This is going to sound horrible. Im 25 married my husband and i decided we were ready to start a family. Well i should know by next week if we succeded this month. heres the kicker im terrified to tell my mother that she is or will be a grandma. any suggestions hes told his mom and well she was asking for grand kids when we were dating. my mom just keeps saying she not ready to be a grandma yet because i have a 6yr old sister.
2006-11-30 06:18:43 · 25 answers · asked by noel22f 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
You know, I can understand your mom. I feel the same way inside now at 37 as I did when I was 20--and she has a first grader! I can guess it would be jarring to hear now you're a grandma! And she isn't even old!!!! Just go to the house & give your mom a little gift that says "world's best grandma" on it or something....she'll come around once she gets over the shock!
2006-11-30 06:52:48 · answer #1 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that ur going to be a mom and if she doesn't like the idea then told talk to her about the subject until later. After u have ur baby then she will be very happy to be a grandma for the firdt time its normal no mother is ready to be a grandma because they think they r old!!
2006-11-30 14:24:10 · answer #2 · answered by Lucy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It should not be when your mom is ready to be a grandmother that you worry about. Having a baby, when you feel you are ready, is an awesome thing. You should feel proud and lucky that you have the ability to carry such a wonderful gift. Your mom will warm up to the idea but just remember that it is your's and your husbands life and your turn to start a family. I hope all works out for you.
2006-11-30 14:23:47 · answer #3 · answered by Jenn L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's gonna be hard. I was 22 when we got pregnant for the first time. We planned to have this baby, and were ready, but it was still really hard telling my own mother. I made my husband do it. haha
So silly when I think back, but my mother was asking for grandbabies...but it's gonna be a shock either way.
This is your life and your baby. Try not to let your mother make you feel insecure about your decision. When you sit her down, say "Mom, I have something to tell you. This is something I want in my life, and me and my husband are having a baby next year..blah blah blah"
Be firm and confident.
She will be surprised, but will quickly get over that! They all do, dear!
Good luck with this, and congrats!
2006-11-30 14:23:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be scared to tell your mom. I'm sure what your mom is scared of is becoming the baby sitter and or feeling obligated to spoil the baby. I'm sure as soon as you tell her that she'll be a grandma she'll be very happy. It might be a good idea to talk to her about why she feels like she isn't ready to be a grandma and respect what she has to say. It sounds like your baby is going to have one Grandma who will be waiting to shower the baby with all kinds of love and gifts, and i'm sure your mom will be happy too...and if not, she'll have 8 more months to get used to the idea... good luck and best wishes.
2006-11-30 14:28:26 · answer #5 · answered by Lena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom has to accept the fact that you are a married adult woman, and though in her eyes you will always be her little girl you have a life of your own now. It's not like you are an unmarried teenager who accidentally got pregnant, you and your husband decided to start and I'm assuming have been planning for a baby. Hopefully your sister will be thrilled to be an aunt.
2006-11-30 14:29:31 · answer #6 · answered by amizuno_forever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's better to tell her the truth that you really want to have kids. After all it's your life also and you should have some say in it. Most probably she would understand. It isn't really your mistake that your mom decided to have your sister when you were actually 19 yrs old!
if by chance you cant tell her the truth, then tell a lie.
Tell her that the rubber was defective and you are not going to have an abortion.
2006-11-30 14:23:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not your mothers decision on when you start your family. When you are with your mother and your sister, ask your sister how she would feel if she was an aunt. When she goes YES!!!, look at your mother and smile. That will let her know that you are happy about the results. There really isn't an easy way to break the news. You just have to get the guts up to do it. Good luck!
2006-11-30 14:22:13 · answer #8 · answered by jdecorse25 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh well! Honestly, my mom got her first grandbaby when I was only 8, so it's not unheard of! I really think once she sees you getting bigger, sees ultrasound pictures and finally sees that baby you (once you were her baby) has made....all feelings will melt and be replaced with love! I really don't know any grandparent that wasn't overcome with love once they saw that baby. She might be flustered, or irritated at first but it will be fine! Tell her nicely, over lunch or a spa day (if you're into that) or even for christmas buy her a Grandma T shirt or something. It will be fine!!
2006-11-30 14:30:20 · answer #9 · answered by angie_laffin927 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, for her, you are a grown woman, and it is not up to her to be "ready" for you. So when you have the good news, share it as exactly what it is "good news". I bet she will really be happy for you even if she feels a little freaked out. Lots of women are not ready for grandparenthood, just because it makes them feel old. But very few seriously want to control what their 25yo married children are doing as far as family planning.
So good luck, with your mom, and with getting pregnant.
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2006-11-30 14:22:53 · answer #10 · answered by leavemealonestalker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋