she is 26 years old.
she was very close to her dad they did everything togeather
2006-11-30 06:27:24 · 8 answers · asked by sprit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Steer her to focus ONLY on the positive memories she had with him. Try not to let her to think about the fact he's gone, but if she does allow her her crying time-you could hold her, perhaps--while she lets it all out.
Then help her bring up all the wonderful memories she may have, you could question her what influences he had, what she's learned, why she's such a good person because of him.
She's still grieving and needs this to get over it.
2006-11-30 06:40:26 · answer #1 · answered by Hayseedless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the hardest things I ever experienced was losing my brother, he was like my son. He was my best friend, he was good. And the way he was killed was so unfair. So on top of his death, I dealt with him being killed.
What I have learned: That the memories I carry in my heart or those of good times, Those are the ones he would want me to remember. I know what kind of person he was and I know he would want me to go on about the business of living. I know he smiles when I smile, even now. I turn negative feelings, of lose and pain into a positive, fighting attitude, for me a well as him. I know he would want me to go ahead. So in his death, I find strengh.
He was killed in 1997, it is not easy, when we lose someone who we are that close to, you relize how permante death is, and it hurts and it hurts bad. But you cannot go back, Gods knows if I could I would bring him back. So I go forward and know he smiles when I smile!
2006-11-30 06:42:14 · answer #2 · answered by dancinintherain 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
letting her be alone is ok sometimes, but she needs comforting, so she really needs you to be there for her. Try doing somthing sweet like sending flowers to her work or wherever she is without you, just to say that you love her!! This will help take her mind off of it and she will love that! If you just keep letting her be alone, she will keep thinking about it, and thats not the best thing for her!
2006-11-30 06:36:29 · answer #3 · answered by smitty4626 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is mourning 5 years later she needs more help than you can provide she needs a counselor skilled in grief therapy
2006-11-30 06:30:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't mean to sound trite but she needs therapy. Anyone who is still THAT upset after five years needs to work it out. It's not your job anymore, she needs a professional grief counselor.
2006-11-30 06:33:45 · answer #5 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for her let her cry and talk to you about her dad. Sometimes talking about the memmories helps.
2006-11-30 06:31:10 · answer #6 · answered by Dolphin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you don't think I'm being mean, but I always tell people, "At least they don't have to go to work anymore!"
2006-11-30 06:31:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her be alone. :)
2006-11-30 06:29:08 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋