My brother has been engaged and last minute (three weeks notice) decided to get married with Family Only in London. I'm in Los Angeles. My half sister feels its important for me to go but I don't really want to drop everything and attend. He is also having a big bash in January or February, also in London, I'd rather go to.
Do I need to attend the wedding out of obligation?
2006-11-30 06:12:44 · 19 answers · asked by malibubeach 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I would politely decline the wedding and let him know with such short notice you just couldn't make it but that you will be thinking of him on that special day and that you wouldn't miss the big party in Jan or Feb and you will definitly be there to wish him all the happiness in the world. I would still send him a gift for the wedding so he knows you're thinking of him and also bring another when he has the party later.
2006-11-30 06:54:58 · answer #1 · answered by party_pam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you afford to go and take the necessary time off work without it being a problem/headache? If so, then you probably should go. If not then let them know you wish you could be there to support them, but that you can't plan such a big trip on such short notice. And that you'll definately be there in Jan or Feb. If you don't go, I'd suggest you make sure you send flowers or something special (in addition to a gift) to let them know you're thinking about them on their wedding day.
2006-11-30 09:19:21 · answer #2 · answered by married2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you really should go - he is family. But being that he did do this last minute and you do live pretty far away, I think it would be safe to say that it was unfair of him to do it last minute and expect you to attend.
Send him a nice wedding gift and let him know you will be attending his big bash in Jan or Feb.
2006-11-30 06:15:43 · answer #3 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would be nice, but, no, it is not mandatory. The bride and groom should understand that not everyone has the time or the wherewithall to plan and take an international trip on three weeks' notice. Send a gift and your regrets and attend the January function as planned.
2006-11-30 06:22:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your reasons for not going to the wedding are justifiable. It's not like you're not going out of spite or anything. You can't just spring a wedding on people and expect them to drop everything they're doing, plus get together the money to fly to another country to see them get married. Perhaps if he had taken more time to plan things out, you would have been better prepared.
2006-11-30 06:18:24 · answer #5 · answered by Jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not go to the wedding. Short notice. You have other plans, I'm sure. Just attend the bash next year. There shouldn't be any love lost.
2006-11-30 06:16:07 · answer #6 · answered by peanut44 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would be nice but he should understand three weeks notice is not long enough to plan a vacation that would last at least a week. It is a financial burden. What you might do is send you regrets and tell him you will be able to attend the reception later when you can focus your attention on him and his new wife.
2006-11-30 06:24:29 · answer #7 · answered by fancyname 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you're in the wedding party, which by the sound of things you aren't, I would say no...save you rmoney and attend the huge bash in Jan or Feb. It will be more fun anyways and, being that you're in London, they will understand that you couldn't go to both.
2006-11-30 06:59:42 · answer #8 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you don't "need" to attend the wedding. It all depends on family dynamics, however. I did not make it to my brother's wedding on a short notice (he lives in a different country), and no one held it over my head; our family is reasonable and understanding.
2006-11-30 06:36:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn´t pass up a chance to go to London! Plus, if you go you´ll avoid feeling guilty after everyone gets back and tells you what a wonderful time they had and that you should have gone. Just try to keep a positive attitude about it.
2006-11-30 06:34:45 · answer #10 · answered by Double 709 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋