My bf & i have been dating for just over a year. He's wonderful there is just one flaw ... he seems to becoming controlling or obsessive. He wants me to change the following: stop drinking, stop going out, if i go out we must both be together "as a couple". He doesn't like me going out with certain friends.
I have done somethings that I said to him i wouldn't ever do again & he did catch me red handed - so i understand the trust issue! But get over it! I said i was sorry & wouldn't do it again!
I've recently left the country to spend xmas with my folks. We'll be apart for 3 months. While i'm away he expects: an email everyday stating what i've done, an sms everytime a) i go to bed b) i wake up c) when i leave the house d) when i get home. If he doesn't hear from me in about 8 hours- he freaks out & starts asking if i have done somethign wrong & if i have something to tell him!
I would like to put my foot down b4 this gets out of control!
How would u go about this situation??
2006-11-30 05:41:21 · 12 answers · asked by angelface 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wow he is controlling. I do understand why he dont want you to drink and go out with out him cause alcohol tends to make you do silly stupid crazy things (been there done that) But my god you said you were sorry you are not his kid he either needs to grow up and give you a little freedom or you need to find a new man cause it wont get any better it will only get worse pretty soon you wont even be able to walk down the street and look at another guy without you being acused of sleeping with them. Yeah i would end it if i were you. Do it while your gone on vacation so you will have time to get over it.
2006-11-30 05:50:39 · answer #1 · answered by tcameron_2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me just say that I have been there, I know why he is doing this to you, now I didn't take it to that extreme, but certainly was a little controlling. Trust is a vital issue in relationships, and when you broke that, he now worries all the time. I think the best way is to have a heart to heart with him, and tell him from your heart that you mean what you say. You know you were wrong, and made some mistakes, but now is different. If that is truly in your heart, I don't know, but I do know that if this doesn't get fixed soon, then the relationship is doomed. It happened to me, and I couldn't take the worrying and all that garbage anymore.
2006-11-30 05:45:55 · answer #2 · answered by Light Bringer 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should put your foot down....then put your other foot in front of it and walk away. You are not ready to be in a committed relationship. He wants a more conservative woman. That, you never will be. Why torture him. Be your own person and he will eventually see the light and leave.
2006-11-30 05:46:53 · answer #3 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is probably thinking that you might be cheating or the way he figures it you maybe to good lokking and he is afraid to lose you to some other man so he feels that if he stay syrict on you he can't lose you but that is wrong because the tighter he holds on the more you are going to pull away and he is going to lose you
2006-11-30 05:45:04 · answer #4 · answered by tyree_dickerson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am hearing the bells of warning. This kind of behaviour from your bf spells trouble. Read up on domestic abuse and then make your own mind up on where you see this relationship going!
2006-11-30 06:20:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, first of all you can't tell him to get over it you said you were sorry and will never do it again. you already told him you wouldn't do it again and he caught you red handed. you saying you won't do it means nothing. sounds to me like you have lost his trust and the only way to get it back is to prove yourself. actions speak louder than words.
2006-11-30 05:46:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just put your foot down... Tell him to back off that he is being to much...
He should repect your wishes... If not, kick him to the curb cause your relationship will not last...
Just tell him how you feel...
Good luck!!!
2006-11-30 05:45:56 · answer #7 · answered by Milkywayman22 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its already out of control. The man has issues!!!! Get away before his power trip turns to abuse, if it already hasn't.
2006-11-30 05:44:36 · answer #8 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I just wonder what you did wrong so he got so suspicious and insecure. You never mentioned that.
2006-11-30 05:47:19 · answer #9 · answered by ladysorrow 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your gonna put up with this then you get whatever you have coming......Within 2 years he'll be kicking your @$$!
2006-11-30 05:45:20 · answer #10 · answered by Karen 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋