I have had sex with two different partners now and it has been uninspiring with both of them. My current boyfriend is pretty experienced and his last girlfriend had multiple orgasms during sex, so evidently I am the one with the problem. To be honest, I have yet to find anything remotely enjoyable about it. If we use enough lube then it doesn't hurt, but it doesn't feel good either. I always find myself just wanting it to be over. He can't get me off "manually" either. I really really like this guy and I don't want to hurt his feelings but I also don't want to fake it.
Does sex actually feel good for women? What can I do to make it feel better? Also, any tips on foreplay?
2006-11-30 05:42:07 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is actually quite big, and I don't care so much about the orgasm as I do just about it feeling good.. I want to at least enjoy it and not just lay there like a mannequin. I have tried being on top but that didn't really help either.
I think I'm just broken.
2006-11-30 05:49:18 · update #1
Foreplay: Keep at it untill you are wet (Not getting wet could be you have a condition, see tyour doctor, or you are too young for sex, stop immediately)
Sex should be enjoyable for both partners, but if your partner rushes too fast you can get hurt. Also see your gynocologist. my wife found that I can't get her off in a certain postion due to an inverted unterus, but certain positions work in seconds for her.
Be patient tlak to a doctor, and just take it easy next time.
2006-11-30 05:46:26 · answer #1 · answered by cisco_cantu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only circumcising your son will effect him the rest of his life... you can always get circumcised in the future if that's what you want but after it;s done you can't undo it. Why are they showing you circumcision in health class? That's my question, I think that goes a little far for a school. I'm against. I was circumcised as a baby and will always resent my parents for it. It's not a parents decision to be making, it's each male's. It's not anyone's body but the childs so it's HIS choice. A circumcision takes away a TON of sensitivity. Since restoring my foreskin I have doubled my sensitivity and I can' t get beack everything that was lost. So circumcision takes away about half or more of a man's pleasure. Also there are no medical benifits.. we have showers in this country. Cleaing a foreskin is very simple and doesn't take a lot of work. There is no need to remove the body part. Body parts belong to the person they are attached to, not anyone else. They should not be removed on a minor unless there is a SEVERE medical reason which is encredibly rare. Untill then why deprive a child of a body part just because something MIGHT happen. I mean I'm not going to have all my teeth removed because I MIGHT need to have denchers one day. No I'm going to take care of my teeth to prevent that and enjoy my teeth before they have to be removed. Removing something from your body because somday it might cause a problem really makes no logical sense. -Connor
2016-05-23 05:23:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does to me, maybe you just require a little more foreplay or a different position or even a different approach. Some women requir it to be slower and more gentle and then some need it to be a little more on the rough side. Have you tried being on top? You'll have more control to movement and such. I'm sure if you just keep experimenting you'll fine what pleases you and I don't recommend faking it, most men once they find what you like will continue that practice. Good luck, I know how frustrating it must be. If you'd like to send me a message through email feel free, I won't go into a lot of detail in an open forum, hope you understand.
2006-11-30 05:51:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know that this is going to sound kind of weird coming from a guy, but he could be too large. some women like it bigger, but some don't. If he is not hitting the g-spot then he's really not doing you any good and if it's too big there is no room for it to shall I say, "Move around" to get to the g-spot. You might also see if he will preform oral sex with you. I don't mean necessarily you as much as him on you. There are a lot of wonder full things a man can do with his tongue that he can't always do with his slong. Good luck ladies.
2006-11-30 06:52:06 · answer #4 · answered by golden rider 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have a problem. I had sex over two hundred times before I reached my first orgasm and I was married at the time. I thought that sex wasn't a big deal and it actually didn't interest me that much. I started watching porn because I wanted to get some tips and that didn't help either. The first time I had an orgasm was when I discovered the art of masturbation. I had to learn to please myself before a man could please me. I needed to learn my body and learn what excites me.
You can buy toys to help you masturbate. That was over ten years ago. Today, I enjoy every aspect of sex because I know where I want to be touched and how I like to be touched.
2006-11-30 05:52:05 · answer #5 · answered by Inez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, sex feels good to lots of girls...
Here's a tip: foreplay, foreplay, foreplay!! And don't just lay there, be active.
ivillage.com has lots of articles/tips, here's some for foreplay:
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sextechnique/topics/0,,4th6,00.html
and some for orgasms:
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sexorgasm/topics/0,,4thf,00.html
2006-11-30 05:48:58 · answer #6 · answered by F.J. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it does feel good, great actually with mine. Try using different toys if you're into that or different positions. Maybe you should take control and do yo' thang! Go for it you only live once and if you really like him you should try new things! Good Luck!
2006-11-30 05:47:14 · answer #7 · answered by tite eyez 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if this is a chore for you, then yes some thing is wrong.Because all good sex starts in the mind, and goes from there, so if your mind set is such that there is no mood, no urge, no desire, all i can recommend is for you to talk to a councillor as you might be blocking your sexuality or your needs and perhaps find you answer
2006-11-30 05:48:44 · answer #8 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be the same way. The best thing I can tell you is to just let yourself go and don't even think or worry about it. Worrying can cause even more problems than you think. You should be able to enjoy it if you just let yourself go and relax.......doing it doggie might help too.
2006-11-30 06:08:27 · answer #9 · answered by tinytinkbell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes sex is actully good but there are reasons that you may not be getting where you want to go. If you want to talk im me
2006-11-30 05:45:48 · answer #10 · answered by Belinda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋