My boy friend is a most wonderful person in this earth.It has been 1.8 months.I am 28 and under serious pressure from my parents for marriage. Which always force me to talk to people my parents suggests.My bf never said that he loves me, its me who says I want to be with him.He asked me to change myself little bit so that I will look good.I will do everything for him.I am a avg looking well settled girl and a perfect match for him.He too love me,but never said. I never gave a single chance to miss me.Now when I am asking for marriage, he wants to come but not being forcefylly. which I also dont want. I want him to be happy. He says go to other guy which will make him jealous and he might come back. But I am not able concentrate any where. Some times he doesnt belive me. He says hw can u love me so much and I am not getting a little feelings. I feel he has, he calls me so late when he feels alone, he needs me. Just that he is not realising.I dont want a single tear in his eys.Plz help
2006-11-30 05:40:56 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First, this guy is asking you to change your looks. IF he truly loved you for WHO YOU ARE, he would not tell you to change your looks in order to look good. Next, he is asking you to see other men . those are both red flags and I suggest that you be very careful. Perhaps this is not the answer that you wanted, but it is the truth. Those are huge red flags.
I see a red flag from you too, I think that you are stuck on the one person because you are feeling the pressure to get married.
Be careful! My suggestion, start looking for other guys, start dating other people and looking for something better
This guy sounds insecure especially if he does not believe things that you are saying. That is another red flag, you will want someone who trusts you and has confidence in you
Just be careful! I am not telling you what to do, I am just giving you advice.
I married a guy with similar behavior I divorced him 9 months later because he turned out to be abusive. My life was a living hell.
2006-11-30 05:49:19 · answer #1 · answered by HappyCat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this guy is seriously using you. if someone loves you they wouldn't want u to change a single thing about u and they would definately let u know that they love u without hesitation! pull urself togeher and grow a back bone, i know this sound mean but if him openly using u isn't enough for us people to read, its u acting like this guy is as important as the perious oxygen u breath. ur only there as someone to fall back on. open ur eyes woman i'm only 19yrs old and i can see straight through someone i never even saw. GET UR **** TOGETHER!
this is tough love ok. life is not a bed of roses cinderella! get back to the real work.
2006-11-30 13:49:48 · answer #2 · answered by Blue Petals 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a total loser and your parents suck for pressuring you to marry. Only YOU know what makes you happy and when you are ready for this kind of life altering move.
Your boyfriend is playing and will probably never marry you. You are wayyy too needy girl. Get your head out of the clouds and find a man who will love and respect you and NEVER ASK YOU TO CHANGE anything about yourself for him.
2006-11-30 13:44:41 · answer #3 · answered by stacye5398 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey girl, its your life and nobody has the right to tell you when to marry or not. Do not be over dependent on this guy and have a little believe in yourself. Let the love bird loose, if it comes back to you, it means that you belong together if not, you are not mean't for each other.
2006-11-30 13:48:15 · answer #4 · answered by Melody 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you know that no one will probably wont answer this or maybe i am wrong but i don't even get what you are saying so what about that guy is he avoiding you or something? may be you said the wrong thing maybe he is not ready for that and if that is the case then one day he will come to you and say what is brothering hem.
2006-11-30 13:48:44 · answer #5 · answered by o0jas is the name0o 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to marry you.
If he does not have a reason or responce for you. Leave him
2006-11-30 13:53:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just dont rush into anything.... he might not be the one for you.... you should love your self more than you love him.
2006-11-30 13:45:08 · answer #7 · answered by whitwhit ♥ u!!! 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋