I have a severe problem. I have a husband of 5 years, and over the 5 yrs he thought things were great, but i didnt. I was unhappy becuase I thought that he didnt love me very much considering ever time we fought he would call me every name in the book, and say things that are better left unsaid. after a fight he is completely normal and doesnt apologize. Later when my best friend of 6 yrs, and is 6 yrs younger than me, by the way, but i REALLY care for him. I think i might be in love with him, but my husband realizes his bad ways and wants to redeem himself, but i dont know if its too late or not. I have a huge grudge (so to speak) against him, but yet i also still love him. but I dont know if i am in love with him. He is established with a job, the other is young but already knows exactly what he wants. how do i know im not in love wth my husband nemore? i have always loved my best friend, but same is for my husband. how do i decide which one is better for me?
2006-11-30 05:38:47 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Keep the Husband, and have a little on the side.
2006-11-30 05:40:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I feel that if you have to ask...You already have the answer. I have been answering questions like this all day. I feel that you may just love your husband. You are not in love with him. You are holding grudges against him and I can not see that as love. And why take abusive language? It doesn't sound like to me that he even love you! Have a long, tell-all- talk with him and see where you both stand. If you like most of the way that he has been treating you, than stay with him.
And by the way...age doesn't mean much if you love the person. So you're doing a Stella? (Younger Man) What's up with that if you are married? Maybe he knows about that!
2006-11-30 05:48:34 · answer #2 · answered by Child of God 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you and your husband have kids? No? Then pack up and move on. One thing I have learned is that people NEVER change. NEVER, EVER. If you cannot live with the way he is now, this is what you will deal with for the rest of your life.
I do not know if your friend is the one you really love or not, it may just be you wanting to love someone and he is the one that accepts it. Regardless, it sounds like your hubby is not the one for you.
If there are kids involved then you have an entirely different problem.
2006-11-30 05:42:54 · answer #3 · answered by Jeffrey H 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go get personal counseling so they can help you put everything in prospective. How about marriage counseling it could help you and your husband lay everything out in the open and help you communicate better . You need some kind of guidance to help you in determining the right choices. Otherwise you make regret making a wrong one down the road.
2006-11-30 05:51:26 · answer #4 · answered by daydreamer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Quite simple. Imagine the two men are in separate glass containers. Each container has a vent attached to a tube that is attached to toxic gas. Two buttons are in front of you, one for each man. You have a choice, and you must make it in 10 seconds. Press no button, and the gas automatically gets pumped in to both containers, and both men die. Or, press one button and it will close off the vent for that person you choose, and he will live. Your choice.
2006-11-30 05:47:15 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As young as I am, I know I can't say I have experience, but I'm telling you. You better stay with your husband. You know the one who stood beside you when you took a vow beforew "God and these witnesses" until death do you part. thats serious stuff. If you want a blessed relationship, you better stay were your at.
2006-11-30 05:57:56 · answer #6 · answered by Justin L 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you knew that you loved the person you wouldnt be asking your self.
2006-12-02 23:40:57 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋