Basically me and my ex girlfriend have broken up 5 times over 3 1/2 years. Does this mean its over. We are talking thru our last break up now, but im just wondering if i should try to make it work or just let her go. I love her with all of my heart and i lose sleep when i dont know where she is or if she is safe. I just hope there isn't too much damage since we've broken up so many times. I broke up with her 3 outta the 5 times. Mostly for very stupid reasons, but now i reallize that it was worth keeping i just hope she feels the same way. What do you guys think......
2006-11-30 06:03:51 · 10 answers · asked by Bman 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can truly understand where you are coming from. I have been with my b/f for 10 years. I have done the breaking up each time. I just had some growing up to do. He always waited for me to come around. Each time I went back, I thought I was making a change. I did the same thing hoping for different results. This time I am doing things differently. We are communicating our feelings to each other. We love each other so just for that mere fact, we are working to keeping in together for good this time. What is odd, is that every time we broke up, we never dated others. I always make sure that I take time for myself to be with friends and him. Hopefully, this will help you. Good Luck!
2006-11-30 06:16:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a pretty normal thing for young people who are just figuring out who they are and how they fit into their families and communities to know exactly everything they want in a long term partner. You and your girlfriend seem to be unstable together right now....probably for no other reason than that you have a lot of pressure on yourselfs trying to determine what your best course of action might be with regard to school, work. places to live, and if you're ready for a more committed relationship at this point in your lives. It's OK. We've all been there and came out of it. Here's some advice:
1. Don't beat yourself up because you're not sure you want to be with your ex anymore.
2. Don't pressure yourself or her into re-entering a relationship - you have enough pressure already.
3. Figure out what the most important thing you can do for yourself would be over the next month. In other words, what is something that you can accomplish over the next 30 days that will really help you. Help you do what?
4. Make three goals. It doesn't matter what they are. Just have three of them. Take Question 3 and figure out how to make them happen.
5. Relax. Ninety percent of the decisions you have to make in life are not that important and are easily changed if you need to. Try something. If it doesn't work, try something else. You'll eventually get to something that kicks cosmic butt and you'll be doing what makes you happy and pays the bills for the rest of your life.
What do you think?
2006-11-30 06:14:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's tough, I know how you feel. Ultimately, you have to make that call. Just consider whether she wants to be with you, whether you guys are compatible, why you broke up in the first place... and if you guys do end up getting back together, try to break up the routine a little, for goodness' sake! Do something different... anything to keep from falling into the same old patterns.
2006-11-30 06:07:11 · answer #3 · answered by Viki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can really work things out this time you might stand a chance. However, when people break up they do stupid things so if two people break up a lot they have done a lot of stupid things. If you want to make it work you are going to have to try very hard to fix things. If you break up again it's time to move on.
2006-11-30 06:07:49 · answer #4 · answered by Venus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys broke up so many times, this means that you just can't let go of each other. So I guess she should know this : "I love her with all of my heart and i lose sleep when i dont know where she is or if she is safe"
What you've written talks enough about itself
;)
2006-11-30 06:12:05 · answer #5 · answered by milena_cub 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see it as a problem, i just think you 2 need to talk each other a bit more and try and sort out the silly things before it gets to the splitting stage.
2006-11-30 06:08:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there. Done that. Time to move on. They call it "Break-up" because it's broken. Too much time & effort required, means it just isn't meant to be.
2006-11-30 06:06:12 · answer #7 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 is the limit...and that is giving the relationship too much...these are signs dont ignore them because if you end up marrying each other in the long run you will only end up in a divorce.
2006-11-30 06:08:52 · answer #8 · answered by jayjay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will both go your own ways again....because your just not into each other.
2006-11-30 06:07:53 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ Becky ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on and don't look back!
Good luck!
2006-11-30 06:06:05 · answer #10 · answered by BlankProfile 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋