Hello,
My sister was in amy wedding party and she did not have me a gift or at least a card. It's been 2 months since the wedding. She is the only one who we didn't receive anything from. Should I send her a thank you note for coming to the wedding with her husband and kids or should I not because I already have her a gift and thank you at the rehearsal dinner. I have to say I am very hurt by this.
2006-11-30 05:53:10 · 16 answers · asked by MichS 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
no you don't need to give her a gift and dont feel hurt ,maybe she's just too busy and didnt find time to call you or contact you!
2006-11-30 05:56:15 · answer #1 · answered by Mysterious 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need not feel obligated to send her on any attendee a thank you card, but anyone who gave you a gift/money/etc. should get a thank you card. Keep in mind that "tradition" and "etiquette" state that people (* even those who did not attend the wedding have a full year to give gifts ( I know it's stupid, I figure if they were going to get you something they would have) My sister in law did not get my husband and I a gift but she traveled very far to attend our wedding, perhaps your sis has a reason, if not, oh well. What matters most was enjoying your special day, a gift can easily be forgotten but the memories of your day with your new spouse and family are eternal, remember whats important!
2006-11-30 09:38:28 · answer #2 · answered by gippen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing about weddings is, gifts are not required. Although everyone loves to get something, even just a card, it isn't required at all...just showing up is a sign of support from guests, so you really shouldn't be hurt by the lack of a present.
Proper etiquette is to send a thank you for attending...no need to mention the husband and kids, just say thank you for helping to celebrate your special day...it made it even more special to have her family there too!
2006-11-30 07:13:34 · answer #3 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First.. YES. Always thank anyone who atttends. Second... don't be so sure that you didn't get a gift. While it's possible that she didn't give one, it's also possible that she thought she did, and is waiting for you to thank her for it. Cards/checks get lost, gift cards fall off gift boxes, mail order items sometimes don't arrive.. and lastly.. mistakes and oversights happen.
So.. yes. send a thank you.. but feel free to open a dialogue about the gifts you DID get. That should lead to asking about her gift, or the reason behind the lack of a gift. You may be surprised where that conversation goes. Either way, if you're hurt by the lack of a gift, you'll be further hurt by the lack of clarity behind it. Don't let it simmer, just have the conversation... and send a thank you for her attendance.
2006-11-30 06:01:10 · answer #4 · answered by jackwasthere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she didn't feel like she needed to give you a gift.None of our wedding party gave gifts, they spend so much money on dresses/tuxes, getting their hair done and other wedding related things. Why should they spend more on a gift when they already spent all that money for YOU? Be the bigger girl and give them a thank you for coming note to her family.
2006-11-30 06:02:15 · answer #5 · answered by Stephanie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Proper etiquette does not dictate that you send a thank-you just for attending. You could thank her for being in your wedding party. She has 6 months to give you a gift, so maybe wait a little longer.
2006-11-30 07:17:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My policy is treat others the way you would want to be treated. Now although she did not give you a gift or even a card it would be nice of you to maybe thank her for taking time out to be a part of your very important day. I'm sure it meant a lot to you to have your sister at your wedding, so thanking her for just being their would be nice...I dunno thats just my opinion.
2006-11-30 06:06:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you do not need to send her a thank you note. If she ever gets round to giving you a wedding present, THEN you send her a thank you note.
2006-11-30 23:19:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you should thank her for coming to the wedding it's better than a gift!
2006-11-30 05:59:47 · answer #9 · answered by lisa 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If its a gift yes. If its a card no
2006-11-30 06:34:44 · answer #10 · answered by MEHNAZ B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋