Please help, I'm getting tired of being like I am. Any advice for me???

Question

I'm 20 m in college studying engineering.
Ever since our family vacation this summer (after we came home) I've been getting depressed (maybe 1 to three times a week for hours at a time). I don't have any friends, I've never been on a date.

I get depressed when I can't distract myself from my feelings and I start to talk myself down inside my head until I'm very sad. Sometimes when I'm lying in bed, my eyes tear up when I think about what my future will be...

Answer 1

Sometimes we are our own worst enemies, we beat ourselves up about the smallest things. Make your mind work for you not against you. Its all in the mind, be positive about things and good things we follow. If you always look at things in a bad light your bound to be depressed. Pick yourself up and start to see the good things in life, even if it is small. If you want things in life you can have them, it just takes determination and will power, because nothing is impossible if you really want it. Believe in yourself and always listen to your truest thoughts.
The human mind is the most powerful tool on the planet, control it, don't let it control you.

Answer 2

hum mm you don't have any friends and never been on a date well that sure would depress me.. have you thought about joining a club at college or doing some volunteer work,, if you don't work get a part time job that is the best way to make friends...i used to go on a chat room at www.talkcity .com there is a depression site there and the chat rooms are free why don't you give it a try .. get your feet wet so to speak by talking to people that cant see you and you cant see them and then maybe you will feel more comfortable talking and meeting new people out side of chat .when i got my divorce i could not leave my house because for 19 yrs i lived with someone who was very controlling and it help me to where i could open up to people i did not know maybe it will do the same for you and good luck

Answer 3

I am 24f and about 3 years ago i got deathly ill. The treatment made me very heavy and also the guy i had been dating at the time (5 years) was cheating on me while i was in the hospital. I went from being very pretty with the perfect bf to being ugly and lonely. Now i am not telling you this to feel sorry for me, but to tell you....
I was the saddest person I knew my friends couldnt look at me my family felt responsible. I couldnt let them know how sad I was anymore, so I threw on a fake smile, dressed walked & talked with confidance. My sarcasm was stronger then ever bc i was deeply angry, but i have never attracted so many people in my life. sometimes even though you are scared of the way people will react to you you have to put yourself out there. Sometimes you have to pretend your happy to become happy. People dont want to be around someone who will bring them down and confidance man if you dont have it in yourself why should anyone else have it in you?
Good luck and take my advice....You can be anything you want and sometimes what you want has its downsides but you can always change to what you want to be at any point. Love yourself....Because you wont be able to love anyone else and no one will be able to love you until you do.

Answer 4

Oh, hun don't worry - I know how you feel. I was depressed for about 2 years and I know it is no walk in the park. Please take my word for it and start talking to a psychologist. When I first started going I was very skeptical, and very shy...it was hard for me to open up - but they know what they're doing and they'll ask all the right questions and you'll figure yourself out in no time. I ended up only going for about 4 months and havn't been back since. I can't tell you enough how much this improved my life. I have been mentally healthier & happier ever since. My psychologist really opened my eyes to my life and what matters etc... Good luck, I wish you the best - life is too short to be sad, enjoy it!

Answer 5

What helped me was going to a psychologist at my college. The first 3 visits where free and then only like 3 dollars after that since I lived on campus. It turns out that I am border line bi-polar and am now on medication. The medication is an anti anxiety one which makes me able to be a more social person and more out going. The meds mixed with weekly counceling sessions really gave me good life skills to be like everyone else and to be happy.

Good luck and I hope you feel better soon. :-)

Answer 6

my advice for you is to stop self doubting yourself, it only makes your feel more miserable. i see from your other answers u are a intelligent, caring person with a good sense of humor. you probably would be a good friend or a person to hang out with. you seem to have confidence since you are in college, but seem to lack confidence in social settings. don't be too hard on yourself, try to think more positive about your self and your life. life can have many rewards for you, you just cant see them now. joining a group can be a good way to make friends. volunteering can also be good and bring up your confidence level. do not lay in bed and think so much, but rather go out and do things to help yourself, although i know it is hard. u may suffer from some form of depression but don't really know. a visit to a counselor would help and they would know if you need more investigation or treatment. good luck to you, i know things can get better for you, perhaps with some self help or other help life can be worth living.

Answer 7

i used to get depressed a lot. i would think about my future and feel like my life was going no where. after a while, you will get sick of feeling that way like i did and do something about it. having no friends will depress anyone. you have to get out there and find out what you like to do. surround yourself with positive people who like the same things you do and you will feel better and feel worthy. maybe you can join a club at school or something. when you are around people, smile and just be you.

Answer 8

YOU ARE 20. MAKE A LIST OF THINGS YOU NEVER DONE BUT WOULD LIKE TO. SUCH AS TRAVEL, SPORTS, OR A SINGLES CRUISE. THEY ARE FUN AND PEOPLE GO TO THEM TO MEET OTHERS.
LIFE IS JOURNEY YOU CHOOSE HOW BIG THE WORLD IS. FOR EXAMPLE YOUR WORLD CAN BE AS BIG AS YOUR ROOM OR AS BIG AS AUSTRALIA OR GERMANY OR ITALY. YOU ARE NOT DOOMED YOU ARE IN CHARGE OF YOUR DESTINY. IF YOU FEEL AS LOW AS YOU CAN THEN THERE'S ONLY ONE WAY TO GO, THAT'S UP! TOMORROW WILL BE A NEW DAY I ASSURE YOU. FEAR NOT. I HAVE BEEN WHERE YOU ARE NOW. THE GOOD TIMES ARE AHEAD NOT BEHIND YOU. BY THE WAY TAKE PHOTOGRAPHIC CLASS I MET A LOT OF INTERESTING PEOPLE THIS WAY AND HAVE FRIENDS ALL OVER THE WORLD NOW.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

there is any ole saying ' garbage in , garbage out' the little voices in your head need to be replaced with better ones . visit thinkrightnow.com to see the differences available.
as for the friends thing you got to make them , better or worse. they don't knock at the door.
see school counselor for some help , depression is a double headed snake.
you can destroy it tomorrow by choice.