There's this girl I'm totally infatuated with. I haven't really seen her in over a month and a half. I ran into her last night. Running over dumb pleasantries she asked me if I wanted to hang out with her today. I said I'd call her. But I don't think she thinks of me in that way. She either just likes my company or really likes teasing and tormenting me. Not sure which. All I know is that I'm usually ruined for four or five days after seeing her. Should I call her. Or should I just stay away. And if I call her should I make a move and force her to reject me. Yeah, I know I should grow a pair. And I usually do except when it comes to this girl.
2006-11-30 05:59:46 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think we both know what you have to do
2006-11-30 06:01:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, so she asked you to hang out, you told her that you would call her. This is my opinion...
You stand by your word first and foremost, you said you would call, so call. Then when you get her on the phone, be honest with her or you can continue to torment yourself.
You see, this is all wrong, first of all if she is the women for you and the women that God has prepared for you, she is not going to reject you. You could be afraid of something that is not even there. Secondly, if she is not the women that God has prepared for you, do you really want to develope a relationship and miss out on that one perfect girl that God has choosen?
If she is right, then it will run smoothly. Have you ever heard of the phrase, "If it dont come easy then let it go"? Trust me, it is true. Be yourself, dont try to impress her. You sound like a great guy and you deserve the best. If she rejects you, then understand one thing, she is not rejecting you as a friend, or as a human, she may have an interest in another person. And who cares if she rejects you? That doesnt mean that your unattractive, or a bad guy, it just means that she is not the one!
You see, when we open ourselves up and allow God to do our choosing, the future is good, oh man is it ever! But when we do our own choosing, we as humans can make some serious mistakes. Can you name one women that has ended up in an abusive relationship? Do you think that God choose that man for her?
It's kind of like pancakes, some like strawberry and others like regular. If she likes regular and you are a delisious strawberry pancake, who cares? Let her go get the regular one and you wait on that perfect honey that loves STRAWBERRY!
Just call her, tell her this," I like you as a friend". But, I want to spend more time with you to see if becomming more than just friends is an option for us. I know that we have been around each other quite a bit, but I have to make sure that we have more in common than we do right now.
This keeps you in the ball park and lets her know this. "You like her, but you are still unsure about her". But, you are willing to spend a little more time with her to see if she is the right honey..
If she says, I only want to be friends, then just be friends with her. At least at this point you will know where you stand and the torment will be over. You can then decide how much time you are willing to spend with her.
If she says yes, I am interested. You have also stopped the torment, you will know where she stands.
I am not sure if forcing a relationship or move is a good idea. You cant force someone to love Strawberry pancakes when they like regular. But its ok. You know who you are and you know your heart. I am FOR certain that if this is not the girl, the right one is on the way.
Remember this as well: God never closes a door unless he opens a biger and better one.
You dont need to settle.. And play no games.. Games lead to torment.
2006-11-30 14:30:24 · answer #2 · answered by sheheart77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if she wants to hang out with you that's great, you should go hang out with her.. See how that goes, watch her and see if she looks into your eyes while you talk to each other. I've noticed that makes a difference between friends and a level above that. She must care about you somehow even if it's less than what you'd want because she wants to spend time with you as well. So even if you make a move and she doesn't want to go anywhere, she'll probably jsut want to be friends.. But on the other side, she may like you back.. So basically what i'm saying is, go hang out with her... see what happens.. and if everything goes well, make a small move.. at a time... Just take your time.. Good luck!
2006-11-30 14:06:56 · answer #3 · answered by Luckystar25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she doesn't have the same feeling for you as you do for her it is better to not see her much.
Yeah sure the time you spend with her will make you feel good but after the day is over and yous both go your separate ways your going to feel sad and its going to be har.
You should get over her and try to find someone else who has the same feelings for you.
Besides being ' infatuated ' with someone can be unhealthy and will just mess you up in the head and hurt you badly.
2006-11-30 14:07:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so hard yourself! My father always told me (and he was quite the lady's man before marriage) that the man determines the course of the man-woman relationship. With that bit of advice in mind, I think you should pursue her with the upfront intention of having her as your girl. If she is not interested in dating and romance, then you have no other choice but to decide to be her friend or not to see her at all. Trust me on this one though: women ALWAYS want the guy they can't get their hooks into. So call her. Ask her on a date you've planned out: like "hey. I like you and wanted to know if you want to do____(be specific)...go to a concert, movie, dinner, etc."
And remember what my father told me: "If he (or she) calls-thank God. If he (she) doesn't - thank God. Good Luck.
2006-11-30 14:11:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
call her and tell her how you feel. If she doesn't feel the same, then you might want to stay away from her until you can be around her without being crushed. Most importantly though....you really should tell her how you feel. It's the only way to get the girl.
2006-11-30 14:03:46 · answer #6 · answered by Amanda SSS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should call her and hang out today....don't make a move, just enjoy her company today...and if you both have fun...see if she wants to hook up this weekend. Don't rush things, let thing progress naturally. Good luck
2006-11-30 14:03:16 · answer #7 · answered by catywhumpass 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You better jump all over that opportunity. Don't let some other fool step without you at least, taking the chance.
2006-11-30 14:02:54 · answer #8 · answered by Justin L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Approach her! And if you're a little bashful, don't worry about it, a lot of girls know why you would be bashful and think it's cute:)
2006-11-30 14:02:32 · answer #9 · answered by Viki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it hurts too much to hang out with her then I wouldn't.
2006-11-30 14:03:23 · answer #10 · answered by Dolphin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋