I have started seeing a Polish guy, and fallen for him BIG TIME. He likes me too, the only problem is his girlfriend, who he left back in Poland six months ago.
She knows about me, and is seeing other guys while they are apart, but she's coming to England in another 6 months.
I don't know what to do.
Should I stay with him in the hope he'll fall for enough to leave her behind for good?
Or get out now before I really start to love him?
I KNOW he really likes me, but they go back nine years on and off(she actually married someone else when they were split last time, but is now with him again)
Half of me wants out to save myself the pain..............but walking away from him will the hardest thing I ever do....especailly as I'll always think 'what if'..................
HELP!
2006-11-30 06:08:19 · 18 answers · asked by CHARISMA 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know I don't know some of you, but you are some ace people....
2006-11-30 06:18:39 · update #1
Have you just asked him. Ask him how he feels for you than ask how he feels about her. Then ask if he had to choose who would it be. if he says he don't know than maybe you should get some space but don't disappear. If you can't handle his feeling for her than you should give ur self some time. Don't be with a man who loves someone else. but if he tells you his feeling for you are stronger than his feeling for her than you stay and fight for him. He seems honest considering he let you both know about each other, so I think he'll be honest about his feelings for the both of you. You Know, even when people love each other they do grow apart and even though they have nine years he may not be the same man and may actually be the one for you now.
2006-11-30 10:31:55 · answer #1 · answered by Spelman Angel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stay with him, ur thinking way too far ahead. in 6 months time you could end up being sick of him and you could be the one who leaves him, whos to say tht in the next 4 months time you could meet someone else. 6 month is a long time away. go out with this guy and just see what happens. i know what you mean by the walking away now though, but hey things could change before then. just enjoy it and dont let it eat up away inside you.
2006-11-30 15:32:41 · answer #2 · answered by ice_castles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, this is as about a serious answer as you'll get from me (just look at some of my other answers and you'll see--and BTW I'm just joking in those which some chick obviously didn't understand which is why she is stalking me like Glenn Close in fatal attraction-she is Whatever299). Where was i? Oh yeah. If you stay in and get hurt, it will hurt bad, real bad, but the pain will eventually go away. It always does. BUT you will at least have a chance. If you leave, you'll ALWAYS wonder what if and you'll have NO CHANCE at happiness with him. Seems like a simple answer to me. Stay in and fight
2006-11-30 17:39:01 · answer #3 · answered by kjhenkel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out now while the going is good, believe me it is not worth the hassle, I have been there. You cannot fight for someone he isn't a prize for the winner he is a free humand being, if he has a girlfriend at home who is coming to Britain in six months time then she is coming for a reason, and it is not you, it is him.
2006-11-30 14:12:34 · answer #4 · answered by stone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are setting yourself up to be hurt big time.
He is using you. He has known his polish girlfriend for nine years, and by all appearances, has only known you for about 6 months. Am I right?
think about it. In whom has the polish guy invested more time?
2006-11-30 17:31:01 · answer #5 · answered by Jack C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why stick with the one guy when he wont stick with the one girl! You really like him and he has someone else on the side yeah he may act like he likes u but i think he is just greedy and is trying to get what he can! Not being tight but get out there while you can you can do better
2006-11-30 14:33:47 · answer #6 · answered by Lipzyy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you are going to have to weigh your odds. If they have been on and off for nine years, there is something there. you may have to give him an ultimatium. If he cannot break it off with her for good and have no contact with her I would get out. As long as she is even slightly in the picture you are always going to have that worry that she will come back and he will leave you for her. That is what I would do. Good luck.
2006-11-30 17:29:20 · answer #7 · answered by May_May 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read and remember this:
Love is everything it's cracked up to be.That's why people are so cynical about it.It really is worth fighting for, being brave for, risking everything for.And the trouble is, if you don't risk everything you risk even more.
This is said by Erica Jong.I think it's more than clear.If you love him fight for him.If not - let him choose and don't waste your time thinking.
2006-11-30 14:14:31 · answer #8 · answered by Jade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell i would if u love him and he is right 4 u
u better go and kidnapp him
and take him 2 america
umm i say go 4 it
u come 2 america ill get u a place 2 say food and money
its ok im not an old stalker guy lol im 14 but i kno people
2006-11-30 14:15:08 · answer #9 · answered by William Chalk 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like they both just use people till there together again. Find somebody single save yourself the hurt.
2006-11-30 14:14:10 · answer #10 · answered by richard_beckham2001 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋