and if you don't you might want to tell him you can not marry him....
2006-11-30 14:40:02 · answer #4 · answered by Wilma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he really loves you then he would not want you to get married so soon, he would want you to finish college. IF your love is for real, then it will still be there after college.
2006-11-30 14:39:21 · answer #5 · answered by lisa29212 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I wouldn't have said yes ...especially if it might put your education in danger.
2006-11-30 14:41:52 · answer #6 · answered by gurly_gurl_8588 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run!
marry him.things will be adjest if you both love eachother
2006-11-30 14:48:39 · answer #7 · answered by UnderstandingLife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋